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blacksinz
Mar 31, 2008, 01:46 AM
Hi. Well I hope some one can help me. Well I like this girl but she's 2 years older. Well I have been friend with her for nearly a year but for the first 5 monthes we never reli talked. About 4 monthes ago I started to talk to her a lot. Can say that we became good friends. But when I told her I like her she acts like I never said it at all. At first I start messaging her a lot. And when I din SMS her she would ask if everythings OK or did she do anything to make me angry. But lately I SMS her she's acts like she doesn't reli wan to talk to me. I know there was 1 guy she liked but he ended up hurting her. And now she has kind of a fear to like guys. Does she like me? I honestly like her a lot cause so far she's the only one I can talk to about everything. She's reli special to me. Please help.:(

jolienoire
Mar 31, 2008, 07:45 AM
Okay the only person that knows would be her, however, she is talking to you,, and is a friend to you. Perhaps, She may like you as a friend only. Enjoy the friendship that you have with her, and maybe it can blossom, but if you take your friendship to a new level it could ruin a friendship and make it uncomfortable for both parties, so enjoy having her as a friend, as someone to talk to because by her actions, it seems that is what she would prefer right now a friend.

blacksinz
Mar 31, 2008, 08:08 AM
Year I guess yours right. Thanks for the advice. I like her a lot but I also like being friends with her. She's jz reli amazing to me. Well if it makes her happy I'll always be her best friend. Thanks again :)

sadblue
Mar 31, 2008, 01:57 PM
hi. Well I hope some one can help me. Well I like this girl but she's 2 years older. Well i have been friend with her for nearly a year but for the first 5 monthes we never reli talked. About 4 monthes ago I started to talk to her alot. Can say that we became good friends. But when I told her I like her she acts like I never said it at all. At first I start messaging her alot. And when I din SMS her she would ask if everythings ok or did she do anything to make me angry. But lately I SMS her she's acts like she doesnt reli wan to talk to me. I know there was 1 guy she liked but he ended up hurting her. And now she has kinda a fear to like guys. Does she like me? I honestly like her alot cause so far shes the only one I can talk to about everything. She's reli special to me. Please help.:(
blacksinz I agree with jolienoire she does need a friend right now try not to let her know your feelings right now it does suck but it will be worth it at the end when she notice that she's always had a great guy right by her side it will take a while good luck

blacksinz
Apr 1, 2008, 01:01 AM
Yeah your both rite. But now she's like ignoring me. I SMSed her to ask how was her exam. I waited for her reply but never got it. Sigh confused now...

blacksinz
Apr 1, 2008, 06:03 AM
If any of u were in her position. Do u think she might like me?

PsYcHoSiS
Apr 1, 2008, 06:31 AM
Well like Jolienoire said, she needs a friend now. Perhaps she hasn't gotten the text, for what ever reason(s). I'm currently in a tussle myself, At around Christmas time of last year I admitted to one of my best friends that I had feelings for her and that I would like to take our relationship to the next level, she said she felt the same. So we started dating, all went well for the first few weeks until my paranoia started to spark up. I started to feel like she was still in love with my best friend ( Who she liked prior to this, for about a year and a half =/) So I confronted her about it one day( after I couldn't handle my paranoia anymore) And she stated that she "Loves" me.. She just seems to want to pay more attention to him then she does to me, on most occasions they speak more then we do and often she walks right past me during school hours without even offering a simple gesture.( Whilst walking with him) I know the information I have given is slightly vague and I'm also sorry for hijacking your thread, this is just really bothering me. Any advice would be appreciated, or any thoughts would also be appreciated..

jolienoire
Apr 1, 2008, 07:05 AM
. Any advice would be appreciated, or any thoughts would also be appreciated..


