I look back and see how I have changed. I want to compare to other guys for comparison because I find it interesting. I am 21 year old male right now.

I think after I hit puberty I started masturbating at around age 11-12. Just the sight of a naked female would have been amazing and enough to satisfy me. Age 14-15 was when I was extremely horny and got an erection so easily. I would have had sex with any young woman (girl my age) that wanted it with me. For the rest of my teenage years I was still quite horny and masturbating like once a day at least. One day I think I started at 8am and finished at 9pm! (with a couple of breaks) I was 20 IIRC. Also looking at or wanting to look at porn a lot. Despite how horny I was, I've never had sex yet.

Biggest changes are happening more recently. No longer really want to look at porn any more. Really want to find a girl to care about and fall in love with. Much more interested in older girls like 24-30. The idea of one night stands or girls that are easy does not appeal at all. I would really be happy with 1 girl and 1 girl only for life (not into sex after marriage or anything religious like that). I still have a high sex drive, I think about sex every day and throughout the day. But would much rather have someone to be intimate with emotionally and very close to. Someone to pleasure first rather than to satisfy myself. Only long term serious relationships.

So far I like this 'new' me the most. I am wondering if I will change again and do other guys feel the same way as me at my age?

Congrats on keeping your virginity for this long. That doesn't say much for guys your age anymore. I have great respect for you.

People change on a day to day basis. We change our morals, our views and our physical appearances. I don't believe you will be the same as you are now when your 40 or even 25. I am sure there are guys out there who do feel the same as you. A lot of guys want it all and it's nice to know that you want to be monogamous. But, you might change that view later on.

You never know.

Good luck!

Well when you find the right girl, she will be one lucky lady!!

You have a lot of growing up to do as far as your relationships with women. Might as well get started yesterday. :)

Normal. Truth is, It changes all the time. But less and less after 30.

That's one of the reasons the divorce rate is 50%. When things change and expectations change people freak out. Relax.

Even the ones we love may look different to us one day. You are simply growing up. Make sure you put yourself out there though - or you will be a bitter, single guy who idealizes women and wants a playboy playmate with a harvard education and a love of ESPN and giving full body massages after she cooks you dinner every night. Hint: There is NO perfect woman. Only a woman who has the character to be dependable and your best friend... and yes, enjoys intimacy with you.

Get out there and see what you like next.

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Well when you find the right girl, she will be one lucky lady!!!
haha I hope so! :)



Even the ones we love may look different to us one day. You are simply growing up. Make sure you put yourself out there though - or you will be a bitter, single guy who idealizes women and wants a playboy playmate with a harvard education and a love of ESPN and giving full body massages after she cooks you dinner every night. Hint: There is NO perfect woman. Only a woman who has the character to be dependable and your best friend...and yes, enjoys intimacy with you.
Well, I wouldn't say no to that lol. I wonder if I idealize women too much? How do I know? I don't want to find a perfect woman - that would be a much less interesting life with everything 'perfect'.

Yeah, beautiful, intelligent, caring, amazing girl - too much to expect? More modest than that sounds though. For example beautiful = real woman, no playboy playmate - too false.

Sounds to me like you are making the jump from immature adolescent boy to a mature man. Men have control of their bodies... (well, most of us anyway) where-as young boys don't. You see the potiential of a woman as a life partner now rather than just as a sperm receptical.

Oh trust me when you find that right woman the sex drive will be strong as it ewver was, and thus any appeal of one night stands will go away as all those are about is sex... plain and simple.