I been together with my boyfriend going on a year. And I have never given oral sex before and he has asked me a few times because he has done me before. And I don't know how to perform it?? I need help fast because I would like to satisfy him the way he does me.

Hello sgr:

I presume you're asking how to do it? Rent a porn film and do what they're doing. It's not rocket science. You can learn it.

excon

It's not rocket science. You can learn it.



Umm but doesn't that involve getting him to take off?

Sorry, but I couldn't resist <EG>

Practice makes perfect, just watch his reactions, and stay with what works best.

I've told this story before here, but the first time I had sex, my boyfriend asked me for a bl** ***(what we called it then)... I was 21 and a virgin, so I just gave it the old college try... when I hear, " It's not a corncob!"... and laughter. I laughed, too! So, I agree that you need some direction before you begin.

So, start sucking and tonguing the end of his penis... and ask for directions from there. Trial and error, practice, practice practice... just like everything in life. :)

By the way, you better be in your twenties!

Well I am 19 going to be 20 in August.
Thanks for your help!

Rent a movie and watch... there really is no one right way or wrong way to do it. Practice makes perfect and trust me most guys appreciate the effort even if you haven't quite mastered it yet.

Hey,

Here's a little hint.. TALK to HIM! Ask him what he likes.. and tell him you're new at it.. he will like to here it!
Also.. another hint.. he needs a little friction while you're sucking.. put one hand on his penis and move it up and down in conjunction with your sucking.. and put your tongue at the under tip of his foreskin, there are a lot of nerves there. It sounds complicated.. but there are many many ways to please him. And the more you do it.. the better you get! Good luck!

Hey,

Here's a little hint.. TALK to HIM!! ask him what he likes.. and tell him you're new at it.. he will like to here it!



Exactly... just ask him what he would like you to do. There are different ways to do everything and there may be some things he really likes... and some things that may "ruin the moment" for him. Just have him to tell you (specifically) what he wants you to try and discover how to do it together. ;)

Just don't bite down!

If you don't want to rent a movie you can get adult sexuality books that are really good or women's magazines usually have instructions and tips. I find women's magazines are really good for this sort of thing and for other ideas, and they are usually not too graphic.

There are actually a couple videos specifically for women for this purpose. Technically they are for how to deep throat but the techniques apply to the rest of the act as well. I do not remember the names of the titles but both are decent if you can find them.

Ask him to demonstrate it to you by letting him lick your ring finger... do it while he tries to demo... it's exciting!

ask him to demonstrate it to you by letting him lick your ring finger...do it while he tries to demo...it's exciting!
That might be hard to do... knowing what feels good on the receiving end will not equate to knowing how to do it.

The worst bj I ever had was pretty damn good... meaning even if you don't know what you are doing, it'll probably be great for him.

Lots of different things you can do... but some personal suggestions...

Three positions I love for receiving oral

1) guy standing, girl sitting on a chair. Why its good... he can see you clearly, and its great to watch. The angle is good, you are comfortable, and his "guys" (testes) will move forward and back, adding to the sensations. With one hand grabbing him near the base (where his shaft meets his torso) push and pull the foreskin over the head of the penis. Some women don't understand you can grab firmly and not hurt the man. Also, pulling the foreskin over the head is great stimulation. With your hand in place, follow the movement with your mouth. Keeping your mouth close to your hands gives the sensation of you taking him in deeper than you are, which is good for him. Follow his lead... in general, slower, wetter movements are great.. if I need more movement, I can move my hips. In the seated position you can also take your shirt off and have his hand on your chest. If it doesn't drive him mad to have him in your mouth and have his hand on you, he's got some serious issues.

Added bonus: with him in your hand and mouth, use your other hand to cradle and tug at his "guys"... this can be really intense. Might feel silly to you, but simply moving or gently pulling at them can greatly increase the intensity of sensations.

2) man on bed, back on matress. Approach him from alongside, with your rear facing his head, kneeling alongside him. Why is this good? In contrast to your being near his knees, you are closer to his upper body. Again, he can run his hands over your back, rear, and chest, all while feeling you take him in your mouth. I think the approach from "above" with the woman's tongue sliding over the top of the head feels more "lush", but maybe that's just me. Again... grip well with one hand, follow your hand with your mouth, and don't be afraid to pull hard. I think the pull of the foreskin is often more important that the sliding down the shaft. Again... just my opinion.