Hey start your own thread, You will get more responses.. I will respond once you give your whole story in your own thread.. Thanks

blacksinz
Apr 1, 2008, 07:39 AM
Hey PsYcHoSiS. Well in my opinion if she reli does love u then just trust her. I've been there too. Trust me u don't want to get things mixed up. Maybe she has personal problems. Try talking it out with her at a café I something. Cause the last thing u need is to lose someone u reli care for. P/s:no prob lolz. Well both of us having love problems. Just chill k?

blacksinz
Apr 1, 2008, 07:42 AM
Do u think I should continue liking her or just start thinking of her as my friend? Honestly she's the only 1 I told nearly all
My secrets. Sigh

jolienoire
Apr 1, 2008, 09:16 AM
Do u think I should continue liking her or just start thinking of her as my friend? Honestly she's the only 1 I told nearly all
my secrets. Sigh


Keep her as a friend, she is everything you probably want in a girl therefore your attraction is becoming stronger you feel that she knows and understand you, but that's because you confide in her as a friend, it would have been a diff scenario if you told her from day one your true feelings, but you accepted the friendship try to keep it. In reality it's almost never a good Idea to date a friend.. it will never be the same.. Just enjoy your friendship, and be there for her..

Uruha
Apr 1, 2008, 02:40 PM
hi. Well I hope some one can help me. Well I like this girl but she's 2 years older. Well i have been friend with her for nearly a year but for the first 5 monthes we never reli talked. About 4 monthes ago I started to talk to her alot. Can say that we became good friends. But when I told her I like her she acts like I never said it at all. At first I start messaging her alot. And when I din SMS her she would ask if everythings ok or did she do anything to make me angry. But lately I SMS her she's acts like she doesnt reli wan to talk to me. I know there was 1 guy she liked but he ended up hurting her. And now she has kinda a fear to like guys. Does she like me? I honestly like her alot cause so far shes the only one I can talk to about everything. She's reli special to me. Please help.:(

I know what that feels like, last year, I liked this guy, I called him weird boy, but he understood. I told him I liked him and he completely shut me out, I started talking to him again, but he acted like I never told him, then he shut me out of his life again. I still don't know if he liked me or not, but I just moved on. It worked out for me and I'm glad I did

blacksinz
Apr 1, 2008, 10:29 PM
K thanks but what should I do if she keeps avoiding me?

KD33
Apr 1, 2008, 10:57 PM
I think she probably does, she's probably just afraid because she doesen't want to get hurt again... Or maybe she needs a break from guys and just wants guy friends for now. The reason she acts like she doesen't want to talk about it is cause she thinks that if she shares something as strong as a relationship with you and someone else comes alone and she gets attracted then she'll hurt you and things won't be the same again. It's rare that something like that ever does heal over and when it does it's never done properly. Maybe she alread likes another guy and she just doesen't want to hurt you.. Maybe she just wants to have a friend to be with for now. And she also has to notice that she can't avoid the fact forever, and she'll need to face you sooner or later also. Keep trying to talk to her but she's going to have to figure out that she's hurting you by pushing you away when she does that. I don't know if that will work but I'd try it if I were you... I mean well what much else could you do?

KD33
Apr 1, 2008, 10:59 PM
Well you could try staying her friend for now and when she gets to know you even more and she knows you better she'll start to like that real you and then you'd prettymuch have it made. But that doesent always happen.

blacksinz
Apr 2, 2008, 04:40 AM
I got another problem now. I got 1 friend who is younger then me by 1 year. She told me she likes me. But I think I like her more like a friend. Wat should I do?

monique_minx
Apr 2, 2008, 08:29 AM
Your young friend seems to be in the same position as you are mate, you like the older girl? The young one likes you! Lol! I liked my best friend Bradin a while back, we were in grade 11 When I started liking him and then I decided after a whole year to tell him, he told me he didn't feel the same and just wanted me as a friend then a year after that he told me he liked me a lot and didn't want to tell me because he was afraid that I wouldn't like him back, he also said that he didn't want to tell me because he was going away for six months shortly after he told me, I knew this but we started going out anyway. So just give it some time, if you really do like her then things will work themselves out, just stay her friend for now.

