Hey guys!

I hope all of you are doing well :)...

After two really good months of being really happy, and smiled a lot,
The ex suddenly, out of nowhere, added me as a friend on Facebook...
?? (sorry)...

Of course, being the baby I am :), I had a really bad day today... (missing, thinking, watching pics of her without seeing any pic of me but the ex after me)...

After killing myself with thoughts, I erased her and that's it... but I still fell kind of bad...

What now guys? When will I stop getting nervous every time something comes up?

Thanks a lot

It is actually very simple. It takes time. Your doing the right thing, and keep doing what your doing.

The less I see and know the better ! Right?

Thanks BTY

Yes roy. The les you see and the less you know the better. It will help you move on easier.

I hope I will wake up tomorrow a better person... not like today... it was bad...

Thanks guys!!

Just like when you cut yourself for the very first time, or got a scrape falling down - you learned that this will hurt, but that it will also heal in time.

And just like burning yourself for the first time, you learn to avoid the fire getting too close - and accept it and watch it from a distance.

These things will never vanish from your memory or life, but you've learned to accept them and know what to do in the future.

Well, in time, you'll think back on this relationship as something that happened as a part of your life and that you'll eventually get over it completely but you'll probably keep the lessons learned from it forever - that's the point of healing.

You'll get there, no matter how long it takes, and we'll be here to help you along the way if you feel you might get too close to the fire again.

Good luck.

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Thanks a lot!

Quite peeking at that darn Facebook stuff.

Yeah it suck but addictive...

She always said she hates it and now she's there to make me sad :(

Just press delete or use the privacy function. At the end of the day you should have learnt your lesson or used your common sense. If you knew how it would make you feel you shouldn't have done it or looked at pix etc etc.

I've never been on Facebook or myspace, and not interested. But I doubt that she joined just to make you sad.
You might be taking this just a little too personal - or is she directing her comments and/or pictures toward you exclusively?

I know it's hard to go on without thinking that everything the other person does is directed to making your day lousy, but she just might be getting on with her life and seeking contact with others. So what! Stop dwelling on her - she is a living, breathing human being and will continue to do human things for the rest of her life. And you should go on with your life as well. Life is not like a cartoon where one can take an eraser and wipe things out that make us sad or uncomfortable - we have to learn to accept things as they are and look for other options and distractions to keep busy.

If life was meant to be easy, happy, and uncomplicated all the time - we would not be needing therapists or sites like this to help us cope with the bumps.

So, again - get focused on your universe and regain control over the things only you have the power over - living your life and dealing with your emotions - not second-guessing others.


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I didn't really think she did it just to upset me I was kidding ':)

Everything you said is absolutely correct and I'm fully aware she went on with her life but it's sometimes a bit annoying that I don't really know what she feels when I'm still thinking of her... and the fact she didn't mind putting pictures of her Ex (after me) but not putting mine...

I know it doesn't mean anything (or maybe it does) but it's on my mind..