I was with my guy for a year and a half. He went to uni half a year ago and we only got to see each other every other weekend. It was all fine, we got through any arguments we had because we love each other and when he'll come back it was great.

He came home for easter for a month now and we saw each other nearly everyday. It got really routine as we were doing the same thing all the time, until the spark just went and we got bored of doing the same things. We spoke about it and we decided it would be best to split for the moment, and we'de meet again in a couple of months to catch up and see if things will work out. We decided we needed a break from each other. We spent out last day together on Saturday and I took him out for a meal for his birthday. I felt lost during the whole time and still do, and I could tell he did too. He kept staring into space thinking, and telling me he loves me. He still wants to meet up in the summer and I have these tickets for a day trip and he told me to go with him in the summer. After our day out he asked me to come back to his, and when we got to his, he hugged me and started crying and said I'm the only girl he's loved and he doesn't want to lose me. He said he doesn't want to be with anyone else if its not me. And I feel exactly the same for him. Then we said goodbye and he had tears in his eyes. We both know we won't be getting with anyone else during our time apart, I can't even think of that!

He goes back to uni in a week (not that it makes a difference because we're not going to be seeing each other anyway) but I'm heartbroken. I know it was for the best that we split, we need to be a apart for a bit. But I'm so upset because I can't bare not hearing from him and knowing I've still got a couple of months until I can see him. I don't want to keep feeling upset until I meet him again because its ages. Also I'm worried that he'll stop loving me during our time apart:( I don't want to lose him. We're so good together and everyone else knows that too. He texted me last night saying " dont stop loving me, id be nothing without you". But I'm worried that he'll stop loving me instead. We haven't texted at all today.

How can I make sure he won't stop loving me during our time apart?

Also, how can I help myself be happy during our time apart and get on with things? I keep finding myself crying, I even have tears in my eyes while typing this. I just miss him sooo much and not seeing him for a couple of months will be so hard.

Please help. Thanks

we got bored of doing the same things. We spoke about it and we decided it would be best to split for the moment, and we'de meet again in a couple of months to catch up and see if things will work out.
So instead of working together to find ways to get that spark back, you split up and go your separate ways. A lousy solution, as now you've missed your chance to work on your issues together, and grow together. When boredom breaks up a relationship, there isn't much there any way. When people are in love, especially when distance keeps them apart for extended periods, they tend to want to make up for it, by being together and having fun with each other. Maybe the distance has had the opposite effect on this relationship and driven you two apart. Now your having those second thoughts, and you need to COMMUNICATE, with each other to repair the bridge, or leave it as it is. Call him, and straighten out this mess. If you can't then you will have plenty of time to move on, which if you click on the links in my signature, you'll find some great suggestions to help! For now, you need to talk, and establish the direction this thing is headed.

I know, but we don't know how to sort it out? We thought that because we don't know we'de take some time apart and rebuild things when we meet again.. my guy is also quite stubborn, so I thought that if id tried to sort it out it might not work, so I confirmed that it would be better to split for a while which may bring back the spark when we meet again?

If you have no spark now then what makes you think that you will have it again when you 'meet again'... maybe at first it will be there because you haven't contacted each other for a while but what about when that's over with... what is going to be different in the long run that will keep the relationship alive for both of you?

One thing that maybe you could both do is write down the things that you need to change/improve in the relationship to be happy and then each look at them and make a realistic decision on whether it is achievable. Think about what he really means to you... how does he add value to your life?

If you are going to stick at it then ultimately the key is to start communicating about your concerns... if you don't talk about your problems then they will just snowball. Also it is very easy to let each other fall back into your old ways so always remember that if you always put the same thing in then you'll always get the same thing out! However if you do decide to separate then I wouldn't advise agreeing not to see anyone else in the months in between... why should either of you be turning down the potentially perfect partner when you don't even know if it will work out between you when you get back together?

so I confirmed that it would be better to split for a while which may bring back the spark when we meet again?
Or this whole thing dies from lack of caring attention. Long distance relationships are hard for even the most committed, so I can understand how you both may feel, but being unwilling to work together, coupled with a lack of commitment, spells THE END. Makes no sense to try and ride a dead horse.

Yeah :( I think we also thought it would be easier to sort things out during summer than now, because he's going back to uni in a week and I think he may be finding it routine to come back by train every other weekend. But he finishes uni in June and next year he's changing course so going to a different uni which is much closer and cheaper to see each other for the day. I also have important exams in beginning of June so I thought it would be better to sort things out after during summer? But I'm worried he's going to fall out of love with me during our time apart !:( maybe we should meet up once for a bit before summer to catch up? Over a coffee or something..