View Full Version : I want you to want me!
pinky32442008
Jun 11, 2008, 10:50 PM
I am still in love with my ex boyfriend. Honestly I want him back, I have done everything to get him back but for some reason he won't budge. I want to make him want me. I want to make him think of me and I don't know how to do that. I know only he can do that but I wish there was something I could do to help you know. I just want to make myself more appealing to him. He says he loves me and all that so I know its going to get to him. If you guys have any suggestions please let me know! Thanks
Mom of 2
Jun 11, 2008, 11:18 PM
He is your ex boyfriend and he says that he still loves you? That is not normal and I think that he is playing with your head. Just know that you can never make anyone do anything. You need to focus on yourself and not feel the need to depend on someone else to make you happy.
JBeaucaire
Jun 11, 2008, 11:44 PM
Loving you at a basic level and being able to actively LOVE you like a boyfriend... BIG difference.
Since you know you can't make him do anything or change, you have no choice but to move on. The best way to "get him" is to not need him to be happy. When you're in the middle of your next meaningful relationship and you realize how much healthier it is to be with someone who is actually into YOU, you'll be a winner.
Guidostern
Jun 12, 2008, 12:25 AM
JB and Mom are right... You need to start worrying about you for a while. Spoil yourself a little... No matter how much he says he loves you, he may not love you the way you love him as JB says. Make sure that you don't waste too much time chasing false hopes... it will just drain the life right out of you.
Hang out with friends that maybe don't know him... it will help. While I did just restore my relationship, which was going to fail because of something I did wrong - I have also lost a marriage.
Of course you know it hurts and you will do ANYTHING to get that feeling back from your partner... but if he's not willing to budge, there's not much you can do. The best thing you can do if you truly believe there is a chance, is give him some space... believe it or not, absence does make the heart grow fonder... you just got to give it some time. Don't call, text message, or email him for a while... wait for him to call you... if this is meant to be, he will call you or something to let you know.
Just do whatever you have to... listen to a new type of music, watch movies you never seen together and so on... this might help you keep him out of your mind. Since you want to make yourself more appealing to him, don't appear to be needy... that's a huge turn off to most people... show him that you can remain strong without him.
Good luck.. I hope the best for you.
Morteza
Jun 12, 2008, 02:12 AM
I just give you the best way! Love just Exist! Nothing else, go to him and tell him, Hey I love you boy, I wan you to come back, please think of that! Be true blue! Honest! If he didn't want to, don't worry! Another guy will love you more than yourself in a near future! Don't trust so much on your feelings. Try to be logical! Feelings are just like a bird going anywhere! They may come and they may not come and they may die for ever!
Try to have a control on your feelings! Don't be proud of yourself! And if you really love him! Go and tell him! Don't be proud! ;)
talaniman
Jun 12, 2008, 04:54 AM
You may want him back, but he doesn't want you so stop wasting time trying to figure out how to change his mind. Leave him alone and get a life that brings you happiness without him. Love yourself enough to keep your dignity and self respect, and leave him alone.
kulek
Jun 12, 2008, 05:00 AM
Stop wasting your time. He will come back if he wants.