Marriedguy
Mar 23, 2008, 04:54 PM
After reading several post on dating and I decided to post a guide to dating. My ideas and opinions are based on life experiences and books that I have read on the subject.
The first step in taking the leap in to the dating pool is “Know who you are.”
I read once that there are three images of yourself. One image is person “you really are”. The second image, what “you think you are” and last one was what “other people saw you as.”
Anyway, it’s my belief that the “real you” really is a combination of last two.
Take your time, be honest about it and analyze and figure it out. Time after time on these dating sites you find profiles that are misleading. Not because people get on there to intentional lie (I know some do) because the user describes what they would like themselves to be but not who they really are. The same holds true when speaking to someone about themselves.
The true you does change, so this process will repeat itself thorough your life time. Re-defining yourself.
Now, that’s your mind is right let’s work on the physically.
Your physically image is important but remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I’m not going to tell you to hit the gym, get a make over or whatever. You want to improve your image do this because this is something that you want to do for yourself and not get some man or woman. Work what you got, and keep it the best condition. If you meet two people that where identical in body type and looks. The only different is one doesn’t keep there teeth clean which one are you going to choose?
So you keep yourself nice & clean, you know who you are. This is what you have to offer!
The hard part is realistically describing your Mr. /Ms Right. What are qualities you want in this person? Write them down, this list will be revisited as it may change because you may change. List them in a highest priority to the lowest. Don’t get relationship with someone that doesn’t have the qualities are on the top of the list, and think hey I can change this person. This plan will mostly backfire and you will end up real hurt and disappointed.
Also here is another thing, I’m alluding to question on AMHD “would you date someone that your were not physically attracted to but that person had a nice personality?” The answer depends on how high on the list physical attraction is for you. Me personally I would say no why date someone settle when you can find someone that you are attracted to and has a great personality. This person is out there but harder to find.
This is one of the factors why people are cheating on each other. They get into relationship with a person because it is emotionally convenient and then someone comes along that they are attracted to and the cheating begins. I love her/him but the romantic is gone, or I love him/her but we are more like friends now.
I’m going leave room from users to post comments and add to this list.
To be continued….
The first step in taking the leap in to the dating pool is “Know who you are.”
I read once that there are three images of yourself. One image is person “you really are”. The second image, what “you think you are” and last one was what “other people saw you as.”
Anyway, it’s my belief that the “real you” really is a combination of last two.
Take your time, be honest about it and analyze and figure it out. Time after time on these dating sites you find profiles that are misleading. Not because people get on there to intentional lie (I know some do) because the user describes what they would like themselves to be but not who they really are. The same holds true when speaking to someone about themselves.
The true you does change, so this process will repeat itself thorough your life time. Re-defining yourself.
Now, that’s your mind is right let’s work on the physically.
Your physically image is important but remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I’m not going to tell you to hit the gym, get a make over or whatever. You want to improve your image do this because this is something that you want to do for yourself and not get some man or woman. Work what you got, and keep it the best condition. If you meet two people that where identical in body type and looks. The only different is one doesn’t keep there teeth clean which one are you going to choose?
So you keep yourself nice & clean, you know who you are. This is what you have to offer!
The hard part is realistically describing your Mr. /Ms Right. What are qualities you want in this person? Write them down, this list will be revisited as it may change because you may change. List them in a highest priority to the lowest. Don’t get relationship with someone that doesn’t have the qualities are on the top of the list, and think hey I can change this person. This plan will mostly backfire and you will end up real hurt and disappointed.
Also here is another thing, I’m alluding to question on AMHD “would you date someone that your were not physically attracted to but that person had a nice personality?” The answer depends on how high on the list physical attraction is for you. Me personally I would say no why date someone settle when you can find someone that you are attracted to and has a great personality. This person is out there but harder to find.
This is one of the factors why people are cheating on each other. They get into relationship with a person because it is emotionally convenient and then someone comes along that they are attracted to and the cheating begins. I love her/him but the romantic is gone, or I love him/her but we are more like friends now.
I’m going leave room from users to post comments and add to this list.
To be continued….