Me and my bloke have been together for a while now, we have moved in together and have a cat. We are in love big time but for some reason the spice has gone from our relationship. When ever it comes down to me wanting to have sex it doesn't 'just' happen I HAVE to dress in sexy outfits to show that I want it. I don't mind doing this but I never had to do this before (well all the time). But when ever it doesn't happen I have little mood swings with him which I don't intend to do but I guess its frustration. Does any one have any ideas how I can get him in the mood with out dressing up I have tried everything I can think of and it just doesn't work!

How long is a while?

Nearly 2 years :)

Forget the physical sex, and make love to his mind. Have you been paying attention for those short two years, and found out what he is about as a person?

Yes of course as much as I like physical sex, its not all about that. I mean we know each other really well and of course like every relationship you still find out more about each other as time goes on. Its not like I am mad at him for it at all but I just want the fun factor to come back to our lives rather than just the serious factor constantly there. I have asked him about this and he agrees with me but we just don't know what else we could do?

Why can't you have fun like you did before? What exactly has changed?