I am a recent graduate (whoo hoo class 08 lol) well the day of my graduation everything was going fine until the whole family decided to go out to eat after the ceremony. When the check came everyone w suppose to pay for their own family well my aunt and grandmother snuck out of the restaurant w/o paying thie share leaving my mom and uncle to pay the bill. This infuriated my mama so much that she called them and demanded they come back to pay or she was calling the cops. My aunt and grandma returned with guns blazing. My aunt told my mom she should pay because it was my garduation and my mom retorted that they weren't even invited in the first place(because they do stupid like this!) so a loud argument ensued and the whole restaurant was looking at us. Now I'm not one to care what others think but this was pretty embarrassing especially since the people in the restaurant were the parents of my classmates. So to them I'm sure we looked like common criminals... anyway my aunt and grandma finally paid and left. After the restaurant I figured I could enjoy the rest of my day but noooo my mom starts to yell at my stepdad because he sat in front of my aunt and was talking to her. My mom and aunt hate each other and she took my stepdad sitting next to her conversing a sign of betrayl.She screamed at him and accused him of flirting with her because he sat by her. So all the way home from the resturaunt(2 hours of yelling)im subjected to her and him yelling and screaming at each other. Once we got to my homtown I figureed we could get the ice cream cake I ordered for myself but my mom said we couldn't get it because she was TOO ANGRY with my stepdad! Now I hate to sound like a brat but I thought I was the one graduating and I got more recognition from my friends and the college I attended than from my family (especially my mom). They were more concerned with not paying a bill and yelling at each other I barely got a "we re proud of you". I plan on moving away FARRRRR AWAY as soon as I can get a job and a car. So here's my question: am I wrong for being so mad ? Were they not acting selfish and immature?How should I address how I feel with my mom because no matter what shell act like I am unappreciative?

This sounds about like a normal family, (honestly) maybe not in public all the time but yep one family member talks about another, I am sure there were years of other issues that helped bring this to a head.

1. before anyone went to eat the payment arrangements should have been told directly, that everyone was paying for their own, and there should have been separate checks.

2. if this was not done but assumed, then that is another issue

I think this is ridiculous, your mother should have waited till later to talk (yell) at them about it all. As for this being your day, I am sorry it wasn't what you deserved. I am proud of you and also I am so happy that you recognize that you can do better than sit around in the same place and become these people. Be brave, smart and strong and get the heck out of there so you can make something of yourself and lead a happy healthy life! Good Luck and Congrats on the graduation! ;)

I hope you go and get a darn IceCream cake and eat it all by yourself! ;)