I really just want to know is there any type of way to control ejaculation better.im 20 yrs old and I know my body . I know when to pull out for an breather,but even then sometimes I wind up losing my composer. I try to take my mind off what I'm doing and count abc's but that sometimes don't work.I have to be careful of trying to take my mind off intercourse why in intercourse so I won't lose erection that has happen only a couple of times.what can I do?is there anything left for me to try?

Have you been training yourself with the hold off technique?

100% normal.

You may need to just "fire once before reloading"... you'll last lobger then...
Tell her the first will be quick and then after 10+ minute rest you'll last longer.

All you can do is spend time on HER foreeplay FIRST... get her close... or all the way there with mouth, tongue, a few penetrations... and of course hand...


In about 5-8 years you'll last as long as you want the first time...
Don't sweat it now...

Enjoy

How long are you trying to last?

If you can stroke for 3-5 minutes... that is enough according to recent studies on people's sex life.

Of course, you pay a lot of attention in foreplay to making your woman feel all hot and ready for you to enter. :)

Best wishes,

I really just want to know is there any type of way to control ejaculation better.im 20 yrs old and i know my body . i know when to pull out for an breather,but even then sometimes i wind up losing my composer. I try to take my mind off of what im doing and count abc's but that sometimes dont work.i have to be careful of trying to take my mind off intercourse why in intercourse so i wont lose erection that has happen only a couple of times.what can i do?is there anything left for me to try?
To answer all 3 of you questions I do spend lots of time with foreplay.it has been successful in the ejaculation of my woman but not helpful in me controlling myself better.and yes,I last longer on the second time then I do the first time and No I don't believe I have tried the hold off technique?How is it done? And is it hard to do?

The following techniques will be beneficial in delaying ejaculation:
The "stop and start" method – in this method, the man learns to recognise the stage after which he cannot control ejaculation. The treatment method trains the person to remove the stimulus just before that stage is reached so that the urge to ejaculate is controlled. For example, when during masturbation, the man reaches a point just before ejaculating, he stops the stimulus until he starts losing the erection. Once the stage is past, he can resume the activity. This process is repeated again and again until the individual is able to delay ejaculation till the time he wishes. This method called the 'Masters and Johnson method', is most effective when the help of the partner is sought during actual intercourse.

The squeeze technique – in this method, the partner gently squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of ejaculation thereby "cancelling" the orgasm. This process can be continued until the couple decides mutually to reach the climax.


Hope this helps..
Cheers

Try iusing a condom to desensitize yourself a little bit. There are also some topical products you can apply to "slow you down" a bit.

How about just making sure she gets hers BEFORE sex, so that if it goes too fast, you can just take a breather and go again, or you can just be done because both of you have already been satisfied?