OK I'm 17 years old I've been trying to have a baby for about 2 months, and nothing is working...
What is the best way to get pregnant?

1. Finish High School.
2. Go to college.
3. Get a good job.
4. Meet a guy who ALSO has a good job.
5. Put some money in savings because babies are EXPENSIVE, and I don't want to pay for yours with my taxes
6. Get married
7. Tell your OB/GYN during the checkup that you've been getting EVERY YEAR that you would like to try to conceive
8. Track your ovulation
9. Have sex a couple days BEFORE you are due to ovulate.
10. Consult with your doctor again if you are still having difficulties conceiving after a year.

This plan should only take you 6-7 years to complete, by which time you will have grown up enough to not be completely ticked off at my advice.

BAHAHAHA! My thoughts exactly Synnen! I mean really, 17? Did someone dare you? :rolleyes:

We need some details here. Like why would you be trying to have a baby at 17? Are you fully prepared to support it?

I thought if you were 17, all that was really needed was to pass a sperm through the room. I remember when I was a kid, a "good girl" got pregnant. The way she explained it was by saying it must have happened at the swimming pool. Some stray sperm wandered into her swim suit.

When I was 9, I believed that sort of thing could happen.

I may be way old fashioned, but shouldn't 17 years olds be worried about things like prom and college?

Wow umm... I think I might be here for some support! I am 17 and have a 1yr old and twins on the way and my boyfriend has a 2yr and I am the mom in the whole situation I take care of our kids and my pregnancy and my little brother. Age has very little to do with this... and no ones taxes are paying for my kids or my parents! My boyfriend has a great job and we have plenty of money for us and our kids... and I am only 17 and he is 20... so if you believe that you have a good job a safe home for you and this baby that you want, and you think you are going to be able to support you and this baby then go for it just make sure that this pregnancy is the most important thing and be ready for a change of life and a rough time because being a mother is hard on every woman especially for us young ones

Wow umm.... I think I might be here for some support! I am 17 and have a 1yr old and twins on the way and my bf has a 2yr and I am the mom in the whole situation I take care of our kids and my pregnancy and my little brother. Age has very little to do with this... and no ones taxes are paying for my kids or my parents! My bf has a great job and we have plenty of money for us and our kids ... and I am only 17 and he is 20.... so if you believe that you have a good job a safe home for you and this baby that you want, and you think you are going to be able to support you and this baby then go for it just make sure that this pregnancy is the most important thing and be ready for a change of life and a rough time becuase being a mother is hard on every woman expecially for us young ones


Babygirl- While I think it is great that you can support yourself and your children, I would have to say that you are an exception to the rule.

OP:
What is the rush, why not live a little before having a baby?

Wow umm.... I think I might be here for some support! I am 17 and have a 1yr old and twins on the way and my bf has a 2yr and I am the mom in the whole situation I take care of our kids and my pregnancy and my little brother. Age has very little to do with this... and no ones taxes are paying for my kids or my parents! My bf has a great job and we have plenty of money for us and our kids ... and I am only 17 and he is 20.... so if you believe that you have a good job a safe home for you and this baby that you want, and you think you are going to be able to support you and this baby then go for it just make sure that this pregnancy is the most important thing and be ready for a change of life and a rough time becuase being a mother is hard on every woman expecially for us young ones


Your BOYFRIEND makes enough money to support you. What happens if something happens to him? What happens if he, for some unknown reason, leaves or breaks up with you. It's easier to walk away and not be responsible as a BOYFRIEND.

Now... if you were MARRIED, had your own job, and stated that you'd either graduated high school or gotten your GED and were looking at college down the road, I'd take you a bit more seriously.

I finshed high school this year and do plan to attend collage. And at this moment I don't have a job since I was going to school and taking care of our kids... and ill be 18 tomorrow then we can plan to get married and we have ever entention to get married. And I do have my parents if any thing were to happen between me and my boyfriend. As of this moment I do not need the support of them so my parents would be very willing to help for the short time I would need them too.

