See I practically run out of topics to talk abiut on a date
What should I talk about?I mean I can't just sit there and stare at her.. im kind of shy person
So gimmie some topics to tok about...
Shoud I hold her hands?
I'm taking her for dinner next week end
:)

Any ideas? Rep

Well, you could just sit there and stare into her eyes! I do remember a very beautiful girl from Holland that I dated a long time ago. Her name was Helma. We would sit there and look into each other's eyes as well as hold hands... It was cool! But, that was then, this is now. People are different these days...

What moved you to ask her out in the first place? Looks? Common interest? Something else?

People don't have to always be really chatty on dates. Maybe she will do most of the talking and you will just listen and remark with something brief, now and then. That's the way that I usually am. I'm not usually so talkative with single individuals - unless I am teaching them. I am much more talkative in front of groups that I am leading. The exception would be with my daughter. She's the only one that I really like to talk to on the telephone. We can talk forever on the phone...

My point here is, that there really isn't any set of rules as to how much and what people need to talk about when dating. Sometimes it's okay to just enjoy enjoy getting out and being with someone. A person's mere presence can speak volumes... I'm assuming that you have asked her out and she has accepted. Is that correct?

Are you planning to do anything else besides dinner with her? What about a concert or just a walk somewhere? How about a drive if the weather is nice? Are you expected to plan the date? Or, will the two of you be planning it together?

Just some thoughts here from me...

Hopefully, others will also be along to add theirs.

hi clough.. I met her the other day in a drink bar with her friends
we got introduced by friends and I just couldn't get my eyes off her.we started talking on sms and then phone I then asked her out(proposed her to go out with me) and this is going to be our first date.I decided yet only to take her for dinner.I didn't keep much because I can't think of anything.
I am 18 and so is she.we study in different colleges and I really like the way she smiles and sometimes her expressions are heart-throbbing.I feel sometimes a missed a heartbeat.. but I haven't told her because I'm not sure as yet is it love or not.

hope you guys can suggest something's...

If I was stuck for something to say I would talk about current events. Avoid money, politics and religion though, unless she is actually interested in it, such as a member of a certain campaign party. Or she is one of those people who loves a fight.

Talk about strange things you read in the news such as whether you think the man who grew his finger back because of 'pixie dust' was an overeggeration of a bored media.

Find out her interests and ask about them.
For example if she likes animals or riding:
So what is the difference between a horse and a pony anyway?

Tell funny story, preferably where it is one of your friends who has made an idiot of themselves not you. Although self deprocation can work wonders.
Example:
If you are in an italian restaurant, this reminds me of the time I bet my friend he couldn't eat a whole bowl of speggetti in five minutes...

Most people love to talk about themselves (even if they deneig it) so ask her questions about her life and listen to her responses. Where did you grow up? What was your favourite class in school?

Find out about pets (loads of stories to be had here) and family.

Basically ust be interested in what she has to say and you can't go wrong.


EDIT

If she is at college ask about her course, what she likes about it, if there are any weird people/lecturers, what she wants to do when she leaves. Introduce these topics of conversation by mentioning something similar form you own course first.
Example
I do biology is all right except at the moment I have a lecturer that looks like an embryo, which is really disconcerting seeing as he teaches developmental biology. How's your course going?

But make it flow more obviously :P

Hello, Viz!

Of course it is a crush at this point. It is best to realistic with that. It takes awhile to develop real love for someone.

Is Muscat in Oman? It would be helpful for me and others to give you advice here as to what to do and also talk about if we know where you are located.

Thanks!

Hello, clough!
Yeah I guess it's a crush...
Well how will it help even if you know the location?
Anyways-
Yes muscat is the capital of oman... its in middleast..

Thanks...

It would help to know the location because someone here might have idea as to where you might be able to do things based upon where you are located. Thanks!

Conversation flows very naturally. You're just not taking the same mindset into your dates that you do when you're just walking through your day normally. You need to just be natural.

Most good conversation is interactive. Ideas and thoughts flow from one to another. You can plan some topics ahead of time, but why bother? The point of dating is getting to know each other.

So, tell stories. Plain and simple. Questions should be more in the form of "this happened to me...what about you?" Your stories (not TOO long unless you're a funny guy and she's laughing) should lead to stories back of her own.

Stories of bad thing happening to you are the best. Once you two start laughing at yourselves, the evening will disappear time flies so fast.

If you have nothing much to say, then take her to a noisy place. That tends to smooth out the perceived boredom. To be honest, I think men and women are on different wavelengths, but that's neither here nor there.

From experience, I never ask close-ended questions. Get her talking by asking her about her thoughts on things. Even though you may not be paying attention, at least she'll think you're interested. Also, never start talking too much about yourself. Nobody, unless you guys are married wants to hear about all the stuff you've done and seen and blah blah blah. Guys naturally take the lead in things so be spontaneous and you should never let there be more than 10 seconds of silence in between the two of you unless you are eating.

Tell her she looks amazing. Talk about want you like to do in your spare time. Tell her about your interests and ask her about hers. If you know any funny stories about you and your friends that would be a good way to make her smile.

Most people love to talk about themselves so ask her questions about her life and listen to her responses. Where did she go to school, her family, her friends how you got connected if your friends are connected.
Be as easy going and positive as you can be entuniastic about who you are and what you want to be. Girls love guys who are interesting and engaging. Don't worry if there is silence. I use to go to dinner with my boyfriend and we'd just watch each other each starring into each others eyes and hold hands. Sometimes people are happy being in one anothers company. But I guess for this for date, you don't want to give everything away be yourself and it will come natural to be honest that's the only way to go. After dinner buy her a rose can be a nice way to end the date. :)

Is it fine if I kiss the girl on her cheeks after leaving her back home... I mean on our first date.. is it okay if I found out that that she is intersted and likes me... should I kiss her on the cheek or peck or what should I do.. im confused now..

Rep

I think that, at the end of the date, the gentlemanly thing to do would be to escort her to her door. If things really went well on the date and there is a mutual interest between the two of you for things to continue into the future, then I think that it would be okay to give her a light kiss on a cheek. But, I really don't know the customs of your culture concerning things like this. If it were me, and where I live, I think that a light kiss on one cheek would be appropriate. I wouldn't be kissing her on the lips at this point, though. It's best to wait for physical things to happen after you have gotten to know each other well on a mental and emotional level. Take things slow - steady, easy and... sure!