3) 69. Some couples can both benefit from this. My partner is fine with the position, but doesn't want me to "mess" with her orally while she's going down on me. Its too distracting for her. From the guys perspective, with the woman on top, he gets great oral stim while being able to feel your back and arse from a great position.

Last note... lots of debate goes around about "swallow" or "spit"... my opinion... a mediocre bj that finishes at the mouth often beats a great bj that finishes at hand only. Now... I didn't say "swallow"... I said at the mouth.

It feels much more "lush" when the lips are involved. Just the truth. My partner tends to finish at the mouth and not swallow, and I don't give a damn one bit. And if it icks you out too much, don't pressure yourself to do anything you don't want to do. Its not worth it. That said... the orgasms with her hand alone are less intense than with hand and mouth.

So... all this said. What about you? If he's willing to receice oral, is he willing to give? If not, it isn't balanced. Oral on a woman is more complicated, but one of the best ways to get a woman to orgasm. If a gun were placed to my head and I was told to get a woman off or else, id use my mouth. Period.

So don't be afraid to ask for something in return. The kicker is it takes more work for the woman, and guys are often impatient. Don't ever be afraid to ask for what you want "softer, harder, lick here, etc" and don't be afraid to use your own fingers to self stimulate.

Have fun and be safe.

It's a BJ. If you don't use your teeth he won't care.

Altenweg agrees: Now I'm horny. Thanks KP!
See... THOSE are the three little words a man wants to hear. ;)

My man's at work, I am left to my own devices. ;)

My man's at work, I am left to my own devices. ;)Hello:

Ooooh, ooooh, now I'M horny.

excon

Hello:

Ooooh, ooooh, now I'M horny.

excon


Glad I could help. ;)

Hello:

Ooooh, ooooh, now I'M horny.

excon

Aw dude!

You busted up my virtual naughtyness.

A pox on you.

Unless you are in to that kind of thing.

Am I threadjacking here? Probably. Sorry. Off topic-ish.

Anyone got any batteries. ;)

Oh, oh, I think we're hijacking this thread. Not again, my back just healed up from the lashes I received last week. UGH!

Anyone got any batteries. ;)

I have an extension cord and a backup generator. And if all else fails, I can hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

;)

Good Lord, is it Friday yet?!

Stay on subject, you naughty kids!

/ hangs head in shame.

Sorry Synn, I really am. I will be good, promise. :o

My girlfriend asked me how oral sex really works. I can tell she is willing to try, so I can't wait until we marry. We both are in our 30's, and so looking forward to this and more...

You should let him know that this will be your first time. Now do not feel obligated to spit nor swallow. If you are not ready for that, let him know to advise you when he is climaxing... so that he can masterbating rather than in your mouth. Now after he is aware this is your 1st oral... you should ask him to guide you. Don't feel silly because men need much guiding when performing oral on a woman. Just like for women, consisted tongue action only creates a sensitve irratating feeling... men have there critiques. Let him guide you. Who knows you can turn it into a role play scenario. Overall lubricate with saliva your hand to help you create a deep throat effect without actually gagging.

Well I Was In The Same Situation Before, But Honestly Just Let Go And Be Comfotable. You Might Want To Practice With Lolipops And Then He Asked The Nxt Step Which Was Deep Throats.. And U Can Practice With Cucumbers Aor Bannanas Or Anything Similar To Its Shape...

the worst bj i ever had was pretty damn good...meaning even if you dont know what you are doing, itll probably be great for him.

lots of different things you can do... but some personal suggestions...

