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beejay08
Jun 14, 2008, 07:21 PM
I have been married for 18yrs. We have three teens ages 18, 17, and 15. I know the children love me but my husband teaches the children to disrespect me disobey me, he says that he's a christian and because I want obey him he will never give me a divorce and will not ever teach the children to love or respect me. He knows that using the children does hurt me so he uses them. He is very controlling,disrespectful and uses mental and verbal abuse to keep us in his control. My family and friends have disowned me because I won't leave him. I have no resources or safe place to turn with the children.
Thought of fleeing the state or country but afraid he will find us any advice please HELP.

Fr_Chuck
Jun 14, 2008, 07:24 PM
Why will you not leave him? First no he is not a christian if he is not loving you as he loves the Lord.

Wondergirl
Jun 14, 2008, 07:33 PM
three teens ages 18, 17, and 15. I have no resources or safe place to turn with the children.
Check the phone book or Internet. There is a crisis 800 number or even a local crisis hotline for your area. Please call it. The person who answers is trained to find ways to help you and your teens.

If you can't find a phone number, please contact me through this site with your location information, and I will give you numbers to call.

Trandy
Jun 14, 2008, 07:35 PM
Safeplace - freedom from violence (http://www.safeplaceolympia.org)
Try this site... and good luck on your future

beejay08
Jun 14, 2008, 07:35 PM
He Threatened To Kill Me And My Children Would Think I Ran Away And Left Them He Knows I Have No Where To Go For Safety.

Wondergirl
Jun 14, 2008, 07:38 PM
Yes, you do. Your children are not babies. They are nearly adults. Once you are out of the house and safe, you can get help for your children.

Can you use a phone without one of the children tattling on you?

Trandy
Jun 14, 2008, 07:42 PM
Go To My Link above!! You are talking on-line right now... that's what they do! They will protect you all I Promise!!

Trandy
Jun 14, 2008, 07:46 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/divorce/divorced-but-stayed-together-226911.html
Look what's happened to her!
You've got to do something

beejay08
Jun 14, 2008, 07:57 PM
I will go to the site now Thanks Trandy..

Trandy
Jun 15, 2008, 01:54 PM
I will go to the site now Thanks Trandy..
I sure hope beejay got the help she needed!. the world can be an awful place at times.

liz28
Jun 17, 2008, 03:51 PM
You can call 1800-799-7233, they help with relocating, counseling, finanically, shelter, everything with open hands. You don't have to stay, leave now, while you can!

liz28
Jun 17, 2008, 03:59 PM
Wanted to add this number 1-800-656-hope
Or websites
MotherJones.com | Home - Daily News, Political Commentary and Analysis (http://www.motherjones.com)
www.feminst.org/911/crisis
The above numbers are 24/7 and websites help women with relocated and numbers to private/state agencies that help/provide shelter, counseling, financial assistance, court, etc

Help that helped you as well!

N0help4u
Jun 17, 2008, 04:14 PM
As Fr_chuck said he is not a Christian he is a control freak using God's name to intimidate you.