I am dating a guy and we haven't had sex yet. He has a very hairy chest and back. I even got a glimps of the jungle down below. I like him... but, the guy needs to do some major weed wacking. ESPECIALLY THE BACK... UGHHHH! How do I get him clean that up without being mean about it?

I don't know how you are going to get your guy to get rid of the hair on his back?

Just taking care of our faces everyday is enough of a task. (I know about the legs too, OK)

How do you think he would take care of that anyway?

If the hair is enough to turn you away, find another man.

I had the same problem with my daughters father. Just simply tell him that u like him a lot and you want to go furthur with the relationship but all thaqt hair is simply a turn off and you would like him to shave it.

I had the same problem with my daughters father. Just simply tell him that u like him a lot and you want to go furthur with the relationship but all thaqt hair is simply a turn off and you would like him to shave it.
Do you have a web cam?

I would like to see you demonstrate the shaving of your own back?

Call in the sheep shearing people.

But this is just the way his body is, if you can't love him for it, what if he requried you to change something about you ?

I don't expect him to shave his back. Waxing is much better and he can pay someone to have it done. Money wouldn't be an issue. If I wax... shouldn't he? I see it as a grooming issue. Like getting a hair cut, brushing your teeth, shaving the face, legs, etc.

I don't expect him to shave his back. Waxing is much better and he can pay someone to have it done. Money wouldn't be an issue. If I wax...shouldn't he? I see it as a grooming issue. Like getting a hair cut, brushing your teeth, shaving the face, legs, etc.
Right or wrong, guys are supposed to have hair in places that girls are not.

You can reach your legs, and your face, and your teeth.

Since I have no personal experience with waxing, just how much does that cost anyway?

Again, the hair is him, if you don't like him, find yourself a smoother man.

Besides, waxing sounds painful, he needs to find a woman who can appreciate his fur and not be disgusted with it.

Just my opinion, no insult intended.

Doing a guys entire body is a major task... even shaving it is no small thing to keep up with. Some women get up in arms about shaving their hoochie and that's only a couple square inches... a guys body is several square feet of skin, forget the figure but its double digits.

If he is dark haired its even a bigger deal.

Wife asked to shave my back and chest before because I'm sort of medium hairy...

A few weeks of that and she gave up on the thought, and I am hardly one of the hairier guys on the beach.

Would you be upset if he demanded you get a boob job because he likes either bigger or smaller boobs? How about the nose.


Some things are easy to deal with and others tend to be a bit much due to scale.

Now if he doesn't have a problem with it its something else... and keep in mind you will be shaving his back.

If you seriously want to ask him to get waxed... go get yourself a full brazillian wax... and keep it like that for the better part of a year. If you can do that then maybe he can reciprocate for you.

Waxing is a pretty painful process... he is going to suffer more on each visit than you will cumulatively over several years of keeping a full brazilian wax done because of having 10-20 times as much skin area done. Who knows what that would cost to keep up with.

WOW, if I were him, I would drop you like a hot potato... what nerve... you are still a virtual stranger, not an old friend! He sounds "beautiful", specially the mass of dark hair around his genitals!! :):):)

If he's a real man, he's going to want to see if you are any good in bed before he goes to any time and expense to alter his appearance.

Just my opinion, but I've been told that I'm old fashioned. :)

Good Luck, Girl!!

WOW, if I were him, I would drop you like a hot potato


Thankfully you are not him and he is very into me and unfortunately my question still hasn't been answered as to how I can tactfully have him take care of it.

He is a very nice guy and I really enjoy spending time with him.

His whole back is not covered in hair. But, there are patches of long hair. I seriously do not think that it would be more painful than a Brazilian wax as the vagina and surrounding area is much more sensitive... AND I don't have a problem with that. So... if I will wax shouldn't he?

For the person that asked... to wax a back is approx. $75 which is the same as a Brazilian wax. It lasts a lot longer than shaving.

From my experience (limited as it is) every guy that I have been with seems to seriously trim if not shave down below.