three positions i love for receiving oral

1) guy standing, girl sitting on a chair. why its good... he can see you clearly, and its great to watch. the angle is good, you are comfortable, and his "guys" (testes) will move forward and back, adding to the sensations. with one hand grabbing him near the base (where his shaft meets his torso) push and pull the foreskin over the head of the penis. some women dont understand you can grab firmly and not hurt the man. also, pulling the foreskin over the head is great stimulation. with your hand in place, follow the movement with your mouth. keeping your mouth close to your hands gives the sensation of you taking him in deeper than you are, which is good for him. follow his lead... in general, slower, wetter movements are great.. if i need more movement, i can move my hips. in the seated position you can also take your shirt off and have his hand on your chest. if it doesnt drive him mad to have him in your mouth and have his hand on you, hes got some serious issues.

added bonus: with him in your hand and mouth, use your other hand to cradle and tug at his "guys"... this can be really intense. might feel silly to you, but simply moving or gently pulling at them can greatly increase the intensity of sensations.

2) man on bed, back on matress. approach him from alongside, with your rear facing his head, kneeling alongside him. why is this good? in contrast to your being near his knees, you are closer to his upper body. again, he can run his hands over your back, rear, and chest, all while feeling you take him in your mouth. i think the approach from "above" with the womans tongue sliding over the top of the head feels more "lush", but maybe thats just me. again... grip well with one hand, follow your hand with your mouth, and dont be afraid to pull hard. i think the pull of the foreskin is often more important that the sliding down the shaft. again... just my opinion.

3) 69. some couples can both benefit from this. my partner is fine with the position, but doesnt want me to "mess" with her orally while shes going down on me. its too distracting for her. from the guys perspective, with the woman on top, he gets great oral stim while being able to feel your back and arse from a great position.

last note... lots of debate goes around about "swallow" or "spit"... my opinion... a mediocre bj that finishes at the mouth often beats a great bj that finishes at hand only. now... i didnt say "swallow"... i said at the mouth.

it feels much more "lush" when the lips are involved. just the truth. my partner tends to finish at the mouth and not swallow, and i dont give a damn one bit. and if it icks you out too much, dont pressure yourself to do anything you dont want to do. its not worth it. that said... the orgasms with her hand alone are less intense than with hand and mouth.

so... all this said. what about you? if hes willing to receice oral, is he willing to give? if not, it isnt balanced. oral on a woman is more complicated, but one of the best ways to get a woman to orgasm. if a gun were placed to my head and i was told to get a woman off or else, id use my mouth. period.

so dont be afraid to ask for something in return. the kicker is it takes more work for the woman, and guys are often impatient. dont ever be afraid to ask for what you want "softer, harder, lick here, etc" and dont be afraid to use your own fingers to self stimulate.

have fun and be safe.

Yeah I totally cannot do 69 because my husband messing with me orally is so distracting when I am trying to pleasure him orally LOL. I never unterstood why some women will allow their man to finish in their mouth and then not swallow? I mean, not that she has to swallow persay, but if you already have it in your mouth and are tasting it, then you might as well finish it lol Just my opinion. That's the thing about most porns that bugs me is that they will keep spitting it out their lips and taking it back in with their tongue over and over, and then don't swallow. To me, that's way grosser lol

Start slow for a few minutes, its like snake charming, it really caresses the nerve on the bottom, then speed up.

One other tip to add to all the other great advice already said is, have him sit in a chair or on the bed. Place a full length mirror behind you so he can see your bod as your on all fours. You could even play with yourself while doing him. Guys love that, they're visual creatures. If he thinks you're enjoying it as much as he is, he'll really love it. This is a good tip if you don't like to 69. I don't like to do 69, but hubby says he likes to mainly for the visuals and the thought of me getting pleasure too. If you take this advice, you don't even really have to play with yourself... just make it look like you are. Moan a bit, the vibrations of your voice will feel good to him and give him even more of a sense that you're enjoying it.

Another thing... sometimes if you can master the hand job, the BJ is easier. Hand jobs are real easy to do generally. You will know the right speed, pressure and his reactions as to when he's really feeling good and about to bust. Use that knowledge to perform the BJ, use your mouth and a hand if you must.

This is becoming my favorite thread. The mirror idea is a great one.

This is my favorite thread as well. Being one to go the extra mile for you, my friends here at AMHD I have decided to volunteer my services should any ladie desire to learn some of these techniques. There is nothing I won't do for the good of this website.