Hi, its been more than a month now that I broke up with my ex-boyfriend and the way he broke up with me is just hurting me a lot because all he said was I don't love you and don't call me that was it I still called him to talk but he didn't pick up and after that I never contacted him and I have tried HARD to forget about him and just get him out of my head but I just can't seem to do it. In front of everyone I'm happy laughing and having fun but when I'm by myself all I do is cry and there are times when I want to call him and ask him why he did this??

I hate myself for this because he has moved on he is happy he seems happier than he was before and he already has a new girlfriend whom he went out with the day he broke up with me (I found out later, had access to his email so read her mail), and after all that I can't stop loving him

I dono what to do

I'm almost in the same sitution find yourself another boyfriend make him jealous, just try and be happy, make him realize what a good deal he's pasting up. If it don't work you still have access to his email send stuff to his girlfriend saying I don't love you make them break up just make sure they don't find out it's u or you will be in the dog house

A period of mourning is normal when we lose someone suddenly. It's OK to feel sad. But then when we wake up and look in the mirror, there is a beautiful person there. Love her. You are lovable and a good friend. He lost you too.

For starters stop going through his mail. I would feel very tempted to do so as well if I had access to her mail because the way I was dumped was very similar to yours and I had suspicion that she left me for someone else. But going through mail can only make it worse and it's a way of holding on to things which is the last thing you should do..
Ok he's with someone else.. NOW what? Does that make you feel better knowing? Will reading the e-mails that come back and forth help you get over him? No it will stab at your heart every time you read them.. So if anything you should stop the e-mail thing.
Facebook is hard enough to avoid and there's less information on Facebook than on e-mails but that's also to be avoided..
Now concerning calling him, It's been a month since we broke up, no contact for about 2 weeks, and I still get miserable as well.. I go out, I have fun, I come home, I feel like ,I want to call her.. Last night I came home drunk and I seriously called 10 RANDOM girls until one of them would pick up, as long as I didn't call my ex..
You need to stop holding on (in the form of checking e-mails/facebook stalking e.t.c).. He wants a new life without you, you can't do anything about that - but you do have control over yourself and your own life.. and anyone on here will tell you - its too short of a life to waste so much time on being unhappy.You need to try and get better.

I know all about checking their email and Facebook, as I have passwords and everything. She knows this, and I think she didn't change them on purpose... I think maybe her way of keeping me interested... I've snooped and had my heart broken even more... no good can come from it... I know what you're looking for too... something, anything to show signs of problems with him and his new girlfriend. At least that's what I was looking for, but you can never tell what's going on with them... I think back to the emails between my ex and I when we were dating... no problems there, so there's no way to tell if they'll break up. Chances are, she's a rebound, so it may not last... but who knows.

Take this as a lesson that you don't have control over anything... surrender to the universe and let it roll... its only been a month, you should still be sad, upset, whatever... I know I was, I know I am some days now and its been almost 4 months of NC with a hiccup a few weeks ago. I feel pretty dam good about not needy anyone either. Hang in there, things will get better.

You I don't check his email anymore because he changed the password a week after the break up so that's done and I also deleted him from Facebook, I deleted him from msn my phone contacts anything I just don't want to see his name anywhere but a few days ago I was on my friend's Facebook and she has him so I just went to his profile and he had all these pictures with the girlfriend and his status was "I feel like i m on top of the world" so after that I just broke down because we had been together for 5 years and it was so easy for him to move on I dono how he can do that

There is another more mature person who would care for you and love you truly on the road.
My father told me if people still have feeling for each other, they would be together; if they aren't together, they don't have feeling for each other.
It is not worth thinking of him.

It takes a while to get over a relationship. The fact that he does not love you and his happy with someone else is not a reflection on you, it just means you two were not the right ones for each other.
This pain will pass. Don't obsess over it.

Read some of the other posts, and you will know you are not the only one trying to grieve, and recover, from a relationship that has died. After 5 years, wow, it will be a long road, until you can fill that hole in your soul. Hang in there though. It will get better.