lovergirl12708
May 20, 2008, 04:27 PM
Ill start by giving a brief history about my boyfriend and I.
We met 2 years ago when I was dating his best friend and he was with a good friend of mine. We weren't the best of friends at the time, but we did spend quite a bit of time together, every party, of outing, prom. I saw him as much as I saw my boyfriend at the time and vise versa. We were there for each other even there. Spend the entire prom together when our dates didn't want to spend it with us. I was there for his sister when he couldn't while his parents got divorced. He helped me get a job. Protected me from the jerks we worked with until he got fired. He was there for me when my high school sweetheart and soon to be husband cheated on me then left me chasing after my best friend while I was away from college. He was there for me when I moved back after my whole world fell apart. We started hanging out everyday once I came home from college after almost 6 months of not seeing each other. Soon after we stated dating. That will be 4 months ago 7 days from today.
Our relationship became serious pretty quick. We both fell deeply in love with each other. We both have been through a lot to keep our relation going. Not caring what others thought, almost losing best friends, both going to doctors for tests. We stayed but each other sides the entire time. He stood by my side even when the doctors thought I had caught something from my ex. When many would have left he stood by my side. We were only together for 2 weeks when this happened. He was there for me when I was jobless and I was there when he got laid off. We have helped support each other in our time of need. We've dealt with angry jealous exes. My family hating him and trying to break us up. His grandparents and step mother not approving interracial dating. We've been through quite a bit for such a fresh relationship. Now I am once again away at college.
My boyfriend is quite a caring person and is at the moment supporting his mother. His mother and his sister are the 2 most important women in his life and I come after them. Which is fine, they did come first. What I'm wondering is if this, in the long run will be a problem. He would die for these 2 females. But they do come before me and I'm wondering because they do, it's not really a good thing. The only reason he did not and maybe will not come up here with me and go to school is because of them. Also is it selfish of my to want to be his number 1 instead of 3?
Anther thing is, does anyone have any thoughts on long distance relationships and any sugestions?
We want this to work, we both see us being together for a very long time. Communication has not been the best since we have been apart. We are both quite busy me with school and him with work. Is there any sugestions on how we can fix this
Sorry about this being so long but thanks for reading it and your responses
We met 2 years ago when I was dating his best friend and he was with a good friend of mine. We weren't the best of friends at the time, but we did spend quite a bit of time together, every party, of outing, prom. I saw him as much as I saw my boyfriend at the time and vise versa. We were there for each other even there. Spend the entire prom together when our dates didn't want to spend it with us. I was there for his sister when he couldn't while his parents got divorced. He helped me get a job. Protected me from the jerks we worked with until he got fired. He was there for me when my high school sweetheart and soon to be husband cheated on me then left me chasing after my best friend while I was away from college. He was there for me when I moved back after my whole world fell apart. We started hanging out everyday once I came home from college after almost 6 months of not seeing each other. Soon after we stated dating. That will be 4 months ago 7 days from today.
Our relationship became serious pretty quick. We both fell deeply in love with each other. We both have been through a lot to keep our relation going. Not caring what others thought, almost losing best friends, both going to doctors for tests. We stayed but each other sides the entire time. He stood by my side even when the doctors thought I had caught something from my ex. When many would have left he stood by my side. We were only together for 2 weeks when this happened. He was there for me when I was jobless and I was there when he got laid off. We have helped support each other in our time of need. We've dealt with angry jealous exes. My family hating him and trying to break us up. His grandparents and step mother not approving interracial dating. We've been through quite a bit for such a fresh relationship. Now I am once again away at college.
My boyfriend is quite a caring person and is at the moment supporting his mother. His mother and his sister are the 2 most important women in his life and I come after them. Which is fine, they did come first. What I'm wondering is if this, in the long run will be a problem. He would die for these 2 females. But they do come before me and I'm wondering because they do, it's not really a good thing. The only reason he did not and maybe will not come up here with me and go to school is because of them. Also is it selfish of my to want to be his number 1 instead of 3?
Anther thing is, does anyone have any thoughts on long distance relationships and any sugestions?
We want this to work, we both see us being together for a very long time. Communication has not been the best since we have been apart. We are both quite busy me with school and him with work. Is there any sugestions on how we can fix this
Sorry about this being so long but thanks for reading it and your responses