My wife's friend is always looking at me and asking if we could all hang out all the time. It makes me uncomfortable. We always get into arguments when ever I hang out with her. She always compliments my looks and ask questions about my where abouts. It make me uncomfortable.

I don't know about this one. Why are you asking, do you want her to? And if she does, do you really want to know, how awkward would that make your situation if you DON'T want her to! I think unless she approaches you in some way then you should leave this alone, unless you want a problem with your wife!

Maybe she has a little crush on you, that means there's something good about you! Take it as a compliment and leave it alone! Maybe your just pretty ;)

My wife's friend is always looking at me and asking if we could all hang out all the time.
You junk yard dog.

Tell your wife, and see what she says. It is her friend.

I told her already and she does not think she likes me. She thinks Im being conceited. But tell me this if a woman looks at you a lot, ask why I am not around when my wife hangs out with her and ask for pictures of me. What would you think?

Why do you want her to be sure?

I do not want to be sure I should have worded that better. It makes me uncomfortable to be around her because of the things she does.

I think you should talk to your wife about it then.

Why do you bother hanging out with her?
Sounds rather odd that she would want to hang out with you so she can compliment your looks and interrogate you like she was your wife or something.

Maybe she looks at you because something is hanging out of your nose. Wow, get over yourself, she's just looking, not touching. It sounds like you want her to be interested, just remember, you are married.

I think you should avoid her, she will just ruin your marriage life. You should tell your wife about this because she has the right to know. You are already married so you don't have to entertain her, you have the right to ignore her. And the best thing to do is tell your wife about this, be honest to her. It's also her concern.

I think you should avoid her, she will just ruin your marriage life. You should tell your wife about this because she has the right to know. You are already married so you don't have to entertain her, you have the right to ignore her. And the best thing to do is tell your wife about this, be honest to her. It's also her concern.

One of the few answers, though the telling wife part's been said, that didn't make fun of his question.

In addition to the answers that have already been given, and without passing any sort of judgment on the situation, I just wanted to add that, when confronted with questions by someone who makes you feel uncomfortable, you could always retort with things like, "What's it to you?" "I'll have to think about that..." And, my favorites which are really non-committal as far as an answer, "Maybe be, maybe not, I'll have to think about it." "That presents a challenge to me but I'm not sure of my response at this time. Perhaps you could help me with it?" (Makes the other person feel as though they have caused you a problem and are in control, when in reality, you just made them feel good that they could be the solution to your problem. You are really in control, they aren't.) "Would you mind rephrasing your question some, because I'm not quite sure what you mean?" And, my all-time favorite answer that really is non-committal if you really think about it, is "Probably so." Stating something as being probable does not make it a reality!

And, my all-time favorite answer that really is non-committal if you really think about it, is "Probably so" Stating something as being probable does not make it a reality!
A couple of others along this line are, "Why do you ask?" and "You may be right."

Very true! I had forgotten about those! Thank you! The point being here collectively is, asking questions doesn't necessarily mean that you are being on the defensive or even being on the offensive when asking questions when someone is seeming to make you feel uncomfortable, but that you are hip to appropriate and polite responses according to how they have asked questions.

I ask those questons and all she says is "Im just asking"or "Im just making conversation"

Well first although I think it has been covered, it is not proper for a married man to be "hanging" with other women, esp if not in a group.
You should merely stop putting yourself in this situation.

And who cares if she likes you are not, if she does what are you going to do?? Hopefully nothing different than just ignore her anyway?

I am sorry it appears you also have a interest and want to confirm how she feels for some reason

I am sorry but you are absolutely wrong about that because I have no interest whaty so ever. If I did I would not be avoiding contact with her. Duh

If you had not interest in her whatsoever then you wouldn't be so interested in finding out if she's interested in you.

Always bring your wife into the equation. If your wife's friend asks if you can hang out with her, tell her you will check with your wife and she is she is available. If the friend says something to you, you can also say, "I can't believe you would say that to me." or "I can't believe you would ask that." That way you are not requiring her to answer your question. You are simply making a statement without answering her question.

