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zzzyyyxxx
May 12, 2008, 08:03 AM
Hi all.

Please someone help me!

I used to see this guy purely for business reasons. He is a photographer who has a studio at his parent's place.

Anyway, the first time I met him he just smile and his father did all the negotiating. After taking the photos for me. He would just stare and smile and always sit directly across from me. Not a single word. His parents used to do all the talking. They would always tell me how beautiful I was and that they would show my pictures to every customer to show how pretty I am.

As I am married I didn't really take note of anything unusual until the photographer's father would bag out my mother in law who he had met. He even made an excuse for me to go into his son's room which was very weird. They use to try and get me to stay and hang out with them.

Then after a few months I went back to get some reprints and we were left alone in the room. I was just being my normal chirpy self. He was more nervous than usual and his eyes were trying to talk. We were sitting across from each other, I was chosing the pictures. Before I knew it, I looked up and our eyes met, our faces could have touched. But I quickly moved away and he blushed. Hen after a few moments he made it out that he had to get something from next to me and as he moved closer he gently stroked my hand. I didn't react I just kept looking at the photos.

Now usually I have to call him. He usually won't his phone and would call after a good hour on a private number. 2 days after the last incident he called me late at night with his number showing. But I missed the call and didn't call back. I found this so weird it took me 2 days to finally call back. When I did he answered immediately and started to ske why I didn't pick up when he called and why I didn't call back. I was so shicked because I am married. Why does he care. We were silent for a long time then some of my male work colleagues made some naughty statemnts about me while I was on the fone and he semed to be jealous because hesounded upset on the phone. I made a time to pick up the photos with my husband. He said he will be there.

When I did go. He wasn't there. I was greeted by his parents who made up so many excuses why he wasn't there even though I didn't ask. They asked me a thousand questions about me before they decided to finally give me the pictures. He also made extra pictures I didn't ask for which they insisted I take for free.

After that I didn't hearfrom him again and I never went back.

2 weeks ago I found a number on a piece of paper and called it to se if it was a friend's number. It turned out to be him! I straight away hung up the phone. Not even 5 seconds later he called back and kept ringing but I ignored the phone calls. Does he still have my number? Could he be hoping for a friendship? Has he stayed away in respect that I am married? Please can anyone make sense of all this.

talaniman
May 12, 2008, 08:48 AM
My dear it seems you have an admirer and his parents are pushing him strongly. I don't know for sure but friendship with hopes of more may be their motivation, but let me caution you to throw those phone numbers away, and don't leave yours, except for business. Even the innocent cultivation of what you think is a friendship, may not be received that way, nor is it appropriate. What is telling is your description of these encounters with him, and frankly he ain't to talkative, or forthcoming in his verbal exchanges is he? Don't deal with them without your husband, in case this is one weird family, and they misread your intentions.

missmouse
May 12, 2008, 09:16 AM
HI. I think you should stay away from this guy he sounds a little creepy I mean how does your husband feel about this? My friend went through something like your problem and she just ignored the guy and eventually he got the message I do think this guy wants something from you but even if his parents are nice you only wanted to get your photos you weren't looking for a friendship