This guy is quite a bit older than the typical guy that I am use to dating. Maybe that has something to do with it.

There is no "tactful" way to tell someone that you aren't attracted to something about them, whether it is bad breath, balding, something stuck in their teeth, nose hairs, body hair, fat thighs, stretch marks, small boobs, etc etc etc.

You just... bring it up. Nicely. Gently. You say something like "honey, I love you, but your back hair has GOT to go."

Expect himm to get hurt and angry. I mean, if he told you that there was no WAY he could live with you as a size 16, because he wouldn't be sexually attracted to you, and you'd better slim down to a size 10, wouldn't YOU be hurt and upset, and wonder how he could love YOU, if he didn't love ALL of you?

If you can't bring this up, you don't have a good relationship anyway. A relationship is about communication and trust, and if you can't communicate on an honest level, you're dooming yourself.

There is no "tactful" way to tell someone that you aren't attracted to something about them, whether it is bad breath, balding, something stuck in their teeth, nose hairs, body hair, fat thighs, stretch marks, small boobs, etc etc etc.

You just....bring it up. Nicely. Gently. You say something like "honey, I love you, but your back hair has GOT to go."

Expect himm to get hurt and angry. I mean, if he told you that there was no WAY he could live with you as a size 16, because he wouldn't be sexually attracted to you, and you'd better slim down to a size 10, wouldn't YOU be hurt and upset, and wonder how he could love YOU, if he didn't love ALL of you?

If you can't bring this up, you don't have a good relationship anyway. A relationship is about communication and trust, and if you can't communicate on an honest level, you're dooming yourself.

Thanks... and I agree... since I haven't thought of anything on my own. But, honestly... if I was asked to wax because it would feel better sexually... it wouldn't hurt my feelings. Part of the reason why I don't like a lot of hair on a mans body is for the same reason and I don't like getting hair stuck in my teeth. Kissing his chest right now would be like kissing the top of his head. How could that be enjoyable for him? I don't even know if he has nipples... I couldn't see them.

I don't expect him to shave his back. Waxing is much better and he can pay someone to have it done. Money wouldn't be an issue. If I wax...shouldn't he? I see it as a grooming issue. Like getting a hair cut, brushing your teeth, shaving the face, legs, etc.

If money is not an issue I suggest laser treatment. I do not know much about it but from what I have heard it can permanently remove hair on the body. I personally like to keep myself trimmed even if I am not in a relationship with a woman, although I do not have a hairy back.

Tell the truth!

Tell him that you think his hair is disgusting and unnatural. Remind him that he is old. Being of the younger generation, a desire for a hairless partner is the fad. You are into this fad. If he wants to be with you, he must please you by pretending to be something he is not.

It is more advisable to find a younger, easily trainable partner who would not be offended by being told to change the way he was made. Never mind that this guy is sweet and that you are really into him. He is hairy and you find the way he is disgusting and old-fashioned.

If the two of you really hit it off, do you envision him waxing his back for the next 50 years?

OK what aboutthis then, and I'm talking from my experiences with my hubby and my 2 sons here, all are very hairy, my hubby bought a hair trimmer for doing his own head, no there are places that he can't reach and see what he's doing so has me help him. Like you I don't like a lot of hair, so when helpinghim I just said to him do you mind if I trim your back? He then stood up and with the blade guard on to a number 4 I started, I had him stand up and it was like shearing a sheep, once I did his back he got me to carry on going, the amount by the time I was finnished was amazing but something that even the boys have found is that getting showered, it doesn't take so long to dry off and the towels aren't soaked after, this was a big plus point for them apart from the look itself, they felt more comfortable and able to get dressed quicker istead of waiting for it to dry off properly so the clothes didn't stick.

OK so how to seel this idea tohim? Tell him you have been reading a mag and in it it said just that, ask him if he has ever thought about it, and if so you would like to help him if he wanted, just plant the seed of the idea in his head and then give him a few weeks to think about it, I bet it works for you.