You don't mention how long you have been married but I will tell you this. All your life, there will be women or girls who will show interest in you. There will always be opportunities for you to choose to be true to your wife or to have an affair and destroy the love you two have in your marriage. Maybe you are surprised by the girls attention because she is a friend to your wife. That is not an unusal thing. When someone is wanting attention, they will seek it. You will have choices, as I say from now on.

I hope you will decide right now to not question why you are getting attention but to simply direct your full attention to your wife. The friend will get the message and move on. It can be a pretty heady experience getting attention from the opposite sex. It is just so important to keep your priorites straight in this life. You have chosen to be married. Keep your wife always in your mind and heart. The temptations will be easier to walk away from.

No one will keep coming around without encouragement.

I don't think you are at fault here!! It is her fault for coming on to a married man, her friends man at that!! And what's up with your wife? If my friend asked me for pictures of my husband I would give her a quick slap and remove her from my life!!
I have friends that my husband doesn't like, not because they fancy him but because as people they don't really get on. But because she's my friend, when she come around he goes to see his friends... then we are all happy!! (this is mutual, I never put anyone before him)
Why can't you just go and see your own friends instead of spending time with your wife's?
This is madness!!

My wife is a very nice person and kind of passive. So that is probably the reason my wife's friend ask those questions because , she feels she caqn get away with it. I have told my wife to approach about it but she says that she does not want to start anything. T=My wife claims that she ask those questions to all her friends.

This is for those who think or have posted things like; get over myself, I must be interested and do not hang out with her. If you read the question that I initially posted you would understand the situation completely. Obviously, you people who have said those things can't read or have ADD. I'm saying this to say; Do not let me see anything else about me being full of myself on here. Now me saying that makes me full of myself.

My wife's friend is always looking at me and asking if we could all hang out all the time. It makes me uncomfortable. We always get into arguments when ever I hang out with her. She always compliments my looks and ask questions about my where abouts. It make me uncomfortable.

Everyone has pretty much agreed, AVOID HER! As far as someone saying you are full of yourself, no one has said that and meant it as a serious statement!

You asked for everyone's advice and they gave it to you, AVOID HER, TELL WIFE TO STOP IT, TELL HER TO KNOCK IT OFF, IGNORE HER, DON'T LET IT BOTHER YOU!! That is advice! That is what you get from this site!

Yeah... people on this site can be pretty harsh... I do believe in advice, but not disparaging comments. Listen to their actual advice. Avoid her and move on with your life. You really don't have to make it a point to be around her.

I say and do what I want to do. If I want to disparage comments, the that is what I will do.

Southerngirl was referring to the replies... not you.
We all say avoid her but as you say you will say and do what you want.

If she does your wife needs a new friend! I hate it when other woman come in between a relationship it's stupid and wrong! If your happy with your wife I would tell the friend that she needs to back off or just don't hang out with her anymore. If you do like her back and are interested get a divorce!

I say and do what I want to do. If I want to disparage comments, the that is what I will do.
Miricale 123... I wasn't speaking of your disparaging comments... I was speaking of the comments that were made to you. I simply just said to listen to their advice, not their rude comments.;)

I apologize for responding to you that way I was wrong. I was just a little frustrated.

I disagree with some of the noise above...

A guy feels uncomfortable with a situation and he's suddenly a conceited, arrogant jerk?

Well add me to the list then. I've been in this place with a person who showed way too much interest, knowing I was married, knowing it was inappropriate to show excessive attention and to ask to hang out.

I don't think its wrong for a married person to associate with people of the opposite sex. I have women friends, my wife has male friends. Fine.

But I've been where this guy is, in a different scenario, having no interest in the other person other than trying to make it all better.

So... miracle 123... I'm sorry you are seen by some as an egocentric jerk who is seeking attention. Apparently women are not capable of being sexual aggressors in the minds of some, and your asking for help in dealing with this is interpreted as arrogance and self indulgence.

Excuse me while I go throw up.

And "avoid her" isn't particularly simple if the wife doesn't believe and she's the wife's friend.

Its not bad advice, but its not that simple either.

This time excuse me cause my panties are in a bunch.

What a dilemma, and since your wife doesn't see a problem, or will not handle it, its your place to be firm, and reject any advance by any female, if indeed that was her intent.

Thanks for that advice. That is what I'll do.