I'm so distraught right now, I'm not even sure what to do. I've been married a few months, and have a baby on the way. My husband and I do not get along at all. This has been going on since before the wedding. We argue and fight so much that my nerves are shot. I'm constantly having to yell and defend myself verbally, and these days physically. Thank god for self defense lessons. Yes, I know its scary. I literally go into combat verbally daily about the stupidest most minute things. When it escalates, I find I'm throwing things, or throwing punches. I am mortified by my own behavior, but I feel as though I have no choice. I'm tired of crying all the time, and being told I am nothing . I'm tired of being reminded that I have nothing. I hate feeling helpless because I can't financially support myself right now. The funny part is I don't even understand how an educated woman with multiple degrees married to a doctor wound up in a situation like this. Constantly fighting especially while pregnant. I didn't sign up for all this. By the time I knew he was a complete ***, it was too late to cancel the wedding, I was pregnant, and was faced with the dilemma of either being a single mom, shame my family, humiliate myself, or pray and hope things improve. In the few short months we've been married we don't sleep in the same room anymore. He threatens not to come home. I've tried everything I know to resolve this. But, we can't seem to talk to one another without yelling. I've tried it all including talking, writing letters pleading that we try and resolve things, I've begged that we go to counseling which he refuses to attend, I've tried ignoring him, I've tried driving or getting away from the situation, I've even purchased a plane ticket to separate for a few weeks. I have sought advice from my mother, who offers no support whatsoever. When I call my mother for advice, she tells me "I told you so, I knew he was no good for you, and you always told me that you would never marry a man like your father, well deal with your husband you can't come back here". I don't know if its Karma, or mere stupidity that blinded me to marry this ***. I can't even use dignified language to describe the daily torture and fits of anguish and despair I feel when around him. I feel so so bad for this baby. I feel like the worst mom to be in the world. I'm constantly unhappy, I cry daily, and I contemplate thoughts of suicide, but would never follow through because its not my baby's fault I got myself into this. I can't seem to make myself happy. I try reading, watching TV, when I get on the phone he overhears me and we fight about that. But now, I need some advice, I quit my job to move our of state with him, I have no friends or family in the area, I used a large part of my savings to pay for the wedding, my parents won't take me in, I'm embarrassed and too ashamed to call anyone to ask for help, and I'm on the brink of a nervous breakdown. Someone please help me figure out what to do.

If you're going to stay, stop fighting with him. It requires you to NEED to defend whatever issue he's bringing up. Let go of that need.

"I'm sorry you're upset. I'll keep that in mind next time." Practice that phrase until you can say it calmly, sincerely, and mean it. You ARE sorry to be having to listen to him rant, right? So technically this isn't a lie.

It takes two people to fight. Refuse to be engaged any further. If he's being civil and caring, engage fully. When goes ballistic, fold your hands and quietly listen. When he's done, even if he's wrong, ignore everything he said and say "I'm sorry you're upset. I'll keep that in mind next time."

You can't change him. You can create a situation where he sees YOU being calm and reasonable and might start to try that on his own. You model the behavior you want and see if that inspires him.

If you can't manage to do that, you have to leave. No more worrying about embarrassment or finances, you simply work it out. You can't go to YOUR home (wonderful mom, there), but what about HIS mom? Brothers, sisters, whatever.

You have a baby on the way. If this isn't going to work, the sooner you get out the more time you have to get things ready.

You have never married this man. People canceling wedings all the time you just didn't because you did not want to be alone. I bet you wish there was a time machine.

Getting or being verbually and physically abuse is nooo good, especially that your pregnant and it's not good. Leave him today and don't worry about being alone and where there a will there's a way. He is going to have to help you out anyway.

Right now your trap in habit. When you leave you would see that you should'nt be living life like this its unhealthy and can get worst. You are in control and ruler of your happieness ana its not with him. Change your envoriment for you and unborn child. Where there a will there's a way, so save yourself and set yourself free. Your unborn child deserves more and don't need to be in the mist of an unhappy down the hill abused marriage. So do yourself and the baby a favor and leave and get everything your entiltle to from him.

There are support groups out there because now your responible for 2 lives, your and the baby.

Tough situation but I think you need to either seek counseling or leave the marriage. It doesn't sound healthy at all

You need to get over your pride and ask someone for help, there has to be someone that will have compassion and help you in your time of need. You're pregnant and this baby should be your first priority. It seems to me that this man is an alcoholic.. not a good environment for the baby. You need to get a job, ask for help and move out if you think the marriage can't be salvaged or if your husband is unsafe..

You're mom sure is a piece of work... people that always say "I told you so" need to be slapped, you made a mistake, yes, but that's life and you're mom is not being supportive I'm sorry that you have to deal with it.. good luck hon