Basically I have been sexually active with my boyfriend for about 4 months now. I as yet have not orgasmed during sex. Recently my boyfriend has starting playing with me so I orgasm that way.

My problem is he plays with me before I have sexual intercourse, by this time I have climaxed and the opening to my vagina is very tight and closed because of that, which means it is hard to get the penis in. My next concern is that once I have orgasmed I feel very chilled and relaxed and do not really feel the need to participate with full on intercourse, but know I have to for my boyfriend to orgasm.

Any help? As I do not see another way round, as once my partner had orgamsed, that's it sex is over, he is relaxed and has no teststerone left.

How old are you?

You sound like you're about fourteen... My advice ask your mom and dad see what they think first,You might be surprised how openly they would welcome that conversation.

I am actually 22, my boyfriend is 23. We were both virgins. I am fully old enough to be having sex, and fully aware of the safety precautions etc, its just I need a little bit of guidance, concerning the procedure that certain things happen in

Try getting on top. There, remove his hands unless they are helping and control the action. If you are able to have an orgasm that way, he will already be inserted. Then ask him to control the action.

I think I understand the situation... your boyfriend brings you to orgasm without having entered you at all... that's the problem. During the foreplay, he needs to insert his penis and do some sexy stroking gently without climaxing... then, withdraw and continue stimulating you to the brink of orgasm. (I was puzzled by the "chilled" comment, I think that means that you haven't been moving around) Move around! Sit on his penis at the end, orgasm through manual stimulation and then he can insert himself into a well prepared vagina, all kinds of alternatives. :)

Fear and uncertainty are your enemy. Keep working on your sexual technique and passion for life and men.