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abi123
Apr 7, 2008, 08:26 AM
If you read my last question it was about how my ex treats me like and I am still letting him get away with it and stll sleeping with him!

I just found out I am pregnant and have not told him yet!

He always said he doesn't really want children and he would probably want me to get rid of the child but I couldn't do that!

I have always wanted children but I am trying to get him out of my life!

And this is going to bring himback in!

What shall I do?

NowWhat
Apr 7, 2008, 08:46 AM
Just because you are pregnant - doesn't mean he has to be in your life. He needs to know that he has a child on the way. If he chooses to be a part of that child's life - then great. Again, that doesn't mean he has to be a part of yours on any level other than a parent to the same child.

If he suggests that you get rid of this child - be firm and tell him no! He can not force you to do something you do not want to do.
If he says if you don't do as he wishes then he is gone - tell him "bye".

Fr_Chuck
Apr 7, 2008, 09:09 AM
Persoanlly I doubt I would tell him yet, after the child is born, then you can let him know when he gets a notice to pay child support.

And you don't have to let him "in" if he wants some form of child visits latter, try and make it supervised at first and then always have a third party pick up and bring the child back ( if he ever wants to see child)
There is no requirement he ever has to be part of your life.

You need to find some inner strengh to feel good about yourself and know you don't need him for anything