Wow, OK I understand you, now lets me see, why do you want another baby right now, seems like you got your hands full, if I were you, I would get married, and settle down really good before I went and had another child. Your still a kid, and babies and pricey so I think you should take care of your twins and your B/F, and wait about five years.

Why are you in such a hurry to grow up? You have not even lived yet, you have so much growing and learning to do as an adult. There is a big difference between what you want now, and what you are going to want 3 or 4 years down the road.

Wow umm.... I think I might be here for some support! I am 17 and have a 1yr old and twins on the way and my bf has a 2yr and I am the mom in the whole situation I take care of our kids and my pregnancy and my little brother. Age has very little to do with this... and no ones taxes are paying for my kids or my parents! My bf has a great job and we have plenty of money for us and our kids ... and I am only 17 and he is 20.... so if you believe that you have a good job a safe home for you and this baby that you want, and you think you are going to be able to support you and this baby then go for it just make sure that this pregnancy is the most important thing and be ready for a change of life and a rough time becuase being a mother is hard on every woman expecially for us young ones

I agree with you. If the OP has a good job, a safe home and can support it then sure, go ahead. The problem is that very few 17 yr olds can provide that. It also means giving up a lot. So unless she does have all those things AND is willing to give up her wild oats sowing years, a baby shouldn't be in the picture now. The problem is we don't know, which is why I asked for more info.

As for your situation. I wonder how great a job a 20 yr old can have (unless its in a family business) and how a 20 yr old can earn plenty of money to support a family of 6.

ok im 17 years old ive been tryin to have a baby for about 2 months, and nothing is working...
what is the best way to get pregnant?

Brittany Sweetheart,

17 is awful young to want to become a mother, but without knowing your cirucumstances or current situation, I think it's hard to comment either way.

We do hope you come back and share more about what is going on with you so we all can help you in the way you need.

being a mother is hard on every woman

You may consider yourself a woman hun, but mentally speaking (and physically) a 17 yr old - male or female - has a lot of maturing to do. And I don't mean that in a nasty way either, it's just a fact. :)

Brittany, once you have them, children become the centre of your attention and unless you have excellent family support, you may find it really hard to cope. Hope you're prepared for that. Suppose you have a disabled baby, twins, whatever! How would you cope then? You need to consider all the possibilities.

At your age I don't think its wise for you to have a baby yet. Think about it because it can strain you mentally, physically, emotionally and financially. It's also hard to lose weight after having your baby and your body is never the same as your pelvis bone and other muscles have stretched. You have years and years ahead of you, use the time you have left (before coming to mother hood) wisely. Please, think about this before you actually try again. Think of everything you have to give up so that you can nurture this child.

Thank goodness I waited until I was 29 to have a baby instead of 17 when so many of my friends did!

I can't imagine being 29 with a 12 year old child. I'd much rather have a newborn at this age, now that life is so much easier for my husband and I... after college, owning our own home. etc. That's just what I felt was best for our family though...

Thank goodness I waited until I was 29 to have a baby instead of 17 when so many of my friends did!

I'll disagree with that (without the reddie). When your baby is 29 and having your grandchildren, you'll be in your late 50s. You better keep in shape!

Grandchildren are much more fun than children. You want to be young for them.

I'd definitely lean more toward starting at 17 than 29, although somewhere in the middle is preferable.

I agree, it seems like it might be too early based on what we know about us, but every situation is different. She is probably mature and emotionally stable enough to make it work just fine.

17 is so young and really, you are not mature enough to have and raise and support a child at that age. I know you think you are, and I know you're in love and that love will conquer all, and that you and your boyfriend are the exception and very smart and know what you are doing... get the picture?

I've heard it all before sweetie, we all have. I'm not saying it wouldn't work out, but the odds are against it. Why are you in such a hurry, wait a few more years, you have your whole life ahead of you. Do you want to spend the rest of your teen years wiping poopy bums and snotty noses, never having enough money, living paycheck to paycheck, if you can even do that? Why are kids in such a hurry to have kids, be a kid yourself for a while. You'll be happy you did.

Good luck.

I'll disagree with that (without the reddie). When your baby is 29 and having your grandchildren, you'll be in your late 50s. You better keep in shape!

