about 2 weeks ago my boyfriend asked for a break. We talked every so often in that time but not like we used to. Then last night he imed me and we talked for over 2 hours. He was flirting with me and saying and doing the same stuff we did when we were going out. It made me feel like maybe he misses me and wants me back, but then I'm not sure if he just randomly wanted to talk to me. Should I continue to talk to him now? I really want him back.

If you want him back, then continue to talk to him as long as he's talking to you, but I would make him do the contacting first. (Like him IMing you... thats a good start) if it continues on and you haven't gotten back together, ask him just straight up to see where you guys are at.

It's just and instant messenger conversation, do not fool yourself and think too deeply in it. If he really wants you back, it will be more obvious then an IM conversation.

As far as continuing to talk to him there is no harm with that. I would let him do all the initiating though. Best of luck.

I'm going to disagree, I think you should cut the contact, and see if he is serious, or trying to keep you on the side, just in case he needs someone. If he was all that into you, what the heck is this break stuff about? Just something to think about. How old are you both?

I agree with Tal. If he's truly ready to get you back, let him do the work. No more texts accepted, no more IMs, nor emails. He needs to find and use your doorstep.

In fact, if you have a guy friend you can go out with to present the appearance you are getting on with your life, that could spark your guy into action, too. After all, you're an attractive and happy, self-sufficient non-needy girl who is in demand, right?

Help him remember that, be the one pursued again, OK?

I'm going to disagree, I think you should cut the contact, and see if he is serious, or trying to keep you on the side, just in case he needs someone. If he was all that into you, what the heck is this break stuff about? Just something to think about. How old are you both?


I'm 16 he's 15

If you like him - I said like, not love - then communicate any way that young folks like you communicate in these modern days.

But if he is contacting you again just to get closer to you than you are ready for, drop him like a hot potato. I'm sure that young people your age are in a hurry to grow up and try new experiences in life, but don't ever let anyone force you into something you are not ready for.

Now is the time to get to know boys, sometimes even feel rejected, but it is also the time to be extra careful of their intentions because they have peer pressure from other boys who think they know more than they really do. It's all a part of growing up. You will also find that girls will talk big, just to make an impression, so be careful who you listen to before you make a mistake you'll regret.

Oh, by the way, using the word 'love' at your age is like calling a Ford Stationwagon a Fararri - it's exaggerated, and loses it's true meaning when mistaken for infatuation or lust.

Don't be in a hurry, you'll have to grow up fast enough so enjoy your youth for as long as you can - because you'll never get that back once lost.

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