chillibilli
Apr 21, 2008, 04:16 PM
I have currently been with my partner for nearly 18 months now. He is currently 24, I am 22. He had had 6 sexual partners before me, I had not had any. I was bought up to beliee sex before marriage is wrong, however after a rather indepth conversation with my mother, she said to me that her views have changed, and sex is part of showing love to one another.
I waited around 13 months before I allowed my boyfriend to engage in sexual intercourse with me. At first I was new to it, in all fairness I did not really enjoy it, kissing lasted say five minutes, foreplay about 5, then straight into sex, my boyfriend, depending on how horny he was lasted anything from 5 minutes to 25 inside me.
He suddenyl dropped a bombshell on me, around 14 months into the relationship, that he loves to masterbate, up to 5 or 6 times a day, likes to watch porn, and has pornographic photos on his mobile, he likes kinky sex, and would like me to dress up (school girl, barbie, secretary, air hostess, doctor etc) and would like to start engaging in dirty text messages, send sexy photos etc. It really caused conflict between us, and we ended up on a break for a month or so, as I am not in to anything like that at all.
Around 15 and a half months, we got back together, he really had made a massive change, he quit with the constant sex talk, showed more interest in me, was happy to hae spontaneous sex, as appose to arranged times, so I could dress up etc. He began to show more interest in my life and as a person etc and we were really getting on great.
Sex still happened, and possibly more frequently for a month or so, it was practically love making sex, there were no sexy underwear, stockings, dressing up, dirty texts etcs. All was going great. After a month or so he asked for stockings, I decided it was not too dirty just stockings so I put them on and now I do quite enjoy wearing them.
My main question as to why I am here today is: my boyfriend has for the past month said that since the break etc, his sex drive has decreased, he does not want it as much. He plays football twice a week and he says that really helps him control it all. Recently when having sex, my boyfriend has only lasted 30 seconds, its never ever more than 4 or 5 minutes now, which frustrates me, as I never get much pleasure apart from a bit of foreplay. It upsets him, as he feels I get annoyed (which I do, but I do not show it at all). He says it is him, not me, but then he says, I am really tight, and the sex we have is emotional and he says he has always been able to go a lot longer with his previous girlfriends, but just not me.
Baiscally I want to know why this happens, and what we can do to sort it out. I gave you the past as I do not know whether it helps to make you understand the situation better. Could this sex be boring for him if he really likes kinky dirty sex? Am I just too tight for him? He says it feels really good, but he wants to be able to last longer?
I waited around 13 months before I allowed my boyfriend to engage in sexual intercourse with me. At first I was new to it, in all fairness I did not really enjoy it, kissing lasted say five minutes, foreplay about 5, then straight into sex, my boyfriend, depending on how horny he was lasted anything from 5 minutes to 25 inside me.
He suddenyl dropped a bombshell on me, around 14 months into the relationship, that he loves to masterbate, up to 5 or 6 times a day, likes to watch porn, and has pornographic photos on his mobile, he likes kinky sex, and would like me to dress up (school girl, barbie, secretary, air hostess, doctor etc) and would like to start engaging in dirty text messages, send sexy photos etc. It really caused conflict between us, and we ended up on a break for a month or so, as I am not in to anything like that at all.
Around 15 and a half months, we got back together, he really had made a massive change, he quit with the constant sex talk, showed more interest in me, was happy to hae spontaneous sex, as appose to arranged times, so I could dress up etc. He began to show more interest in my life and as a person etc and we were really getting on great.
Sex still happened, and possibly more frequently for a month or so, it was practically love making sex, there were no sexy underwear, stockings, dressing up, dirty texts etcs. All was going great. After a month or so he asked for stockings, I decided it was not too dirty just stockings so I put them on and now I do quite enjoy wearing them.
My main question as to why I am here today is: my boyfriend has for the past month said that since the break etc, his sex drive has decreased, he does not want it as much. He plays football twice a week and he says that really helps him control it all. Recently when having sex, my boyfriend has only lasted 30 seconds, its never ever more than 4 or 5 minutes now, which frustrates me, as I never get much pleasure apart from a bit of foreplay. It upsets him, as he feels I get annoyed (which I do, but I do not show it at all). He says it is him, not me, but then he says, I am really tight, and the sex we have is emotional and he says he has always been able to go a lot longer with his previous girlfriends, but just not me.
Baiscally I want to know why this happens, and what we can do to sort it out. I gave you the past as I do not know whether it helps to make you understand the situation better. Could this sex be boring for him if he really likes kinky dirty sex? Am I just too tight for him? He says it feels really good, but he wants to be able to last longer?