So, for the last month I have seen this particular man every Saturday night, I get text messages almost every day, and a phone call. He makes a date with me for this coming weekend, and last time I heard from him was Saturday. He's been so responsive from day one, and I have been completely confident that all is well, nice start to a relationship, etc... but why the sudden stop? Like how could a man change his mind about you in the lack of your presence? Especially when you know they have been logging into the online dating site Everyday, so "I've been busy" is more like "Im full of Bull*#$^" Any ideas? We are both in our 30s never married.. omg Im going to die alone... lol

Maybe he's scared that he's coming on too strong and will scare you off? That might just be wishful thinking.

Maybe he's one of those guys who really just likes the chase.

I'd just try and be patient until this weekend and see how the date goes. If he's been busy then you'll have plenty of catching up to do over dinner ;)

Thanks for responding! But see Im kind of thinking that he's blowing me and the date off. I haven't heard from him in 5 days. And lets be honest, I kind of need to know if he's coming or not. Because the plan was for him to come to my house for the first time.

I hate 2 tell you this but maybe he's not interested in meeting u. Be glad because it not good 2 meet people online, you never know how crazy they are and if you see he is still logging in he and can't call you there no words that need to be said.
Women 2 women never allow a man to come 2 your house that you never meet from online. If he can't take you out than leave him alone. Do u watch the news?
Maybe you should try something like speed dating, it fun and at least you see them. Try going out 2 meet someone and don't let your age get you down because there someone out there 4 everyone.
Remember people online lie and can said things that are misleading, you need to go someone where guys hang out and when you see someone you like, go up to them.
Sign,
ALWAYS REAL

Email/Text the following:

"Hey, I'm having second thoughts about the date at my house. Would you mind if we just caught a movie/dinner instead? -hope your week is going better than mine, lol. -Me."

See if that at least gets you a nibble.

BTW, take a deep breath, OK? The reason people date each other is to see if they're interested in more, see if things are more compatible than not, blah blah blah.

Most dating endeavors don't work out. So have fun, resist getting fatalistic about it. He might detect that in you and it accidentally turn him off. Just be the fun one.

Even if you don't have a boyfriend, you're not alone... <nudge>

"Women 2 women never allow a man to come 2 ur house that u never meet from online. If he can't take you out than leave him alone. Do u watch the news?"

I said in my post we had been dating for a month now, its not my first date with this guy, it will be my 5th. So, that's not the issue at all.

Hm. From a guy's perspective...

If I texted/called a girl everyday, then makes a "date" with you, and doesn't come... and doesn't call you for 5 days...

I'm either:

1. with someone else now...
2. dead in a ditch...
3. converted into a monastery...

But then again, I'm a jerk. So... with wishful thinking, perhaps he's sick... or perhaps he is a bit scared and is just waiting for you to call.

There's nothing wrong with you calling to find out what's going on... sometimes guys do play games with girls to see if the girls are willing to chase the guy.

Now see I totally agree with you, ISneezeFunny. That's what I'm thinking. But lucky for me, I don't have to, nor will I chase a man. I'm way to hot for that... LOL