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help_ful101
Jun 6, 2008, 06:25 AM
i dont know why i miss her so much.
I met this girl where I live and she's smart cute funny really nice and so into me when we talked so I started dating her and we went out for like a week and she had to moved away cause she and me lives and a youth home and now I miss her so much I don't even no why where still dating and stuff and she lives like 20 min away by bus so I'm confused because my heart felt like it broke in half and me myself as a very happy easy going person like just disappeared... and I want to see her so bad until then I have to wait will I like still feel this pain more if I don't see her everyday because I did when I woke up and every thing
Please help me I feel like dying my heart hurts so much

JBeaucaire
Jun 6, 2008, 09:06 AM
She's expecting you to be her friend.

You can't get her back, you were together and now she's done. You can be her friend, or you can be a stranger. You don't get the b/f option anymore.

It's hard. It sucks. I'm sorry it hurts. You will be in love again someday, but you have to move on first.

godsbabygirl267
Jun 6, 2008, 01:43 PM
Ok, I'm glad you have found a resolution, but may I put in something? Sometimes you can't just be someone's friend. Sometimes, we go to far over the line to be friends. I know, it sucks. But maybe, being friends isn't an option either.

JBeaucaire
Jun 9, 2008, 10:55 AM
She's warning you that going back to being friends after having been more more often DOESN'T work. If you try to force a friendship with them you may end up being miserable.

It's a warning, that's all. Guys and girls can be friends, it's just hard to do after you've been intimate. Very hard.

Alty
Jun 9, 2008, 11:01 AM
godsbabygirl what r u tryin to say a girl n guy can't just be friends???? or u wanna be my friend??? im confused????????


Please use complete words, chatspeak is not acceptable on this site. Thank you.

Godsbaby girl is saying that because you had a relationship with this girl, it might be to awkward to be friends now. It is possible, but not the norm.

andy305mia
Jun 10, 2008, 11:23 PM
Look go up to her and ask her what happen between u 2. And this happened to me check if she likes a new person in your life

I wish
Aug 5, 2009, 11:02 AM
20 minutes by bus is not far at all. Why can't you call her?

How old are you?

help_ful101
Aug 5, 2009, 11:22 AM
Cause she left with out me and knowing because I had to go to my social worker and she went home and I went home thinking she's going to be there but she isn't... I don't know yet because I met her in the youth home but I'm going to get it...

I'm 16

CFZD
Aug 5, 2009, 07:28 PM
20 min by bus is very close.
Don't feel that you need to see her everyday, that's not good for ANY relationship.

help_ful101
Aug 7, 2009, 07:38 AM
Thanks a lot

HelpinHere
Aug 7, 2009, 12:39 PM
Could you please lay off the text speak?:
"cause" is because,
"n" is in or and,
"noe" is know.
Etc. Thank you.


cause she left with out me and knowing because I had to go to my social worker and she went home and I went home thinking she's going to be there but she isn't... I don't know yet because I met her in the youth home but I'm going to get it...

I'm 16

Do you mean she didn't tell you she was leaving, of just all around didn't know?
If she didn't tell you, then she really doesn't care as much as you seem to do.

Anyway, as others have said, 20 minutes isn't far. Plenty of kids have worked through worse.

What no one has really said:

I think I'm in love with her
You think you are in love, but you probably aren't. It is incredibly difficult to explain, possibly impossible, but right now you are too young to know what love really is to you.

Anyway, good luck, and don't give up!

LeslieSantana
Aug 7, 2009, 12:42 PM
20 minutes away thtas not far at all , Call her ?
Just meet up with her and tell her how you feel about this

There's no need to feel like dying ,

Justwantfair
Aug 7, 2009, 12:51 PM
Do you mean she didn't tell you she was leaving, of just all around didn't know?
If she didn't tell you, then she really doesn't care as much as you seem to do.


If they were staying in a group home, this may not have been the case. It maybe that she did not know or expect to be leaving.

To the OP, if you want to continue a relationship and you feel strongly about this girl, you will find a way to maintain the relationship, twenty minutes by bus is not too bad.