SoCalgal
Apr 6, 2008, 04:01 PM
Hello everyone, I hope my story doesn't bore you to death but I need some advice. I am a divorced women (47) and here is my story: I was the wife of an active duty military man for 18 years and I am a federal employee as well. I was friends with one of the military men I worked with (yes just work friends) actually we hardley talked at all. Anyhow, he was going through a divorce and was very quite about it... when I found out my husband was having an affair I kicked him out of the house. Well, my friend heard about my divorce and called me at home. He was wonderful during that long year. He called once a week and always asked about the kids (there was nothing between us) but I do believe we both had a small crush on the other. Well, I decided to leave the east and come west. He came out and spent a weekend with me and the kids (he was a total gentelman) I didn't really understand what the deal was with him. So, about 6 months later I started dating and met a man and got married, I never hear from my friend again as the news of my marriage was all over the east coast. Yep got a divorce from that loser very quickly (I jumped into marriage and should not have) anyhow, about 16 months ago I got a forward email from my friend and so I wrote to him and what fun we had on the email. He said he was dissapointed that I had remarried but he didn't feel he had a right to say anything. So, to let you know he was dating a woman this whole time... they never lived together and he said he would never marry her that they were more friends than lovers (whatever). Well, he came out to see me while on work travel. It was nice to see him and we had a nice dinner nothing else. Well, last novemember I get this email from him telling me that he would like to see me and that this has been on his mind for years. Ok so I tell him I am not comforatable with his situation and if he breaks up with his "friend" then maybe. SO, he breaks up with her a few weeks ago and comes to see me. We had a great time together and yes we did have sex the last night he was here. He told me that he would be back in a couple of weeks... blah blah. WE talk everyday and then last week nothing. I texted him yesterday and he called me like an old friend and I just said goodbye. THis guy always makes me feel like I am the ONE and then he goes days without communicating. I am ready for a relationship but I don't think he is ready for me or if he is done with the other one. By the way the difference between me and the other one is HUGE. I am not tooting my horn but she is 10 years older and not at all attractive, he consistenly is telling me I am beautiful but who the heck knows. Should I just go on about my life and forget him? I don't play games... never have, don't like them. Should I let him come back out if he wants? I haven't dated in 20 years this sucks!