Grandchildren are much more fun than children. You want to be young for them.

I'd definitely lean more toward starting at 17 than 29, although somewhere in the middle is preferable.

I agree, it seems like it might be too early based on what we know about us, but every situation is different. She is probably mature and emotionally stable enough to make it work just fine.

I have to disagree with you (without the reddie- since this is a difference of opinion). 17 is much to young to have a child- they are still children themselves. The world we live in has changed since my mom had me (at 23). Today, women are waiting longer to have childrenfor a variety of reasons, all of which are respectable.

I think it is a personal decision as to when you have a child. My husband just turned 40 and we have been trying for a child for about a year. When I finally do get pregnant we are going to enjoy our child and not worry about the fact that he will be 70 when he gets to be a grand dad. Not for nothing you never know what is going to happen- my dad died at 47 before he became a grandfather- but he was the best father around. Live for today, not tomorrow.


She is probably mature and emotionally stable enough to make it work just fine.

As a teacher of MANY 17 year old students I can say that this is a huge assumption. In all of my years of teaching I can count on one hand the number of 17 year olds that were mature enough to handle the demands of a child.

I was 17 when I had my daughter.I am 20 now. And even though I wasn't ready right then , I would not change it for anything in the world. I had already dropped out of school before I got pregnant and I had a great job. But I have been on my own since I was 15 so I knew how to support myself. It is the hardest thing you will have do but at the same time it's the greatest. When you have a baby this young life changes more then you could possibly imagine. I have no friends , I never get to go out and party(not that I want to) I will be 21 soon and I have never been to a club. I am a stay at home mom.(the greatest job EVER) There are hundreds of more sacrifices you have to make when you decide to become a mother. My husband and I had been together 2 yrs before I got pregnant. How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Just remember that everything you do once you become pregnant will effect that child for the rest of his and her life. They look up to you as a role model , you are everything to them.And you have to be prepared for everything else that could and will happen.The sleepless night , a baby that won't stop crying, then there is the sick baby(it will break your heart to watch your child be so sick and to know that there is nothing you can do for them and you want to so bad because you are their mother and you are suppose to be there to protect them and make them feel better)When my daughter was 6 months she kept getting bruises all over her body that could not be explained.We had lots of test run and about 3 days letter a got a call from the doctor saying that one of her test came back positive for a disease.That was the worse day of my life , because once you become a mother you stop worrying about yourself and you worry about your child. And on that day there was nothing I could do to protect her and I thought I was going to lose my baby that I had only had for such a short time.It' s a mothers worse nightmare. But we had more test run and it turned out they were wrong.But for that 3 days in between test I thought I was going to lose my baby, and trust me the is the worst feeling you could ever imagine having.Those are the kind of things you have to be ready for when you become a mother.Then there is pregnancy and child birth. In pregnancy you get the pleasure of gaining weight and getting stretch marks(so attractive)and labor is not fun at all. I was in labor for 14 hrs and never dilated then I had to have an emergency c-section because her cord was wrapped around her neck and her heat rate was dropping. So if you are ready for ALL of those responsibilities plus a thousand more then I wish you the best in the world. But all opinions aside, it can take a while to become pregnant .Like I said my husband and I were together for 2 yrs and had sex everyday sometimes 2 or 3 times and it still took 2 yrs.If after a yr and still nothing and you and your boyfriend are still together then you can both go to the doctor and make sure there is nothing wrong with either of you. But it takes time and 2 months is not long enough. Also another question.. does he know that you are trying to get pregnant? If he doesn't I suggest you tell him because guys are not into being " tricked" into having a baby.

Jessy... did you read the ENTIRE thread?

There's more going on here than just a girl accidentally getting pregnant with her boyfriend.

Jessy...did you read the ENTIRE thread?

There's more going on here than just a girl accidently getting pregnant with her boyfriend.

Yes I read it all. I was just letting her know how hard it is to have a baby at 17 accidentally or because you are trying. It doenst matter either way there is a baby involved and a 17 yrs old. So yes I read it. Her question is what's the best way to get pregnant right?. Well I told her it takes time usually more then 2 months. And the best way is to have sex. So believe my anwer is just fine.

