So let me tell my story like this. I started a new job and soon after started conversation with a woman who was married but thinking of divorce. I as a divorcée myself counseled her and recommended she try anything she could to work it out with her husband. We became close at work and continued our conversations by phone after working hours. She was obviously interested in me but she was frustrated because she knew I did not want to break up her family. (She has 2 kids 3yrs old and 9 months) One day she told me she had served the husband divorce papers. A week or two latter she came to my home for an after work party. She stayed with me that night and we were pretty much always together after that point on. We had many conversations about our relationship and how happy she was and how much she thought I was the greatest man ever. We talked about me being a rebound and she always reassured me that that was not so. We talked about how she was always in long term relationships and she would fight to keep her relationships. A month latter my roommate pulled a fast one and took all my rent money and split town without paying that months rent. I had a week to move out and my girlfriend had just lost her job. So a decision was made between myself and my girlfriend that I would move into her small place I would help pay her bills and as soon as we could afford it we would move again to a larger place that our kids (I have 2 part time) could be comfortable at. My girlfriend decides to become a full time student and live off financial aid and unemployment. I know she was board always being at home while I was off at work. One Sunday her ex-husband (still not through the 6 month legal waiting period to finalize the divorce) shows up to drop the kids off after visitation. Well he (the ex) has a girlfriend with him and for some reason the ex and his new girlfriend hug. I was standing there and did not think anything of it. I did ask my girlfriend if she was jealous and she said no why when I have you. Well the next day I called her up as usual on my lunch beak and she is running errands around town. We started to talk as usual then she says oh look there is my ex-husbands girlfriend driving the truck that my girlfriend and her ex had fought over. So after another minute or so my girlfriend says she is jealous of her ex and needs some time alone. She tells me out of the blue that we are over and she is going to go out of town for a week to her sister’s house. I try to talk to her but she won’t let me and she says she has made up her mind. She goes and I don’t try to stop her but that night she text saying that she is sorry for hurting me but it is hurting her too. She says she needs to figure out what she wants. She says she worries that she can’t be what I want her to be but she feels like she would have done and said anything to have me but can't live up to it. I give her space for a few days even though it is hard. That Saturday I had flowers delivered to her sisters house and my girlfriend calls to say thanks and tells me she will be home the next day and that she will not make me any promise’s but is going to sit down and talk to me about it. The day she is suppose to be back I get a text from her saying that she won’t be home till the next day and that she wants me and my stuff to be gone and that it really is over. I can’t move m stuff in 4 hours so I wait and go to work the next day. After work I go to the house and she is home. I go in to see her and her best girlfriend and some guy I thought was with the friend. I try talking to my girlfriend but her whole attitude towards me has changed. I just want to talk to her but she won’t have it. She says you just need to go. And she says she tried to hook up with my ex-husband while I was gone and that didn’t happen so I hooked up with someone else. (I latter found out was the strange guy in the house) I left and all this week I have tried to talk to her but now for some reason I am her enemy and all she cares about is me getting my stuff out. I called her on Friday to make arrangements to get my things. She said she was leaving town for the weekend so I don’t care what you do at the house.( she is taking the new guy back to where he lives in the sisters area) I have everything packed now and will go get it after I post this. I just don’t understand why our relationship has come to this. Why I am her enemy, we did have something special and she never denies it. We never had any major problems and she told me that if her heart was into we could have fixed any problems. Was I just a rebound? She is very special to me and I don’t want to see us just walk out of each others life’s completely. I would have done anything to fix this. What should I do? Sorry for the length.

Seems she is and was hiding something from you when she suddenly turned on you.
Maybe the other guy was somebody from her past that was also suddenly available and got in touch with her, who knows. But it does sound like confused about her feelings because of her ex having a girlfriend was just a cover up for her getting away.
All you can do is forget about her. If your name is on the lease I don't think she can tell you to just leave that easily. If your name is on the lease you need to get that all squared away with the landlord or he could come after you for your share of the rent.
Move on with your life and forget her. For her to do something like that to you, she doesn't deserve you.

She just got divorced and also not too long ago had a baby, the lady is plenty confused. I'm surprised, having just gone through a divorce yourself you did not think of that. But we see what we want to see.
This lady's life is a wreck and she needs to figure it out and she needs to be on her own (not in a relationship) to do so.
Take it as a lesson learned and move on.

So I got all my stuff out of the house this weekend. I was not on the lease but I was very close to being added. So I know she is driving back home tonight and while we have had no contact since Friday I am hoping that on her long drive back she starts to think and realize what she has done. I know I should walk away but with most things in life it is easier said then done. I finally realized that I think she built some fantasy in her head about how life with me would be so it was easier for her to leave her husband. Then when her fantasy had speed bumps and was not perfect she begin to second guess herself. I guess this is why she treats me like the bad guy now... It is easier to push me away and blame me then to face the truth and her self. She has been busying herself with family and such since she left me. I won’t lie but I hope when she gets back to reality later today she will start to wonder and suffer a little from this. Yes I think I would probably work something out to be with her I just don’t understand why it has to be like it is now.

The woman has just ended a marriage and had a baby. Jumping into a relationship with somebody you meet and relate to from work is the wrong thing to do. This woman needed more time to reflect on what has happened in her life, get used to being single and concentrate on her very young children before jumping into a relationship, and certainly not moving in with someone. This thing happened way too fast.
I suggest you leave her alone, give her the space and time she needs, and you do the same. How long had it been since your divorce?

It has been about 7 years since I divorced. I know the whole divorce thing but we sat down and talked about it and I though this was the strongest most dedicated person towards me I had ever been with. Well I guess she just got home a few hours ago and what’s she do... call me. Well I did not answerer the phone but she left some crap message about me leaving stuff behind and taking stuff that was not mine. I don’t want to contact her but it is hard not too. How the h@#$ can she just turn her feelings towards me off so fast.

I think it was so easy for her to turn her feelings off because she saw you as her hero saving her from her bad relationship and your armor shined compared to her husbands. Then once she was out she started thinking of her self and what she really wanted. Reality sunk in and she started questioning where she goes from here and didn't see you in the pic any longer.
I still think she planned on meeting this other guy somewhere between you two moving together and her suddenly having to go to her sisters.
I think she is confused and will very likely pull the same thing on this new guy.
I don't think you should ever take her back cause she is shaky and confused.

She was going through a very rough time amd you were there, and by the same token you enjoyed being her hero and saw only what you wanted to see. This relationship was a mistake from the get go on both your parts. Take it as a lesson learned and move on.
I hope she soon sees what she needs to do, which is spend some time away from men and take care of her young children.