I want to know why I am feeling like this! I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years... we have a beautiful daughter together. I love him with all my heart and cannot picture myself ever leaving him and I wouldn't want to start over because it is hard to find a good man which he definitely is... BUT... lately I feel like I have a crush on someone I work with and I think about it all the time. He is with someone as well but he has cheated on her. So it is not like I would want to leave my man to be with him because if he does it to her he would do it to me. But I feel like I should tell him I have a crush on him. I don't know why I feel like this I love my man! I know when I was younger (and single) I would get crushes like this and pursue the guy and then once I'd get him I wouldn't want to be with him! It was crazy it was like some sort of habit or game I guess you could call it that and I don't know why I was like that. But can anyone give me any advice or comments. Should I tell him I have a crush on him or keep it to myself? I feel if I tell him I will get this weight off my shoulder. Please help!

Don't tell him anything, your just window shopping, imagine he is a piece of jewelry that you can't afford It's out of your price range, it looks good from the window, but you know it could risk causing you to be in debt.


The same analogy is to used in this instance, as far as your instincts.. If you love your man, don't ruin that for someone you have a "crush" on..

Everyone is tempted. What defines us is what we do with that temptation.

Say nothing to him. We can't always control our feelings for others, but we can control what we do with those feelings. Besides why take the chance of losing what you have, for an itch. DUH! Stay within the boundaries, and you won't have to deal with guilt and shame, or loneliness.

If you really love your boyfriend and want to avoid getting into adventures I would advise you don't tell him anything. Are you sure you only want to tell him to get the weight off your shoulders? Is it maybe that you are curious to find out whether he feels the same way?