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rockerchick_682
May 30, 2008, 09:48 PM
This is another post about my friend, the boy crazy one. Everything was fine for a while, but now everything is tense again. I hadn't talked to her for a while because I was going through some family stuff and I needed time to get my head together. So recently I texted her and asked her to hang out and she said she would try to figure something out. She texted me later and asked what I was doing Sunday. I told her that my sister had a track meet that day, but after that I'm free. She said she was frustrated because she was trying to make everyone happy and that her newest boy had asked her to hang out that same day. I pointed out to her that she'd seen him almost every day this week and she flipped. Saying that I always get mad at her and that I was mad at her then (wasn't). We've had this talk before, that I'm not jealous of her current boy, but that I'd like it if we could hang out without him always being there.

I just want to give up, but I'm sad because I've lost my best friend. But I also feel like we're going separate ways because I'm going to college and she's working at walgreens. She's smokes all the time, drinks all the time, always needs a boyfriend, not going to college, barely graduated. I don't respect her anymore, and it's hard not to show it.

Part of it is that I've always been a loner. I'm satisfied with my number of friends and I love my family, but I feel pressured, like I should have more.

starbuck8
May 30, 2008, 11:33 PM
I think if she can't take time out for you, then you are better off without her. Good friends don't blow their friends off for a guy. She will most likely regret not keeping you as a friend when she really needs you. I realize that you will probably miss her for awhile, but I don't think she is a true friend to you, when it comes right down to it. That sucks, but if she is willing to spend all her time with boy after boy, and dump you every time she finds someone new, then she just isn't being a good friend to begin with!

You will meet some new people in college, and you will probably look back and ask yourself why you invested so much time in someone that was willing, quite readily, to run after a boy. I think you need to find some new friends in College, and let her be boy crazy and see how that works for her! Chances are, she will still be working at Walgreens, and you will have a good education, and not let your friendships go by the wayside for some random boy!

Good Luck to you in College girl! Go out and meet some new friends that don't need to spend their every waking moment with a boy. Trust me, you will be better off, and YOU WILL meet friends that care about your feelings. :)

rockerchick_682
Jun 1, 2008, 08:46 PM
Thank you:) I don't feel so anxious about it anymore.

I think I was trying to be someone I'm not. Her and her group of friends drink a lot, and a lot of them are chain-smokers. And that's just not what I want to do. Just go see a movie, or go for a hike, something normal, that doesn't involve puking lol.