Ok I 'm just going to lay it all out for you.

Back in 1999 I was convicted of a crime that I'm very ashamed of and I can't seem to forgive myself for.

I'm going to be 30 next month I'm still a virgin, but that's not what's bothering me right now. I've live in my grandmothers basement for about 6 years now. I've smoked pot off and on for about 10 years now and am currently a smokers. When I don't have any I get grumpy and angry for stupid reasons

Haven't had a job in over 2 years now. I get paid a little for helping my grandmother with things she can't do anymore like run airns, drive her to the doctors .etc...

I think what I'm most afraid of is that something will happen to my grandmother and I won't have any place to go. I don't want to be a burden to any one else in my family.

For years now I've been wanting to start my own business on the internet. But have I done anything to achieve this goal "NO I HAVEN'T"... I've done a little reading up on it but I can't seem to fucus and put forth an effort. In the past with home businesses I've tried if I don't get any results I give up before I even get started.

There's a lot of stuff that could be done around this house but what do I do I just sit here on my butt watching TV. Yeah I watch way too much TV too. It seems to be the only thing that can keep my attention.

Besides the fact that I lack the money to get started. Witch I don't think would be too much to get something small going and grow from there. I lack the willingness to do it.

So please if any one has any helpful advise it would be much appreiated.

I say start tomorrow and look for a job. You are insecure and don't want to leave the house. Have you received therapy for feeling guilty about the crime you committed? It's worth a shot... take it one step at a time. First a job, then you could find some good self worth. You can't just sit around thinking, you have to get up... make yourself hop in the shower, get some clothes on, git out there and then look for a job you can handle. What were you doing before you got into trouble, maybe you could do the same thing? YOu have to remember you are worth something... go to the mirror and tell yourself "I am worth it" I am good"... take it upoin yourself to make some positive changes! Limit your TV intake and take some walks...
Limit your puter time, instead play cards with Grandma. You can find a job, move out and visit grandma and help her when she needs it. Stop by to say hi, but it is time to live! You need to feel alive;) You are worth it!

Why don't you get a part time job?

You can go to the HomeDepot and hang around to get picked for manual labor. The exercise would do you good, and you would start feeling better. Speaking English would be a plus. You might meet some people who could be beneficial to know.

Another possibility would be rehab.

You could find yourself working manual labor full time and being off drugs... that would be a realistic plan for you in your current position.

Best wishes in 2008,

Yes I have had therapy years ago but I reall don't thing it helped the way it should have.

So should I completely forget about starting an internet business for now?

All the jobs I've had in the past I've sucked at for a couple of reasons one I work to slow and I get boared with stuff way to eazy.

Hon... a job isn't fun. They don't call it "work" for no reason.

You want to change your life? Find a job. If you're bored, find ways to improve things--take on MORE work.

Start an exercise program--start taking a walk around the block instead of smoking up or something.

YOU have to make the changes, and the biggest change would be getting a job, even if it's not a job you like.

Well, there is one thing you need to practice and that is Get up every morning at the same time, leave at the same time and take a walk. Do the same with lunch. Eat at the same time and go for a walk and be back the same time.

In order to work, you need some discipline.

Make sure you help make meals and clean up after them. Putting yourself into the work force without any behavioral skill you will be lost. There are schedules, deadlines and consequences. I think you need to learn that.

Add a "to do" list and schedule yourself for the week. This will all help especially when combines with exercise.

Yes I have had therapy years ago but I reall don't thing it helped the way it should have.

So should I completely forget about starting an internet business for now?

All the jobs I've had in the past I've sucked at for a couple of reasons one I work to slow and I get boared with stuff way to eazy.


Hi you vdgmsrk, finding a different therapist may help. Sometimes you have to find one that fits your needs and helps you.;)

No, I don't think you should forget about the internet business, but you do need to put it on the back burner! Just wait, get a job, keep a routine, PROVE to yourself that you can do that. Get a "food industry" job... do something that doesn't mean you will be sitting behind a desk or standing around waiting for people to come in. You need to try much harder. YOu are worth it here! Remember, you don't want to look back and think why? Why didn't I go and LIVE my life...
You are worth it!

