View Full Version : Your best friend being friends with your ex?
Romefalls19
May 1, 2008, 12:37 PM
Quick question, as I am dealing with this right now. It appears as though my ex and my bestfriend(a girl) have become BFF's. I had talked to my bestfriend(alicia) about this before and was told she barely talks to her, so I let it drop. Then recently I signed onto her myspace to leave a comment about her being a stranger and low and behold they have been talking. What bothered me even more was how Alicia was saying my ex was better off now! When she was confronted on this, she claimed they haven't talked in a month when the past 3 days they have had a conversation about how they miss each other and need to hang out soon.
So my question, do I have a reason to be angry at this? Why does my ex feel the need to try and be friends with my circle of friends?
COOKIE MONSTER
May 1, 2008, 02:28 PM
Share, they were your friends first but hay you can't keep them all to yourself.when you and your ex was together,you and your ex probably spent a lot of time with your friends so now they are her friends as well
Let them hang out,its nothing to do with you really,they can hang out with who ever they like. They don't need to ask your permission
miller3
May 1, 2008, 02:35 PM
Romefalls,
I can't believe you are asking for advice, you are one of the best people on here to ask advice from!!
Romefalls19
May 1, 2008, 07:42 PM
Cookie, I wouldn't care if she hung out with her, but the fact that she blantantly lied about it to me is where I'm angry. She said that "we only hung out when you were there so I don't see why I would still want to talk to her. I've been friends with you longer"
Miller, Ha ha I'm flattered by the compliment pal. I'm just happy it's advice about a friend rather than my ex ha ha. While it is indirectly my ex, it's not her petty games that I'm finding humorous right now so I feel I'm OK.. I just don't appreciate being lied to
friend4u178
May 1, 2008, 08:07 PM
Rome
Unfortunately you can't control who anyone sees or speaks to , and they shouldn't have to walk on eggshells if they feel it may affect you which is maybe why she lied to you.
If it worries you that they talk or are friends then distance yourself from them both until you are comfortable with it. If it doesn't bother you then tell your friend this , then she won't have to lie about it.
Just my take on it.
talaniman
May 1, 2008, 09:36 PM
Rome , I think that you have to accept certain facts about people, and act accordingly. The facts are you may have to distance your friend, and keep her at arms length, and take what she says with a grain of salt. Break up changes circles, so be proactive in getting new friends, and different circles. One of the fallouts of failed relationships.