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Specker Wrecker
May 8, 2008, 03:05 PM
Here is my scenario:

I'm a junior in high school; and I like a Freshman girl that I've only spoken with a couple times and those occasions are few and far between. I don't think I've ever really seemed interested; and I actually wasn't until very recently. Now that I am interested though, I did some 'investigating' via mutual friends into her 'social status' at the moment. It seems she has a boyfriend, but the two are still trying to recover from a recent break-up.

Is there anything I can do to maybe see if she is interested in trying other options? I'm sort of nervous to try any venue I've thought of myself...

nova225
May 9, 2008, 05:28 PM
Most girls can tell if a guy is interested in her or not, and she probably noticed that you weren't interested in her awhile ago. Now that you are interested in her, and she's having boyfriend problems this is the best time to enter her life. She is very vulnerable, and she needs a shoulder to cry on (don't take advantage of her feelings... cater to them) Become her friend, but at the same time show her that you are interested in her. Don't enter her life like hurricane Katrina; take things slow. Remember you don't want to be the REBOUND GUY. Try this...

♥converse with her at school for awhile (make her laugh), but respect that she has a BF.
♥ask for her number; if she says no give her your number, and tell her if she needs someone to talk to you'll be here.
♥when she finally calls be a friend, but make sure she gets the hint that you ARE interested in her.
♥when you see her at school; give a flower (right off the ground... something simply)

Remember girls talk about there feelings, and they want someone to listen to what they have to say. Guys try to fix whatever problems they have. Don't fix….LISTEN.

JBeaucaire
May 9, 2008, 05:41 PM
"Hi, Sallly, just wanted you to know I think you're incredibly nice and I would be love to catch a movie and burger with you sometime, if you're interested. I know you might have a b/f already, I don't know, I just wanted you to know I thought you were cool. Here's my number, call me anytime. Take care."

Now, wasn't that easy?

Specker Wrecker
May 18, 2008, 09:51 PM
Well, I was over at her house today and we were playing games and whatnot and she brought up that it's her anniversary with her boyfriend (1 month). I'm guessing she was trying to tell me she wasn't available; though I could be wrong.

Anyhow, we talked for a few hours about random stuff; high school stuff, you know. And then I thought I'd better leave for home as it was getting late. So we bid farewell and I was off. I do think we're kind of getting to know each other better (I've been chatting with her a lot more, recently), I think she is still loyal to her boyfriend though, which is fine.

I am just curious, should I even continue to hang out with her and risk getting stamped as a "Friend Only"? Or should I maybe take things to other levels and let her know what I feel and maybe ask her out on a casual date?

Kati-Katt
May 18, 2008, 09:59 PM
No you shouldn't stop being her friend, if you stay her friend that helps her trust you with things she wouldent be able to with other people. When she needs it try giving her advice or cheer her up when she is feeling down. And as long as it takes of being a "friend only" she will eventually start liking you, it's always happening. The girl eventually falls for the best friend. But wait until she's done with her boyfried. You don't want to get into anything... or ruin your reputation with her. Over time she'll look to you for almost your opinion on anything... that will build respect that no one can break unless prooven by you that it should be broken. And if you ever want to know over time that she likes you try asking out a girl that is from class and tell her all about it and if she seems akward to the situation or she doesen't want to hear it or she gets mad about it or talks mean to the girl then you have a jelous girl on your hands which means she'd like you. It doesent always happen so if you do the jealousy test do it after a couple of months being a really close friend... and don't let her know it was to find out if she liked you.

Specker Wrecker
May 19, 2008, 09:47 PM
Hmm, well, I'll keep you kind advisers updated as I go. ;)

As it stands, we're on a week-to-week speaking thing. It all depends on circumstances, and whatnot. I'd like to become better friends with her sooner or later, but not sure how to go about that without being direct. I guess just keep hangin' out as much as possible.

pimp_mah_alpaka
May 19, 2008, 09:53 PM
Just be there for her.. always.. if they break up.. stay with her (be all ears and listen listen LISTEN) if they don't.. stay with her and help her through anything that she needs help with. She will appreciate this and maybe even notice you