I think I'm dating a married man with kids how do I find out for sure?

My boyfriend says that he loves me but the only time I see him is at night and all he wants then is sex is he just using me?

Go through his wallet.
Follow him home from work one day.
Visit his work and ask a coworker what his wife might like as a birthday gift if he's met her? How old are the kids?
Pay an online identity service the $20 for all the public records with his name on it, his wife's will be there along for the ride.
Ask him, "Why didn't you tell me about your wife?" No matter how he responds, ask him again, "Why didn't you tell me about your wife?" Third time should be the charm.

Why do you think he's married, how you ever ask him? You can do a background check for as low as $4.95.You can Google"how to find out if someone married", next time your around look at his finger and see do you see a ring imprint around it but mostly if your gut feeling is telling you this, then he is.

1) Ask him straight up.
2) Make plans to do something at his house.

Do not stalk.

What troubles me is that you're considering a relationship when you have no trust in him.

Yes, he is just using you and saying things that you want to hear and selling you dreams. If he only comes around at night requesting sex than your nothing more than a booty call. Leave him alone and giving him your goodies because your body is your temple and you have to protect it against players like him.

I'd say more than likely. There are very few circumstances where his behavior would mean anything other. You're asking a question in which you already know the awnser. I'd tell him to take a hike; use his hand; you're not some toy he can play with whenever he feels like. You deserve to be treated with respect and that is NOT respect in the slightest.

Well, I just spent much time on answering on your other thread, only to find out it had been deleted!

I am NOT going to go into as much detail this time, as I really don't have the time or energy to do this my dear girl.

Please stop introducing your children to guys that stop over for booty calls. It isn't fair for your kids, and even when they are sleeping, they are not unaware of the things that are happening in their waking hours.

To the curb girl... right to the curb! Just from what you said in one sentence, (and the other deleted thread) he is plain straight, a PLAYER! Don't put your children through that! Work on yourself. Get some self esteem and some self pride! There is nothing more attractive to a *decent* man than a really confidant woman. Not cocky, or arrogant, just a woman that knows herself, and knows that she will put her children before ANY man!

Is this the same guy that you think is married, well from his actions I would think the answer is yes.

What do you think this man-boy is doing during the day? I wonder what his wife thinks when he sneaks out at night?!

I have gone through 3 of your threads now, and either you are playing with us, or you already know the answer to your question, and just being too naïve to realize that this guy is a loser!

I feel sorry for both sets of children. That is just plain irresponsible!