Ack, omg... my apologies.

I had 2 windows open, and mixed up my threads.

You are correct--and a great post on your part. Congratulations on making it work as a teen mom! I have admiration for you--and thanks for posting about the difficulties of being a mother, which is true regardless of age, but may be paid more attention to because the OP can relate better to you. And great points about her boyfriend, too.

Again, I'm sorry--I was mixing up my threads, and *I* should have paid better attention.

Ack, omg....my apologies.

I had 2 windows open, and mixed up my threads.

You are correct--and a great post on your part. Congratulations on making it work as a teen mom!! I have admiration for you--and thanks for posting about the difficulties of being a mother, which is true regardless of age, but may be paid more attention to because the OP can relate better to you. And great points about her boyfriend, too.

Again, I'm sorry--I was mixing up my threads, and *I* should have paid better attention.

It is all right , I just could not understand why you didn't think it was correct , but now I understand, so it so okay!

1. Finish High School.
2. Go to college.
3. Get a good job.
4. Meet a guy who ALSO has a good job.
5. Put some money in savings because babies are EXPENSIVE, and I don't want to pay for yours with my taxes
6. Get married
7. Tell your OB/GYN during the checkup that you've been getting EVERY YEAR that you would like to try to conceive
8. Track your ovulation
9. Have sex a couple days BEFORE you are due to ovulate.
10. Consult with your doctor again if you are still having difficulties conceiving after a year.

This plan should only take you 6-7 years to complete, by which time you will have grown up enough to not be completely ticked off at my advice.


OH dear.

The perfect answer.

First and foremost, you're far too young to have a baby. Try getting a puppy instead.

AlwaysWriting. That actually reminds me of my wedding day. I was 24 when I got married, the ink wasn't even dry on the marriage certificate and already people are asking when we're going to have a baby. I told them that we were getting a dog, and if we couldn't keep the dog alive then we had no business having a baby.

At 24 I was still too young to have a child, I can't imagine doing it at 17. I'm 37 now and have two kids, really, it's the hardest job I've ever had, wait until you're older.

AlwaysWriting. That actually reminds me of my wedding day. I was 24 when I got married, the ink wasn't even dry on the marriage certificate and already people are asking when we're going to have a baby. I told them that we were getting a dog, and if we couldn't keep the dog alive then we had no business having a baby.

At 24 I was still too young to have a child, I can't imagine doing it at 17. I'm 37 now and have two kids, really, it's the hardest job I've ever had, wait until you're older.


Out of interest...

How long did the dog live? :) ;)

He's still alive today, he's 13 years old and going strong. I have a 9 year old son and a 5 year old daughter. :)

Wow thanks its crazy what people has been writeing me

wow thanks its crazy what people has been writeing me

Hey Brittany -

So glad you came back. So now that you saw what everyone shared with you, how do you feel about things now?

wow thanks its crazy what people has been writeing me

I'm also glad you came back, but why do you think its crazy? I think you have gotten excellent advice based on the little you posted.

I have to agree with Scott. You've gotten advice from allot of people who have been 17 years old and lived to tell the tale. Honey, bottom line, no 17 year old should get pregnant on purpose, heck, if the world was a better place no 17 year old would get pregnant by accident either. Plain and simple, you are way to young.

Trust me, one day, many years from now, you will come back to this site, see a thread where the OP is 17 and asking how to conceive a baby, and you will give the same advice that we are giving you now. Just wait until you're older, you have the rest of your life ahead of you, don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Enjoy being a teen, you never get those years back honey, you just never do.

Alt---Love what you said about getting a dog instead!

My boyfriend and I got a puppy about 3 years ago. She was the worst puppy ever. SHe ate everything in sight and got up several times a night to go outside. Even now, and she's 3 years old, she STILL wants out at 4:30 in the morning!

I always said "If you're thinking about having kids, get a puppy. THey cry at night. Wake you up at all hours and get into EVERYTHING!"