My relationship with my boyfriend for the last 4 months has been a roller coaster. 2 years ago I met him and at the time was in a relationship, I've always been a faithful women, and when he phoned me, I avoided his calls and we never spoke because I had regretted giving him my phone # while being in a relationship in the first place. Ironically a year later he called me out of the blue, and we have been dating ever since. In January my ex-boyfriend emailed me to wish me a Happy Birthday and let me know that his grandfather had died. I have had no contact with my ex and when the email was sent to me I discussed it with my boyfriend and ask him his opinion on what I should do. He explained that he wasn't comfortable with me talking to my ex and said that I should do what I thought was right. I received the email just days after my aunt had passed could relate, and the relationship with the ex had ended so badly, that I guess a part of me for selfish reasons emailed him back and said nothing more then thank you and that I was sorry to hear of his lose. It was my way in my eyes of being a better person, the bigger person. When my boyfriend asked me if I had emailed him back, I told him the truth and even let him read the email and our relationship hasn't been the same since. He's very upset with me that I clearly set him down and ask him how he felt about the situation and then didn't take his feeling into account. "Put another mans feelings more his." He tells me that I didn't speak to him for a year while I was with my ex, why is it OK for me to talk to my ex while I'm with him. Since then he's turned into a completely different person. He's become more social, has come home late, and once didn't come home at all. He's started to talk to other people and tells me, that I've set a list of guidelines and rules and then I broke them, so why should he obey them? Things have become so bad, both constant fighting, both constant crying, both almost carrying a list of things we've done to each other only to throw it in one another’s face each time were angry. He's recently moved out and is staying with a friend, originally to give us space; he said that he wanted me to see that he was here because he wanted to be, and not because he had to be. I love this man with all my heart, and I know that he loves me just the same and I know for certain that there is no infidelity. The space between us however, has backfired. I'm so lonely and the constant fighting and placed me in an emotional state where I've even been placed on medication. I'm so confused by mixed signals, every few days I feel like everything is going to work out, and then we fight again, or create another issue. Some days he talks about our future, the next he considers us "dating" and we're not in a relationship. Some days he's head over heels in love with me, other days he doesn't know if could can ever get over what I've done and spend the rest of his life with someone who puts our before him. Clearly my friends are tired of hearing about this... because every other day it seems the situation changes. Some days I tell them things are good and the next I'm crying hysterically and tell them it's over. I told him that I can't handle this anymore, and that I can't continue to be hurt because he can't move forward. I don't know what to do anymore, he calls me everyday. We're best friends, we share finances, if it is over this time, how can we just be friends, how do I pretend I'm not hurting? How do I get off the rollercoaster? How do you get someone to move past something? Was my action really as bad as he thinks it was?

In one sentence:
You're in love with a drama queen.
I would know-I act that way sometimes.. I blame my first relationship, but I'm trying to improve on it as I know how frustrating it can be for a possible partner.
The chances are, he isn't going to change his ways.. He will continue to overreact with everything and make an issue out of nothing. (Atleast this is what I'm assuming he is like from what I gather)... He probably wants your attention more than anything, but I think you should try and talk to him... Communicate and let him know how you feel about this and how you can't keep going, but mean it.
If he doesn't know you're serious about things then he will continue to over react and you will continue to hurt.

My relationship with my boyfriend for the last 4 months has been a roller coaster. 2 years ago I met him and at the time was in a relationship, I've always been a faithful women, and when he phoned me, I avoided his calls and we never spoke because I had regretted giving him my phone # while being in a relationship in the first place. Ironically a year later he called me out of the blue, and we have been dating ever since. In January my ex-boyfriend emailed me to wish me a Happy Birthday and let me know that his grandfather had died. I have had no contact with my ex and when the email was sent to me I discussed it with my boyfriend and ask him his opinion on what I should do. He explained that he wasn't comfortable with me talking to my ex and said that I should do what I thought was right. I received the email just days after my aunt had passed could relate, and the relationship with the ex had ended so badly, that I guess a part of me for selfish reasons emailed him back and said nothing more then thank you and that I was sorry to hear of his lose. It was my way in my eyes of being a better person, the bigger person. When my boyfriend asked me if I had emailed him back, I told him the truth and even let him read the email and our relationship hasn't been the same since. He's very upset with me that I clearly set him down and ask him how he felt about the situation and then didn't take his feeling into account. "Put another mans feelings more his." He tells me that I didn't speak to him for a year while I was with my ex, why is it ok for me to talk to my ex while I'm with him. Since then he's turned into a completely different person. He's become more social, has come home late, and once didn't come home at all. He's started to talk to other people and tells me, that I've set a list of guidelines and rules and then I broke them, so why should he obey them? Things have become so bad, both constant fighting, both constant crying, both almost carrying a list of things we've done to each other only to throw it in one another’s face each time were angry. He's recently moved out and is staying with a friend, originally to give us space; he said that he wanted me to see that he was here because he wanted to be, and not because he had to be. I love this man with all my heart, and I know that he loves me just the same and I know for certain that there is no infidelity. The space between us however, has backfired. I'm so lonely and the constant fighting and placed me in an emotional state where I've even been placed on medication. I'm so confused by mixed signals, every few days I feel like everything is going to work out, and then we fight again, or create another issue. Some days he talks about our future, the next he considers us "dating" and we're not in a relationship. Some days he's head over heels in love with me, other days he doesn't know if could can ever get over what I've done and spend the rest of his life with someone who puts our before him. Clearly my friends are tired of hearing about this... because every other day it seems the situation changes. Some days I tell them things are good and the next I'm crying hysterically and tell them it's over. I told him that I can't handle this anymore, and that I can't continue to be hurt because he can't move forward. I don't know what to do anymore, he calls me everyday. We're best friends, we share finances, if it is over this time, how can we just be friends, how do I pretend I'm not hurting? How do I get off the rollercoaster? How do you get someone to move past something? Was my action really as bad as he thinks it was?
The thing is, I don't think he's a drama queen at all. I think that because of my own insecurities in issues, I've created this silent rule of how we're to treat each other. I don't know that I would have wanted him to reply if the table was turned, yet I did it anyway. I feel like I've lost his trust, though I wish he wasn't viewing it as cheating, maybe it's a form of it? I just want things to go back to the way they were, I want him to move past it, and I don't know how to help him.

My relationship with my boyfriend for the last 4 months has been a roller coaster.
Get off the rollercoaster, and let him ride by himself for a while. He does this because you let him, and he will keep doing it until you have had enough. What a drama queen. How can he be worth all this confusion?