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noangel
Feb 8, 2006, 09:00 AM
Hi... I am new to this site. I wonder if someone clairvoyant can answer this. I think my boyfriend is cheating on me. I wanted to leave him, but I guess I'm still holding on so that I don't feel lonely. We've been together for only a year. I had a bad break up before I met him (3 years ago), and I don't want to go through that period of loneliness anymore. Sometimes I thought that I was just jumping on my own conclusions, but sometimes I thought that I may be right. Can someone help me on this? Thanks.

lilfyre
Feb 8, 2006, 09:06 AM
I am not a clairvoyant, but I can tell you that most of the time when you think they are, they are. If you are hanging on because you do not want to be lonely than you are already lonely. Live is to short, to hang around when thing are going south.

JoeCanada76
Feb 8, 2006, 09:11 AM
That is the wrong reason to stay with somebody just because you are afraid to be lonely. I think if you have questions, why are you not asking? How do you truly know for sure, or why are you questioning it? Face up to it and let this person know how you feel and get it out in the open. Does not mean it will be easy.

Joe

Fr_Chuck
Feb 8, 2006, 01:50 PM
I never head any of the "magic" words. Love, cheating, missing.

It appears you want to be or stay with anyone or someone just so you are not loney. I would suggest ( very seriously) that you get professional help to be happy with yourself.

Next get invloved in some activities so you are not loney but just alone.

Until you know who you really are and can live on your own, you will never be happy with someone and easiy to control with fear of leaving.

If you do't love him, don't live with him, And don't move in with someone else, IE get a dog or a cat if you have to have someone in the hosue with you. ( I am a cat person personally(

DJ 'H'
Feb 8, 2006, 02:31 PM
Trust me, having been there, you get to know that your instincts are always correct. If you have suspisions then you can more than guarantee your partner is playing away. I would drop him and tell him to take a hike. Also don't listen or give into his petty excuses (he will make

Don't settle for that. Get back out there on the market and find a man who truly deserves you and will treat you with the respect you deserve. Put yourself first.

Goodluck xx

Zipper
Feb 11, 2006, 07:06 PM
Noangel, Fr. Chuck has it right (Heh, and me an atheist! ) you are hanging on to this guy for all the wrong reasons, you need to confront him with your suspicions, but you may not like his answers, relationships are built on love and trust - all you seem to have is need.