View Full Version : Can someone stop acting jealous?
chris28
Apr 23, 2008, 04:35 AM
Hi all ,
Recently I started seeing a new girl and it turn out I really like her a lot... I started to see she is the jealous type she actually admitted it that she can be very jealous... I guess my question is can a relationship work when there's 1 very jealous person?? Can someone who's jealous ever get over it..? I really never been with someone jealous I'm just confused??
Fr_Chuck
Apr 23, 2008, 04:40 AM
Not over night, it can take years as trust grows.
Romefalls19
Apr 23, 2008, 05:28 AM
Wow, this question is right up my alley. I lost my ex to my inability to trust her which stemmed from jealousy. I have finally righted the ship but it wasn't over night nor was it an easy task to do. It's a very long road, and you go through it alone because you are confronting your own demons in which no one else can help. I battled through my jealousy with the help of therapy, countless books, and online jealousy courses.
It's an everyday battle and sometimes I find myself getting a little jealous and when that happens I simply remind myself that if the person wants to cheat, regardless of how many restrictions you put on the relationship, they are ultimately going to cheat
talaniman
Apr 23, 2008, 08:21 AM
If your not emotionally equipped to deal with someone who has this problem, your asking for a lot of trouble.
Smoked
Apr 23, 2008, 08:29 AM
Like it has been mentioned that jealousy is a HUGE trust issue. Be very hesitant if someone manifests this in a relationship and you have not given a reason for mistrust. You will be in for a long and unpleasant road of highs and lows.
Can someone learn to not be jealous, Yes. It's work. They could need counseling or at the least just daily/weekly/monthly affirmation and support on the topic. Good Luck.
Mariesa
Apr 23, 2008, 08:43 AM
If a person is jealous now most likely they'll stay that way
chris28
Apr 29, 2008, 04:59 AM
Well She is trying she is in councling for that... She has a great atttitude and personality I want to try things with her I think I will stay in it longer and see what happens...
workedtoohard
Apr 29, 2008, 10:33 AM
Actually depending on how extreme her jealousy is, I would cherish it, because it means she ain't leaving, chances are she is going to be really nice so you won't cheat, and you don't have to worry about her cheating.