Hi, you sound depressed. Do you believe in God? Ask and you shall receive.
Sometimes you just need to do something, anything. I am not a list person, but when things are hard, you have to start somewhere, any job in better than staying in front of the TV, even if you start at a restaurant as a dish washer, you will start to learn people skills and we all had to start somewhere. I started working at a nursing home when I was 15, it was a great experience. We almost always have to start at the bottom, but from there you can only go up, go get a job, any job. It will make you feel better, you are a grown man, and should not put your burdens on your grandmother, she must love you very much. You need to get yourself in a position,(not right away, remember you have to start somewhere) but, your grandmother should be able to count on you to help her, not the other way around. There is a lady preacher, her name is Joyce Meyer, you can look her up on line, she has a TV program, she is an awsome teacher, I know you will find the help you need, but you might have to look really hard and keep looking until you find a way. Keep trying, don't beat yourself up, you know the NIKI saying "Just do it" Anything is better than nothing. Good luck and get out of the basement. Get a job!
I seriously recommend going to your local community college and speaking to a career counselor. You probably have many qualities, that your just not even aware that you have, a career counselor can help you find out, what might be a good employment choice!
God Bless you and good luck

You're watching TV, right? Ever see that commercial about this is your mind on drugs? Drugs are dangerous, killer stuff. The people who give them to you or do them with you don't give a crap about you, don't kid yourself. Pot is actually a poisonous form of latex. Why would you choose to put a plastic bag over your head? You are doing exactly that to YOURSELF from the inside out by using that garbage. You are internally putting a "plastic bag" over your lung cells, digestive system and brain cells. Once brain cells are dead they are gone forevere. And it's not just you. The chemical affects your reproductive system meaning any children you may have in the future will be likewise affected. I can look into the face of a child and see markers there and know that it's parents smoked pot before it was born. It causes chromosome damage that is birth defects. So basically your selfishness is affecting everyone. String theory, right?:eek: :eek:

You're watching TV, right? Ever see that commercial about this is your mind on drugs? Drugs are dangerous, killer stuff. The people who give them to you or do them with you don't give a crap about you, don't kid yourself. Pot is actually a poisonous form of latex. Why would you choose to put a plastic bag over your head? You are doing exactly that to YOURSELF from the inside out by using that garbage. You are internally putting a "plastic bag" over your lung cells, digestive system and brain cells. Once brain cells are dead they are gone forevere. And it's not just you. The chemical affects your reproductive system meaning any children you may have in the future will be likewise affected. I can look into the face of a child and see markers there and know that it's parents smoked pot before it was born. It causes chromosome damage that is birth defects. So basically your selfishness is affecting everyone. String theory, right?:eek: :eek:


Out of curiosity--where are you GETTING this information?

Granted, an addiction to drugs (including alcohol and cold medicines) is bad--but I'm seeing more a lack of motivation causing the drug use, rather than the other way around here.

But... I'd still like to see the information on this

Dude, where are you getting the money to buy the pot? Pot is NOT cheap and readily plentiful at your neighborhood supermarket. Sure, you smoke dope all day. Why would you think you have any ambition doing this? You won't. Living in granny's basment sounds like another pothead I knew who lived in his mother's basement and smoked dope as well as grew it in her basement. His idea of fun was to literally watch the plants grow. Now if that is not an assnine existence, I don't know of one that beats that one.

You need to get a job and stop with the dope. At age 30 you are not a child. You may be a child in your mind who wants other people to take care of you, but you're way too big for that to happen any more. It sounds like you have made yourself a hermit shunning everyone.

You need to get out and meet people and go places and do things. Start socializing even if it means talking to the person behind you in the line at the supermarket.

Out of curiosity--where are you GETTING this information?

Granted, an addiction to drugs (including alcohol and cold medicines) is bad--but I'm seeing more a lack of motivation causing the drug use, rather than the other way around here.

But...I'd still like to see the information on this
It's in real books like a first year botany student would own. Effects and affects of plant life on animals with a little organic chemistry thrown in alamode. You'd think you young people invented the stuff or something. :o