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Icazn
Apr 29, 2008, 03:22 PM
I am in my sixties. Divorced for five years after thirty seven years of marriage. Met a man who said he loves me. He is extremely generous with his money and as a travel partner. He is very well off. Has promised to take care of me the rest of my life and that I do not have to worry about the financial part... he will take care of that. I have trouble trusting that he will do what he says.

He does drink and lot of alcohol. There have been a few incidences in the last two years were he has reacted nagatively with alcohol when he feels threatened.

We talk for hours. I really enjoy travelling with him. We communicate on so many levels. I keep running towards him and then I run away.

Lately he has stopped pursuring me. When I thought I would lose him I am considering moving in with him for a transitons period to see if we can make this work.

I am not good on my own.

The truth is that at this age someone you can get along with comes along only once in a blue moon. The truth is that I am not perfect and I have emotional problems. We are two lost souls trying to find someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Either one of us want to live alone. It would be extremely hard to find anyone who offers what he offers. He offers financial and emotional security...

I do have other men who want to get to know me. It is such a lot of work... If I take time to meet men... I will lose him... Takes time and sometimes I feel I should just work on this relationship.

My close friends and family think I am making the biggest mistake of my life if I choose to go with this man. Not one person thinks it would work.

I see the good in this man. I know he is capable of very dark emotions.

Do I spend the rest of my life living in my little condo or do I make an effort to search out the offer he is giving me.

The offer... I know could change at any time. Nothing is one hundred percent.

I am so confused... I am trying to take time but he is pushing... for an answer.

I need to make a decision. I cannot waffle any longer.

COOKIE MONSTER
Apr 29, 2008, 03:41 PM
Hun if I was you I would run

The dark side of this man could get darker,which wouldn't be good
The drinking is not good this will only make things worse

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a drunk?

Don't rush in to anything you are not sure about
Don't let anybody rush you in to anything

You should know this

Fr_Chuck
Apr 29, 2008, 04:30 PM
If the offer is temp, then he is to.

And I can only guess what you mean by dark side, but my guess since it involves drinking to me means it is not worth it.

It sounds like you are looking at the money and that life and may be willing to give up other things for that.

There are a lot of men at 60 alone and looking many are poor but would love to share what they have.

talaniman
Apr 29, 2008, 05:25 PM
How long have you known him, and how long have you been dating? Even at 60, you should take the time to know someone, and not be influenced just because your lonely, or in your words, "I am not good on my own" . Oft times we think its gold, and its not, so take the time to NOT be pressured, and make the best decision possible, with the facts you have. Strange you mention other options but you let him push, and your still waffling. That may be your insides warning you to be cautious, so that's what I would do, were I you. Take the time to be sure of him, and your own feelings.