View Full Version : Kicked out & scared as hell!
CandyApple87
May 11, 2008, 09:13 PM
Hi guys... I need some help so please listen/read up and please reply. Im the first person in my family to attend college and that is so much pressue on me already, but I just found out that I am suspended from the university for the next year!! Yes an entire year!! I got suspended due to lack of passing english. I hate english but anyway I don't know what I'm going to do with myself. I can't just sit around and do nothing for an entire year... I just cant. I need some help from you guys because I don't know what the hell to do with myself. I refuse to be a failure in life so I can't let this hold me down but Im so confussed. PLEASE HELP ME GUYS!! If you took the time to read this please take the time to respond
mikezapwnzor
May 11, 2008, 09:23 PM
Get a job, make some money, come back next year ready to try harder. Case closed, meeting adjourned.
Illusion
May 11, 2008, 10:11 PM
I am so sorry for this, it must feel really scary and I understand. It will be all right, you need to make some plans now and not give up going back to school. I would still pursue some classes in another college, or seminar, something that interests you. You might want to prepare now so that you can re-enter college in a year - it will go by fast and you will need to decide now that you are going back. You have time to prepare and you need this time to get ready. Some places offer English writing / reading classes, tutoring - there are even instructional packages in cd format - or dvd format - whatever - that you can look into to prepare. Maybe it was just too overwhelming and you needed a break - but you'll get through this - sit down and make a list of what you want to do and then get going. Take a deep breath and know you'll be all right. Take care.
Clough
May 12, 2008, 02:17 AM
Excellent answer above!
You only truly fail if you fail to try! Everyone who is successful at whatever pursuit has failed many times. It's not just practice that makes perfect, but perfect practice that makes perfect! Yes, we even have to practice how to practice!
You will get through this and be successful with the things that you do in your life - if you keep trying and don't give up. When I was in the first grade, I was in the lowest reading group. My mom spent some extra time teaching me, and then it wasn't too long after that, that I was in the top reading group! Just needed some extra practice.
When I first started piano/organ lessons at about age ten, my first books were "Mother Goose at the Piano." I still have them to show to friends and private students of mine. I had to go through each book twice and write down all of the note names, all of the fingering and all of the counting. Some people might think, "Boy, what a dunce!" You know what? Through perseverance and practice, I am now one of the top piano, organ and keyboard players in my region!
You can turn your scars into stars!
I have found some quotes from basketball legend, Michael Jordan, to be particularly inspiring.
I can accept failure, but I can't accept not trying.
I've always believed that if you put in the work, the results will come.
I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.
I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.
If you're trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I've had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.
Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.
I've never been afraid to fail.
By the way, I was on the "five year plan" at the four year college I attended! :)
CandyApple87
May 13, 2008, 03:55 PM
Thanks so much guys. Your inspiring words mean a lot to me... thanks
Alty
May 13, 2008, 04:06 PM
Any chance of retaking the English program by summer course?
Fr_Chuck
May 13, 2008, 04:10 PM
Well a couple of things where is this college ? Since most public colleges and Jr colleges I know of, just failing one class only means you fail that class, does not suspend you from school.? Is this a private school ?
But you can also merely find another college to go to for next year
Clough
May 14, 2008, 06:48 AM
It's possible that CandyApple87's status at the school may have been probationary and contingent upon successfully completing certain courses because of low scores in high school. That could account for being suspended for a certain amount of time. But, we won't know that until he provides a little more information as to why things are as they are.
thegreatestviz
May 14, 2008, 06:57 AM
Well all the answers are exceptionally great
The best thing I think would be
Get a part time job
Study and practice english as much as possible
Join some classes if necessary
"faliures comes in life just to ensure you dont make the same mistakes again"-thats genuine too.lol..
If you won't fall how will you get up
If its night and dark
A time will come when there is sunrise and light will come your way
jrebel7
May 15, 2008, 01:04 AM
This has been suggested already but I had meant to post earlier but got side-tracked. Anyway, check local colleges, jr colleges or universities to see about taking a summer English Course. Summer classes are generally a little more relaxed so you might feel more comfortable taking a class you don't care for when you don't have the pressures of other classes.
However... if you do this, please check with the University you will be returning to and make sure the credits from this course you would be taking will transfer as full credit hours.
You could also find a college where credits would transfer as full credit hours to the University you will be returning to and take just some basic courses needed to graduate. That way you have not lost a year in your education time. The first two years are generally just classes that are required aside from a few classes that are toward your degree.
This is a scary time in any young persons life, just beginning their college years. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are a winner! Everyone has set backs. Even if you do as some have suggested (which are great suggestions) and take this next year to work, mature a bit, look into some options, the year is not wasted.
One other thought, it never hurts to meet with your advisor and show your sincere desire to do whatever needs to be done to rectify this situation. If you have a good advisor/ counselor they will generally work with a student who shows initiative to make things right and to make things work. I sincerely wish you the best whatever you decide.
CandyApple87
May 19, 2008, 03:47 PM
Thanks for the advive everyone... I feels good to get some help. THanks
mimi03
May 20, 2008, 07:25 AM
There's really good advice here I'd only add:
Not knowing your situation in detail but it may be possible to take courses else where... but if not, try to work and study and stay motivated!
I know how you feel being the first in the family to go to college, I was soooo overwhelmed and had questions that my immediate family couldn't answer, I also didn't get a lot of advice but had to learn from simple mistakes... So I think it's very important to get to know your advisor, go to tutoring sessions if they're available, take advantage of the resources your college offers... my college even offers a course that teaches you transitional and study stills (maybe you can find a course or seminar like this)...
Remember, the "fall" isn't important, what's important is how you pick yourself up!
CandyApple87
May 28, 2008, 09:14 PM
Thanks mimi03 it feels good knowing someone else knows how I feel.