Hi,I been with my ex-bf for 1 year 9 months everything is going just well until I was insecure about him due to he keep chat with a particular girl on his msn and webcam with her. So I keep spying on him and keep on question him about the girl and I dun believe a thing he said cause he said that the girl was only asking him to help test her webcam but once is okay to me but they tested the webcam for 3 times how can I dun suspect anything so I began to argue with him and he didn't come to find me for 3 days we only like chat on the phone for awhile this really makes me suspect he like don't care about me and I was too harsh on him on the fourth day and I ask for break up out of anger he was slient and hung up the call. After I calm down I tried to call him but he off his hp so I waited for him outside his house for afew hours and he came back so we talk for awhile he try to avoid me and say he don't love me anymore and I beg,crying and keep on saying sorry and asking why.but lucky we not completely break up , we still meet each other and stuff but I know he don't love me anymore like last time by his action and he keep lying to me for excuse not to come and meet and I been spying on him and keep on spam text messages,calls and keep scold,reasoning with him even I pull him back home while he with his frens and even I login to his msn and check. Even keep delete the particular girl he webcam and chat with but he always add her back :( now even worst he lied to me he go to slp and chat with the girl on phone at night andi called him and question him,he was angry and say yayaya and hung up my calls and keep on talking to the girl and I sort of bad-mouth him in front of his mother. Now he even dun wan to ans my calls or reply my text message. And I reflect on myself and thinks I was unreasonable at that time because he last time said he can give up everything for me and he really mean it he text message to all his frens telling them he love me but now I don't think he love me anymore. Got any method to get back with him cause I really love him and miss him + I really changed myself I now don't even spam him text message and calls. ADVICE ME WHAT TO DO :( :( :( I WOULD BE VERY GRATEFUL FOR HELPING THANKS

Get rid of this man from your life, he obviously doesn't respect you or your feelings if he keeps talking to this girl. I know staying away from him may be hard and it will upset you but if you don't he will keep making you miserable. You need someone better than him, go out and find that better person and forget this loser boyfriend!

Oh please! Sweety, don't put up with such disrespect you are worth more than that.

Eh I don't know, this is hard because both of you were wrong. I don't see him chatting on msn with another girl as bad. But then he lied about it, that was wrong. While this was going on you went pyscho stalker and hacked all his account info which is illegal. You both just need to cut ties and chalk this up to a lesson learned

Erm I didn't hack his account or stuff. We gave both our own account password but I agree I was insane at the point of time maybe my emotion took control over me but chatting with a particular girl all the time plus the girl is single. Who won't feel insecure

I'm sorry to say but I don't think this relationship is going to work.. He doesn't respect you & you don't trust him... Why do you want to get back to this? - you love him, okay.. But this is not healthy... As hard as it is you need to move on and leave this guy alone.. He doesn't love you, and if you guys get back, trust me- it will never be the same.Just accept that its over and move on ( it will be VERY HARD! )

I understand that is very hard but we don't even quarral for 1year 8+months. This is the first thing that we argue and cause us to break up

It may have been the 1st time you guys break up but you obviously don't trust him.. Do you really want to be in a relationship where you have to be playing spy all the time?. I don't think so... Trust is very important and he hasn't given you reasons to trust him... Even if you say ooh I'm going to trust him,I changed-its not going to happen.. Your change is not real, you "changed" because you think it will make you guys get back.. but its not like that.. for the change to be real, you have to change for yourself, not for anybody else... I don't think things will get back to how they were... I'm sorry..

But I have his bady. What shd I do now and he like don't even care+this is our first disagreement between us and now I really lost

You have his what?. baby?

You baby sorry for typo error

Your pregnant or you guys have a baby?

I'm pregnant for 3+ months and I'm very depress

Unless you like drama I would leave him alone. If you talked to him about the girl he was chatting with but disregarding your feeling and kept talking to her he had no respect for you. In return it made you loose yourself and look at everything you did. If a guy did that to me I would think he was craz and definitely would not want to be over. Just being curious what was him in the girl talking about?

1+ years is long to be with someone but leave him alone, leave the past in the past, and move on. You two was not meet to be together.

Geez... now I suppose the baby will be used a s a pawn to try to keep him... where is yourself respect?

I did not see the part that you wa pregnant, you need focus on the baby growing inside of you because being depress is not go for the baby and can lead to miscarriage.

I nvr Use the Baby to Keep Him

But how to get over with it?

Just take it easy..
I don't know... he knows your pregnant and doesn't care.. that says a lot!. If he doesn't love you or wants to get back with you, unfortunately there's nothing you can do... Be strong and take care of yourself & the baby

Is hard for me to bring up a child by myself and everything is very sudden T_T shd I keep my baby anot?

is hard for me to bring up a child by myself and everything is very sudden T_T

You should've thought about that before.

I believe one should have a child when she is ready to take care of him/her by herself because at any time, for any reason BFs or husbands can leave.. now what's done is done...

Should you keep the baby?
That's your decision.. nobody can tell what to/what not to do.. It is up to you...

Even if he wants no part of the baby life he can pay child support and help any bills, i.e childcare. Stop thinking about him and wor about the child and yourself. No guarantees but he might decide to be in the child life, not yours, once the child is born.

Not to say anything wrong with you but you should counseling because your head is too cloudy and you need to clear your head. Choices need to make asap, only choices you can make because it your body and you walk in your own shoes. Is your friends/family supportive?

Not really.my family was very angry with him and keep calling me to get the baby out of my life but I don't wan to kill a life.I now very confuse

Then if you don't want to get rid of the baby don't do it... You don't have to do anything you don't want 2... THere must be some kind of place were they help single moms or something.. do some research...

Have you been getting prenatal care?

I know that your confused right now I was that way when I got pregnant, but there are support groups that can help you. You can Google it. You don't have anyone that is supportive of you or helping you now?

Quite a tale I'd say.

First off, most everyone here is jumping the gun a bit in my opinion. What is this guys big huge crime that has some up and arms?? He was speaking to another girl over MSN? No indication of what was being said or whehter this was a friend or not either!! Sounds like 90% of guys on these social networks.

Let me submit that any guy on Facebook, MSN, Myspace does not strictly speak to guys only, that's obvious. In a perfect world that would be the case. So again, what's his crime that is attracting all this negativity??

The OP on the otherhand has turned over every single stone to uncover some "truth" as to what is going on (lack of trust maybe?) HE'S got a friend that happens to be a female and they chat, WOW!

All this talk of disrespecting you and soon is a bit misplaced given the information provided. I do think that he could have handled it a thousand times better but so could have you from the beginning, no offence intended but you both sound quite immature.

What I get is that he is conversing with a girl, you are jealous as heck, you break up with him over it, beg him back, than bash him for behaving rudely and uncaring towards you, yet he is the big bad wolf in all of this? I don't see this view at all folks.

Finally, with a child involved these immature situations should have been resolved long ago. It does not appear that the child is factoring in to either of your decisions and it speaks plenty about... well... thats not for me to say.

Please talk to your parents, adults should be counselled. You two are not capable of resolving this yourselves, so far as you've shown.

BlitzTer: My opinion is little different. I wouldn say your relations wouldn workout. In every relation there are ups and downs. Humans do not value those which he possess. He doesn't understand the importance of your love and your presence in his life.
And sometimes what we see from our bare eyes, might be a fake or false thing.Try to make him feel you and your love. He should understand what's missing in his life (that is you). True love wins back the love.