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shrtskrt1234
Apr 30, 2008, 06:11 PM
A few weeks ago I was in a dilema. I asked if I should tell this girl that I love her and I got advice from a few people that told me not to tell her cause it could ruin my current relationship with her. I'm trying to listen to that advice but it's not that easy, especially since she's my prom date. It's just hard for me to stop thinking about her cause we have such a good time when we hang out. When ever I'm in a bad mood or something, and I see her, she just makes me so much happier. When I've tried to forget about the feelings I have for her, I'll just happen to see her somewhere, and we'll start talking, and I'm right back at square one. I'm at the point where I think I should just tell her how I feel because I can't think of anything else to do to try to get rid of these feellings about her. If I tell her and she doesn't feel the same way, it'll suck big time but that might be the only way for me to forget about her cause I would know it couldn't happen between us. If you have any more advice for me, it would be greatly appriciated.

TALOST
Apr 30, 2008, 08:58 PM
I don' think there's anything wrong with sharing your feelings. You'l never now how she feels about you if you don't. Who knows maybe she feels the same, after all she's your prom date? She must like you on some level. I say be true to yourself and tell her how you feel

workedtoohard
Apr 30, 2008, 09:25 PM
Don't listen to all the flaming vaginas out there. Secondly you just don't tell a "friend" that you love her. You know why I know she is just a friend because you call her a prom date and not your girlfriend. Here is a man's lesson. You kiss and flirt and date and THEN tell her you love her. Stop watching all the emo love stories on TV. Trust me, if you listen to me, you will owe me when she tells you that she loves you first!

kp2171
Apr 30, 2008, 09:39 PM
Well... I respect the opinions of the other posters concerning your telling a good friend who has a boyfriend that you care for her.

But at some point its your life, your choice.

Look... at your age, everything is bigger and larger than it really is. Your first love is all encompassing and honestly, it's the newness of it all that blows things out of proportion. I'm not saying love isn't a big thing, but young love is just skewed, intense, blinded, thrilling, and madening.

When I'm an old man, I'm guessing my biggest regrets aren't going to be the dumb things I did that blew up I'm my face... it'll be the things I never did. Those are the things thatll tick me off...

So... yeah, there's a decent chance that you might blow it with this great friend who has a boyfriend. I have loved or cared for women I couldn't be with. It happens. If you just think this is going to eat you alive, then you can do it... just be ready for all possibilities. She's likely going to need time to process it either way.

Another issue... she's with a guy who has cheated on her in the past... and then she got back with him. Some girls go for bad boys for a time... so don't assume that spewing on and on about love is going to be what makes her leave him. Just becaue you don't think he is right for her doesn't mean she won't choose him.

talaniman
Apr 30, 2008, 09:46 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/love-her-but-she-has-boyfriend-already-what-do-do-206644.html, That you left out the fact she has a b/f who is also a friend of yours, is very telling and I think your looking for someone to tell you to go for it. I won't, and you still haven't answered the question from your last post, about the out of school b/f. I think its in your best interests to not go overboard with this female, and it would help you a lot to find some one who is more emotionally available to you.

workedtoohard
Apr 30, 2008, 09:51 PM
I don't always agree with Talanimam, but he certainly does rule when people repost questions and leave out details. She has a boyfriend who is your friend! Ahahahahahahaahahahahaha hahaahahahahahaahahahah Now that's funny! Hahaahahahahhaahahha