Hi there been with my boyfriend 2 years and I am 34 weeks pregnant with are 1st baby he now wants a 3 sum or 4 sum. We never have sex but he wants this more then having sex with me what can I do? I don't think I would like it at all I just want him no one else. Does this mean he's not happy with are sex life? Or he's to timeing me? Can't anyone help?

He should be more interested in getting the home ready for his new baby.

Does he want the 3/4 some now, while you are pregnant ? If he does then he is being totally selfish. I understand that because of your condition he may not be "getting it" as often as he would like but he needs to understand. If you are saying that he wants it after the baby then that is something you two need to discuss what you are open to in your sexual relationship.

If you're not okay with it, then that's it. Period. The subject should be dropped.

I'd be interested to know why he suddenly has the urge for a threesome or foursome, though.

As to what it MEANS--you'd have to ask him.

Tell him to use both hands and that a "three some" but no, first it is not a good idea, and a bad idea if one partner is against it.
It can bring disease, it can cause jealously, and normally leads to a emotional cheating.

Ask him to treat you specially well because you are pregnant... take you out for dinner, go to movies, have a card party with friends... and so forth. That is what decent men do, girl!

This isn't the time to introduce sexual risk taking into your relationship.

I doubt if you realize that your boyfriend is not the type of a reliable partner. Is he really the "right one" for you?

Alternative : what you should do in such an unreasonable situation like this : agree with him for a threesome. But insist on only a second male, instead of a second female.
That will stop him "dead" in his demand tracks...

Choux is correct with her point on sexual risk taking. It's a no no in your condition!!

Success !

3-sum when pregnant?

Looks like he's in between the legs, not in the heart.

Alternative : what you should do in such an unreasonable situation like this : agree with him for a threesome. But insist on only a second male, instead of a second female.
That will stop him "dead" in his demand tracks...



Good point.

Sounds like a deal breaker to me. Bad idea that he had to bring this up given your condition.

I doubt if you realize that your boyfriend is not the type of a reliable partner. Is he really the "right one" for you?

Alternative : what you should do in such an unreasonable situation like this : agree with him for a threesome. But insist on only a second male, instead of a second female.
That will stop him "dead" in his demand tracks ....

Choux is correct with her point on sexual risk taking. It's a no no in your condition !!!

Success !

Real odd request from a guy when his wife is pregnant... but since marriage isn't apparently high on his priority list maybe this says something about your place in things as far as he is concerned.


But its your life and never be pressured into doing anything you either don't want to do or aren't comfortible doing by anyone.

I love this take on it however. I'll bet that stops him dead in his tracks.