Oh just to add my dad was like what you describe, had a rug on his back. He was constantly damp from being to hot and sweaty due to it, so anyway one day I was sat waxing my legs in the room and he was watching me and laughing about it, but after 10 minutes he just laid on the floor and said gone on then do it before I change my mind. I was in shock but well I did it for him, what a difference!! He's always had spots and stuuf on his back but after doing this it was the first time for 40 years that he never had them they cleared up totally and when the hair did grow back it was so much softer and gave him less problems, so for the pain side of it it was really worth doing.

Thankfully you are not him and he is very into me and unfortunately my question still hasn't been answered as to how I can tactfully have him take care of it.

He is a very nice guy and I really enjoy spending time with him.

His whole back is not covered in hair. But, there are patches of long hair. I seriously do not think that it would be more painful than a Brazilian wax as the vagina and surrounding area is much more sensitive...AND I don't have a problem with that. So...if I will wax shouldn't he?

For the person that asked....to wax a back is approx. $75 which is the same as a Brazilian wax. It lasts a lot longer than shaving.

From my experience (limited as it is) every guy that I have been with seems to seriously trim if not shave down below.

This guy is quite a bit older than the typical guy that I am use to dating. Maybe that has something to do with it.

Really? The back is some pretty sensitive skin... and when it comes to ripping out hair by the roots it is MORE sensitive thant the pubic area. ANd yeah, that's from personal experience. It's a LOT more sensitive.


And like was mentioned... its not a minor thing... Would you dye your hair a color he wants, or where it in a style he wants even if its not what you want?

Shaving down below is one thing, it takes a few minutes ever couple days and he can do it himself... But the back? If he has a hairy back he has a hairy front. Now if his back is baby butt smooth its going to look weird contrasted to a hairy chest.

So? You do the whole lot don't you! Lol

Haha, just tell him that you'd really like to wax him as it turns you on! I done the same thing with an ex and he LOVED it... not so much the pain, but the thought of what he might get after ;p

Can't you tell the guys when it's a reply, all the whimpy excuses start flowing as to why not to do it!! Lol

Okay my idea is a bit different. Next time you're in a moment of passion tell him that you want to wax his back and that he can wax any part of you that he wants to. Make it something sexy and fun.

so? you do the whole lot dont you! lolactually no... wife asked last winter so I said why not... but SHE has to do my back...

She gave up on that thought after only a few weeks. Was too much work for her. Told her the porcupine stage wasn't acceptable. Its smooth or normal and shaving my back every few days was an agrivation to her.

Below the beltline is smooth for her... she, like me hate stray hairs in our mouths. Besides, she keeps it up for me so I keep it up for her benefit as well. I asked her when we first got married and she willingly did it, a few years later she asked me why I didn't and said did you want me to? She said yes so I said then just ask. So I do it for her.

But I'm not as bad as some guys with body hair. I'm only medium hairy and it's a lighter brown not black so its not as obvious. Plus its more upper body, my lower body just isn't as hairy naturally as my upper body.

People by nature are selective especially when it comes to sexuality. There are other physical and intellectual traits and characteristics that are important.

However if the natural follical issue is all that you are focused on then perhaps you need to refocus your attention to something else when choosing partners. There are many more males to select from. Just be aware that even if you do end up selecting a "hairless" man, he may also be lacking all those other important qualities.

Do yourself and him a favor... let him go to someone who can appreciate him. Drop the idea of imposing your dislikes by asking him to change for you.

Are you hoping for a long term with this guy or do you want to be especially attracted to him physically for a first time thing? It appears that you have issues with his physical appearance. If this were to become the "long haul", would you expect him to become hairless for the rest of his life?? If this is the only thing that is keeping you from being totally attracted to this man then you have to decide if it is worth pursuing or not. In my personal experience, I have known women that I was very attracted to EXCEPT there was one little thing that wasn't my cup of tea and that prevented me from becoming involved. I think it is only fair and honest. That's my opinion...