calliedc
Apr 13, 2008, 01:51 PM
OK so me and my ex boyfriend broke up at the end of July. I definitely hadn't fallen in love with him, but I liked him a lot.
It wasn't a bad breakup per se but then I found out I was pregnant.
Without getting into I did not have the baby and was rather messed up about it. He and I saw each other again and the sparks were still there and then I decided I couldn't handle anything because of the loss of the baby and decided to move across the country.
But before I moved he and I started seeing each other again, spending time together and having sex, being close, etc...
I realized I had fallen in love with him (never told him!) but felt that I couldn't change my life plans just for a guy. Which basically means I was being the same stubborn closed book I've always been.
The last night before I left he lamented my departure and asked me if I could come home for new years.
After the first month I knew I had made a huge mistake, I missed him more and more everyday and was going to move back. Then I found out he had a new girlfriend! Like a month and half after that they broke up but I had already decided to stay out west.
Long story short I did move back a week ago and we went out on a date thing, it was sparks everywhere, we laughed, gazed, he kissed me and I thought the whole city felt the earthquake! He bought me roses and we went back to his place and slept together a bunch of times (I know, I know... my mom thinks it was a huge mistake), slept all intertwined and snuggly and it felt exactly how it used to.
But he hasn't called me since. He talked to me on gmail and said he was sorry he didn't return my call from the previous night and that he was going to a concert later but would "talk to me soon".
When we first met he had zero problem calling me a bunch of times a day until he got a hold of me. He made it clear he was interested so I can't help but feel that opposite behavior means opposite feelings.
With all that said, I guess my question is what do I do now?
I like, cry. A lot. And I've been so happy! I was in the most positive frame of mind of my whole life when I moved home and I was so looking forward to telling him how I feel and how I'm not afraid to open up to him anymore (was a big problem before!) and starting our relationship up again.
I don't know what to do... aside from the obvious "get on with your life" which is what I'm already doing... what the hell do i do?!
A friend thinks that I'm overreacting, another thinks he is unaware that I want a relationship due to my past of keeping my cards dangerously close to my chest and my mom thinks he basically had no choice but to move on since I straight up moved and he has a whole new life that doesn't include me.
But if that's the case... why would he sleep with me? I know he's a man but cmon... we have soooo much history, too much for it to ever be casual and he's honestly not the "player" type.
I don't know. I'm not naïve and certainly no stranger to being used or lied to, but we CARE about each other. So my brain refuses to accept that he would hurt me on purpose.
I guess I need advice or something. The whole "get over it, go out with somebody else" mantra from wayne's world sounds fantastic except that I don't want to!
It wasn't a bad breakup per se but then I found out I was pregnant.
Without getting into I did not have the baby and was rather messed up about it. He and I saw each other again and the sparks were still there and then I decided I couldn't handle anything because of the loss of the baby and decided to move across the country.
But before I moved he and I started seeing each other again, spending time together and having sex, being close, etc...
I realized I had fallen in love with him (never told him!) but felt that I couldn't change my life plans just for a guy. Which basically means I was being the same stubborn closed book I've always been.
The last night before I left he lamented my departure and asked me if I could come home for new years.
After the first month I knew I had made a huge mistake, I missed him more and more everyday and was going to move back. Then I found out he had a new girlfriend! Like a month and half after that they broke up but I had already decided to stay out west.
Long story short I did move back a week ago and we went out on a date thing, it was sparks everywhere, we laughed, gazed, he kissed me and I thought the whole city felt the earthquake! He bought me roses and we went back to his place and slept together a bunch of times (I know, I know... my mom thinks it was a huge mistake), slept all intertwined and snuggly and it felt exactly how it used to.
But he hasn't called me since. He talked to me on gmail and said he was sorry he didn't return my call from the previous night and that he was going to a concert later but would "talk to me soon".
When we first met he had zero problem calling me a bunch of times a day until he got a hold of me. He made it clear he was interested so I can't help but feel that opposite behavior means opposite feelings.
With all that said, I guess my question is what do I do now?
I like, cry. A lot. And I've been so happy! I was in the most positive frame of mind of my whole life when I moved home and I was so looking forward to telling him how I feel and how I'm not afraid to open up to him anymore (was a big problem before!) and starting our relationship up again.
I don't know what to do... aside from the obvious "get on with your life" which is what I'm already doing... what the hell do i do?!
A friend thinks that I'm overreacting, another thinks he is unaware that I want a relationship due to my past of keeping my cards dangerously close to my chest and my mom thinks he basically had no choice but to move on since I straight up moved and he has a whole new life that doesn't include me.
But if that's the case... why would he sleep with me? I know he's a man but cmon... we have soooo much history, too much for it to ever be casual and he's honestly not the "player" type.
I don't know. I'm not naïve and certainly no stranger to being used or lied to, but we CARE about each other. So my brain refuses to accept that he would hurt me on purpose.
I guess I need advice or something. The whole "get over it, go out with somebody else" mantra from wayne's world sounds fantastic except that I don't want to!