I have been married about five years now. Around 9 months ago I started feeling like I wanted out of the marriage. So I told him how I felt. With-in two months he was having a cyber affair with his best friend of many years { Yes it was a women} Don't know why but now I want him more then ever before. He has promised that it is over and that he will never do that to me again,, and yes I relize I pushed him away by saying what I said.So now here is the question,, CAN I TRUST HIM OR WILL HE DO IT AGAIN?? They work at the same place with acouple of thousand other people but everyday it kills me wondering what is going on at work. I am driving my own self crazy here!! So tell me,, if you cheat on your girlfriend or wife and you get caught, will you do it again?? Talk to me!!

You said it was a cyber affair, exactly what is a cyber affair. You said that these people work together, so It might have been more do you think? You feeling like wanting out of a marriage gave him the green light? Why did you want out of the marriage?

Counseling is needed it is up to both of you whether you want to mend bridges and move forward together or not. Each situation is different, so I can not say either way.

Around 9 months ago I started feeling like I wanted out of the marriage. So I told him how I felt.
Why did you want out?? What changed your mind?? What do you expect from a guy when you tell him you want out??