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sumit84
Mar 29, 2008, 05:12 AM
Hi there!
I broke up with my ex girlfriend about 5 months ago as in earlier posts I mentioned that I did every mistake and after your advices I stopped contacting her for about 2.5 months! And after that also she didn't contact me but she was specially coming to my living place so that I can see her! And I called her as I couldn't stop myself! After that I was talking to her once a week or twice a week and she asked me do I have still hope then I said yes ! She told don't hurt yourself! And I was admitted to hospital and she came to hospital to visit me and brought all things which I like! SHE IS NOT IN RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHER BOY! She told that she will not have any boyfriend for 1-2 yra at least! And she needs time to forget me! But she told that we can't be together becoz my behaviour was not good and we have some culture problems too! But she likes to talk with me! We met 1st time after break up in hospital only I asked her out for coffee she refused!she told that she is busy may be next week or some other time! Then I didn't ask her after that!
I want to ask- SHOULD I GO TO MEET HER IN HER HOME OR AFTER SHE FINISH WORK TO SAY ALL THINGS THAT I Can't LIVE WITHOUT HER! AND I DID SOME MISTAKES WHICH I WILL NEVER REPEAT THEM IN FUTURE!
I shall appreciate your replies!
Thanks!

Gregisteredtrademark
Mar 29, 2008, 05:33 AM
Now I don't know the previous story, but based on what you have said here... it's over. You need to come to grip with reality and understand that she has very clearly told you that she does not want a relationship with you. You don't want to face the facts that are clearly in front of you. You must move on with your life and let her go. You can live without her, will it hurt, sure. Will you be sad, sure. But in time you will meet someone who actually wants to be with you and you will be happy. Just remember that there is more to life than a girl and please don't do anything to cause harm to yourself or others. You said you listened to our advice last time, so please listen to it again. Good luck and keep your chin up!

sumit84
Mar 29, 2008, 06:46 AM
Hi there!
I broke up with my ex girlfriend about 5 months ago as in earlier posts I mentioned that I did every mistake and after your advices I stopped contacting her for about 2.5 months! And after that also she didn't contact me but she was specially coming to my living place so that I can see her! And I called her as I couldn't stop myself! After that I was talking to her once a week or twice a week and she asked me do I have still hope then I said yes ! She told don't hurt yourself! And I was admitted to hospital and she came to hospital to visit me and brought all things which I like! SHE IS NOT IN RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHER BOY! She told that she will not have any boyfriend for 1-2 yra at least! And she needs time to forget me! But she told that we can't be together becoz my behaviour was not good and we have some culture problems too! But she likes to talk with me! We met 1st time after break up in hospital only I asked her out for coffee she refused!she told that she is busy may be next week or some other time! Then I didn't ask her after that!
I want to ask- SHOULD I GO TO MEET HER IN HER HOME OR AFTER SHE FINISH WORK TO SAY ALL THINGS THAT I Can't LIVE WITHOUT HER! AND I DID SOME MISTAKES WHICH I WILL NEVER REPEAT THEM IN FUTURE!
I shall appreciate your replies!
Thanks!

talaniman
Mar 29, 2008, 07:14 AM
I had to reread your other post, that were mostly duplicates of themselves, and can't help but notice that she baits you and you react. She is keeping you around in the friend zone, because your so willing to get her back, you will settle for whatever attention from her that you can get. No, this will never end the way you want and when a good strong man comes along she will no longer be available to even give you crumbs. Until you recognize this dynamic, and man up and seek your own path, without her, you will be destined to be her pet friend, and she will have a life without you.

N0help4u
Mar 29, 2008, 08:22 AM
As long as you come off like you can not get over her and can not accept only talking to her she is going to back off. So I think your only chance is to communicate with her at the level she is okay with. Don't push her for anything more. Maybe eventually she will feel okay with going for a cup of coffee but for now she feels like you are just trying to get back into a relationship.
Do not go to her house or her work. It will only cause resentment and major set backs.