Raazipond
May 20, 2008, 04:29 AM
I am in utter confusion. I am not able to take a decision and feeling completely drowned amidst complications.
I was all willing and fine to get married to this person. Got all ready for the wedding and just about a week before the wedding, I was suddenly abused by my fiancé' who was completely drunk. I also figured out that he had been a complete alcoholic and did anything he could for the sake of the liquid- Borrowed money from me, and from my siblings and friends in my goodwill and used it in a pub. The argument started when I questioned the behavior. He picked up the quarrel so violently that he even said he was marrying to get the share in the money I earn. I am otherwise a waste in his life.
Shattered on the most disappointing experience of my life, I broke with him and decided not to go ahead to marry him. I went into a mode of complete depression. He tried to get me back and did everything that he could- wrote emails to my friends and sent emotional emails to them explaining how I treated him, still he loves me... to my business compotators on how we were together and sent pictures of our holiday together etc.
I was humiliated. Flabbergasted. And don't tell me what! I did a blunder of taking him to my Office party too and seemed happy with him in the crowd and let the world know that I am getting married with the bloke.
Days and months passed, things have settled.
In the meanwhile, I met a guy and he said he was interested in me. He carefully understands my stand and has been a good friend. I know his credentials well and he was my sister's childhood friend and both my sister and this guy did their schooling together and both had an opportunity to work in a same organization for 3 years.
When I checked with her, she always has good things to tell about me. My sister and her husband are asking me to go ahead with the relationship if I am comfortable with him. I clearly understand that he has not been holding mask and try to impress me unnecessarily. I agree too- he is a nice person.
My problem is- The past haunt me. I am scared to get into a relationship, I fear if the man willing to marry me is for the money and wealth I hold. I am also terribly worried about what the people I know think about me on my marriage? Should I not tell them that I am getting married at all? I am upset and confused.
Please advice me and help me to take a decision.
I was all willing and fine to get married to this person. Got all ready for the wedding and just about a week before the wedding, I was suddenly abused by my fiancé' who was completely drunk. I also figured out that he had been a complete alcoholic and did anything he could for the sake of the liquid- Borrowed money from me, and from my siblings and friends in my goodwill and used it in a pub. The argument started when I questioned the behavior. He picked up the quarrel so violently that he even said he was marrying to get the share in the money I earn. I am otherwise a waste in his life.
Shattered on the most disappointing experience of my life, I broke with him and decided not to go ahead to marry him. I went into a mode of complete depression. He tried to get me back and did everything that he could- wrote emails to my friends and sent emotional emails to them explaining how I treated him, still he loves me... to my business compotators on how we were together and sent pictures of our holiday together etc.
I was humiliated. Flabbergasted. And don't tell me what! I did a blunder of taking him to my Office party too and seemed happy with him in the crowd and let the world know that I am getting married with the bloke.
Days and months passed, things have settled.
In the meanwhile, I met a guy and he said he was interested in me. He carefully understands my stand and has been a good friend. I know his credentials well and he was my sister's childhood friend and both my sister and this guy did their schooling together and both had an opportunity to work in a same organization for 3 years.
When I checked with her, she always has good things to tell about me. My sister and her husband are asking me to go ahead with the relationship if I am comfortable with him. I clearly understand that he has not been holding mask and try to impress me unnecessarily. I agree too- he is a nice person.
My problem is- The past haunt me. I am scared to get into a relationship, I fear if the man willing to marry me is for the money and wealth I hold. I am also terribly worried about what the people I know think about me on my marriage? Should I not tell them that I am getting married at all? I am upset and confused.
Please advice me and help me to take a decision.