blacksinz
Apr 2, 2008, 08:33 AM
Your young friend seems to be in the same position as you are mate, you like the older girl? The young one likes you! Lol! I liked my best friend Bradin a while back, we were in grade 11 When I started liking him and then I decided after a whole year to tell him, he told me he didn't feel the same and just wanted me as a friend then a year after that he told me he liked me a lot and didn't want to tell me because he was afraid that I wouldn't like him back, he also said that he didn't want to tell me because he was going away for six months shortly after he told me, I knew this but we started going out anyway. So just give it some time, if you really do like her then things will work themselves out, just stay her friend for now.
U reli think everything might work out fine?

redamon
Apr 2, 2008, 06:16 PM
hi. Well I hope some one can help me. Well I like this girl but she's 2 years older. Well i have been friend with her for nearly a year but for the first 5 monthes we never reli talked. About 4 monthes ago I started to talk to her alot. Can say that we became good friends. But when I told her I like her she acts like I never said it at all. At first I start messaging her alot. And when I din SMS her she would ask if everythings ok or did she do anything to make me angry. But lately I SMS her she's acts like she doesnt reli wan to talk to me. I know there was 1 guy she liked but he ended up hurting her. And now she has kinda a fear to like guys. Does she like me? I honestly like her alot cause so far shes the only one I can talk to about everything. She's reli special to me. Please help.:(
I think you should leave her alone for a while and in about 2 weeks start back as friends

redamon
Apr 2, 2008, 06:17 PM
hi. Well I hope some one can help me. Well I like this girl but she's 2 years older. Well i have been friend with her for nearly a year but for the first 5 monthes we never reli talked. About 4 monthes ago I started to talk to her alot. Can say that we became good friends. But when I told her I like her she acts like I never said it at all. At first I start messaging her alot. And when I din SMS her she would ask if everythings ok or did she do anything to make me angry. But lately I SMS her she's acts like she doesnt reli wan to talk to me. I know there was 1 guy she liked but he ended up hurting her. And now she has kinda a fear to like guys. Does she like me? I honestly like her alot cause so far shes the only one I can talk to about everything. She's reli special to me. Please help.:(
I think you should leave her alone for a while and in about 2 weeks start back as friends

monique_minx
Apr 5, 2008, 06:40 AM
Yer things like that just tend to work themselves out so as long as you don't push her she will end up coming to you. All good things come to those who wait, you may have to wait a while but trust me it's worth it in the end. You'll grow on her just as she has on you, she'll get to really like your company and most likely she'll end up wanting to be more than just friends with you simply because you are such a good friend!

blacksinz
Apr 5, 2008, 10:26 AM
Thanks for all the help everyone. But now I SMS her she don't reply feel like drifting apart with her. Do u all still think it will work out?

talaniman
Apr 5, 2008, 10:58 AM
I think you must respect her boundaries she has set, and back off her, as she DOES realize what you feel for her, but doesn't want what you want. So stop focusing all your attentions on her, and broaden your circle of friends, or you run the risk of not seeing the true value of others in your life, and causing a big imbalance that is not healthy, nor wanted. That would be a shame. Sorry, but its important to put things in there perspective, and accept your pushing her away as a friend. Back off.

Lynz456
Apr 5, 2008, 08:32 PM
Well I'm in sort of a similar situation. Like one of my guy friends said he liked me and I sort of liked him. But now I just want to be friends.
You may just need to give her some time. If time doesn't work then friendship is the best. Being friends is better anyway. You will always be there for each other if you are friends rather than getting into a relationship and making things awkward or complicated.
In the end, things will end up the way they're supposed to be so don't fret too much :)

monique_minx
Apr 6, 2008, 12:10 AM
Yer don't get paranoid if she doesn't txt you back, she might not have credit or she could be busy. The most important thing is not to crowd her either, she needs space so slow it down a bit mate and you'll do fine.

blacksinz
Apr 6, 2008, 07:03 AM
Thanks all =) well got to agree if she end up not liking me the same way then I'll still be happy just being friends with her.

blacksinz
Apr 7, 2008, 06:13 AM
Well been a week I din SMS or look for her. Kind of sad when see her at school. Surrounded by guys. Maybe I should give up liking her. She's like 2 years older. Mayybe Im just not good enough. What do u think?