I am a 26 yr old woman who is kind of sexually active(as in I've only slept with 3 ppl) and every time I have had sex with a guy its either I feel nothing or I feel pain (like someone his penis is too big for me pain) now I have uteruan fibroids could that be part of he problem? I can masturbate and come quite easily from that (hand and w vibs). Maybe I'm one of those girls who can only come through clitoral stimulation?? Help ?

My opinion is that feeling nothing or feeling pain when having intercourse is a psychological issue if a physician has examined you and told you there is nothing wrong with your genitals.

In addition, I feel that a woman has the ability to mature and grow her sexuality throughout her life if she is so motivated. Some women are motivated, some are not. Being motivated involves reading and practising and fantasizing... :) We can go all the way to Eastern practices of orgasm and Mystical Experiences(which few can do).

No doubt about it, having an orgasm by self-stimulating the clitoris feels real good.

But, pain, girl!. for me, that is pathological and you have to get to the bottom of this misery right away. Call your obgyne today to rule out messed up genitals.

Hello TwinkletOes26

Choux seems to have stated already most of what there can be said here.

I wonder about the pain you experience : as you have no problems to climax, are your problems not perhaps related to insufficient foreplay? The problems you describe seems to indicate that.

Commnunicate with your sex partner(s). Tell him/them what you like, what you prefer, what you feel, where it hurts, and demand sufficient foreplay.
Unless you only had oversized-penus partners you should not experience pain during intercourse. But lack of foreplay (i.e. lack of lubrication and lack of psychological and/or sexual preparedness) is for many women the main cause of experiencing pain.

Ciao !

My exfiance did try to perform oral sex I didn't feel anything when he did it maybe because he ddnt do it right? My best friends said maybe I should try sex w a girl but I don't know if that would help matters lol

The fibroid tumors will cause you a lot of pain. Attend to them first and then try sex again.