Hi, I am Living with a man for about 5 months. I got divorced about 10 months ago. My ex and I remain very close friends ( non-sexual). He has planned a trip for 2 weeks out of the country and I want to join him.

1. I want to go irrespective if my ex went.
2. My ex would go irrespective if I went.

Do you think it would be a bad idea??

Do you think it would ruin my relationship with my present boyfriend.

I know it's selfish but I need the vacation and my ex and I always have a good time together.:confused:

Depends. What is your commitment to the man you are living with? Sounds like it is a committed relationship. If it is, going away for two weeks with another man can't help the relationship.

If you want to go whether your ex goes or not, go by yourself or get the man you are living with to go with you.

If you and your ex are such great friends and enjoy each other's company so much that you want to take this trip together, why is he your ex? If my husband took to hanging out with his ex wife in the mall, let alone planned a trip with her, I would feel betrayed.

Not a good idea to go away for a 2 week vacation. Why not save up your money and go on a vacation with your new man? Sounds like you and your ex still have not cut the cord. Being friends is one thing, taking 2 week vacations together is another thing.

Take the new boyfriend with you? Of course it would ruin any normal boyfriend relastionship. So go on the trip by yourself, or with the new boyfiriend.

I couldn't even begin to imagine what I would go through night and day for two weeks wondering what is my significant other up to with the ex right about now?? Hmmm

I agree with Fr_Chuck take your new guy with you.

Do you think it would ruin my relationship with my present boyfriend.


Have a good time, and be ready to get a new boyfriend, when you get back.

How would you feel if your boyfriend went on vacation with another female? Not to mention an ex, someone he felt something with at one time? If you care for you current boyfriend, which I question, I would suggest not going!