I have been with my SO for 6-1/2 years... pretty sure all of the lust and love melted away at least 4 years ago (on his part)... I have kept trying to be happy but nothing semms to work and now I just feel like I've settled. I truly don't believe he has "loved" for many years, and now I am just tired... even tired of being around him.

We have 4 kids together which makes the idea of leaving pretty unrealistic. He won't go to counceling, won't even try to help out (in our relationship or god forbid around the house) but of course he wants intimacy.

The more he pushes for the intimacy, the further away from him I want to be.

If he can't even attempt to make things in our relationship better, why does he expect that I would want to be with him physically.

Anyway, I believe we create our own happiness.

Apparently I need an outlet and people to talk to. I suppose I am starting to wear down and now my "friends" see how unhappy I am.

If the other half of your relationship isn't willing to do anything to make it better... what can be done? I am out of ideas...

Well I have been married for 20 yrs and I can say that I have felt the same.
I think most long term relashionships go through dry spells. I have felt like giving up before, and then things somehow get better. Up and down.
I have been close to divorce before but like you said when you have children it tends to make you work harder at making it work. Have you ever left him?
Maybe if he has a wake up call of some sort he will realize that he better shape up.
It worked for me more than once. Lol. Hope this was some help good luck to you.