I want to have a baby so bad, but I can not convince my husband of that. I really need some tips on this:) :)

First these are things that needed to be discussed before marriage, and merely discussion, What is his reason for not wanting children at this time. If people know why he does not, it may help in finding answers to his issues with it.

How long have you been married and did you discuss child bearing before marriage? My husband and I had our first child unexpectedly and he did not want more. However, we had discussed this prior to marriage and he knew I came from a blended family with no blood related siblings so it was important to me to have more than one child. Our daughter turned 2 and he was still adamant on not having more so I took him to a restaurant and asked him how much longer he wanted to wait before having another he told me one year. I marked it on my calendar, took him back to the same restaurant one year later with the calendar and we ended up with our 2nd child shortly thereafter. You cannot make someone be ready for such a life changing event, but you can guide and support them in the right direction. I would sit down and see if he will commit to a timeframe of when he think he will be ready. In the meantime enjoy just you and him because it gets really hectic with kids and your marriage has to be solid to make it through. Hope this helps.

He says he is not ready for the responsibility. We actually moved our wedding date closer because he was ready to have a baby. And now he has deciede that he is not ready

Well first this idea of moving a date to try and have a baby, seems to make the marriage, at least from your side to be all about having a baby.

How long have you been married, and how old are you, If you are newly married, you really need to spend several years if possible getting to know each other. But unless both are really ready, they should not, since having a child changes your relationship, family and how you do any and everything in life.

I don't know if I would have moved up a wedding date to have children. Your marriage is going to be fresh and need foundation before building a house. Many marriages fail because they just don't have the time to know, understand, cherish, and grow together before stress and bumps in the road occur. There will be many speed bumps in your life. There is a 7 year itch... believe me it happens. My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married 8. I did not think we would make it through last year. It was rough. We were married 7 years and I don't know what happened. We were sick of each other. But we had 5 years of foundation before marriage, we made it through that speed bump and our marriage is headed down a great path. Try to focus on the two of you rather than a whole family right now and eventually things will fall into place piece by piece.

We have been married since December so we have not been married that long. But have dated for 6 years, I am 19 so we practly grew up together. We have know each other all of our lives.

You may have known each other for all your lives and dated for 6 years but that is much different than being married. Enjoy it. You are young. Go to Hawaii, do things that you can't do with kids and just have fun. We did and we don't regret a thing. Fun memories and fun times to tell our kids about when we first got married. If you don't have the money to go to Hawaii or do something really fantastic together then you are not ready for the responsibility for children finacially. So take the time to simply enjoy life while you can. I thought like you too. I wanted children very early. We waited for awhile and I am glad. The 7 year itch I was talking about it much different that the dating itch. Marriage is very challenging at times. When you are dating you can walk away, have space and time. You don't get that in marriage. You have to deal with the problems as they arise and you can't give yourself space. Also, you may have known each other all your lives but a perfect example is you don't know him well enough or else you would have suspected he may change his mind about children so early. He will change his ways in other things to. That is what happens as people grow and unless you grow together before having children you will have problems with these sudden changes that you will both face.

We have been married since december so we have not been married that long. But have dated for 6 years, i am 19 so we practly grew up together. We have know each other all of our lives.

Oh, hun, don't be in such a rush to have children. You may have grown up together, but you have spent little time being husband and wife. Take time for you right now, take time for him. Once a baby arrives your lives will be changed forever. Take vacations, travel, learn to be a husband and wife. It's much different than being just a couple.

You are still very young. Don't rush him, it will do more harm than good in the long run.

I want to have a baby so bad, but i can not convince my husband of that. I really need some tips on this:) :)

I don't know how to convince your husband. Have you tried prayer? God can move mountains.

However, I can help you understand the meaning of matrimony according to Christian doctrine. Perhaps that will help you understand how you can convince your husband.

Matrimony literally means the office of motherhood. When a man and woman are married in the Catholic Church, they make a vow to have children for God. That is because children are living, breathing images of their love for each other and of God's love for them.

Marriage itself is a living icon of the Holy Trinity. God the Father loves God the Son and God the Son loves God the Father bound by the Love which is the Holy Spirit. And in a marriage, the husband loves his wife and the wife loves her husband with the love which is God.

And the two become one flesh and then that flesh starts walking and talking. A living icon of your love for each other. Two in one flesh. You will be able to look at your child and see yourselves in him.

Marriage is complete self giving. And we promise to give ourselves one to the other in the marriage ceremony. But then we complete that self giving in our loving embrace which is the act of sex which completes and culminates our marriage before God and which is the physical communication of our love one for the other.

So, I hope that you can convince your husband to be open to life which is the gift of God.

Sincerely,

De Maria

You're 19? I'm almost 19 and I can't imagine the responsibility of a child yet? I can't say I blame him for being hesitant. If you pressure him into having a baby now I predict your marriage end in disaster. Be patient and enjoy your youth a while longer. You have years and years ahead of you to have children. And I truly believe your family will be bettter all around if you wait until you are both ready.