SGMWEST
Mar 22, 2008, 04:03 PM
Recently got divorced about 8 months ago. Im the one that choose to leave the marriage of 17 years. Was very pained but no longer in love with this man.I have 2 girls with him and honestly we have been apart for 4 years. You might ask why I just divorced him but he was very controlling. I finally meet this man and same goes for him he was apart from his ex for a couple of years and we finally decided after 6 months of seeing this new man.. we both wanted to divorce and move forward with this relationship and it be normal. I fell in love with him and I felt he was in love with me and said he no matter what he wants to be with me and move forward together. He also has to 2 kids. Well,its been a year and 3 months and we have had issues with the ex's. They decided to cause trouble and I got a protective order on my ex so that he would leave us alone but his ex never got that and the second we came out with our relationship .she has wanted him back and has done everything under the sun. I fussed at him to handle her but he seem to never just get nasty with her. I feel as if he choose to always pain me not her. Ex left him and cheated on him 3 years ago.. he waited for a year for her and then met me and said he could never go back. I tried to believe him but she always seem to get under my skin and I couldn't ignore her as everyone told me to.. I drove him crazy. 2 weeks ago, I went to his house and relationship was pretty normal and I started talking about commitment and he changed into another person. I asked him if it was because of his ex. He said no.
He ran.. he said in an hour that he wasn't in love with me and he needed to be alone. We
Had a wonderful week and he said he was going to address his ex and fix this between us and he went to a counselor and they said remind the ex everyday that he didn't want her and he said he would but he didn't.. he just avoided her and said that he couldn't live without me.I realize it was my issue to not let her get to me but he never seem to want to draw a line with her and he said it was because he didn't want to hurt his kids.. she did enough hurting the for the both of them.
Imjust curious.. im in so much pain after 2 weeks without him, is he running from commitment or is he running because his ex finally after 3 years said she was sorry that week before . So lost and confused and because we fussed about her.. I know it was old but he was so connected to me. I can't seem to move forward and I wanted to know if you think its about her or just not wanting the commitment. The breakup that night wasn't planned because he had plans for us so, I know it wasn't that. Guess because we were fine the first part of the night and the night before he said he was hooked me and couldn't imagine being without me...
I thought after he said he would talk her and that issue would be gone but we never made it to that next day. I know I have to move forward but the way he just dropped us... I don't understand. Can
It be her or is it he is tried of the fussing and sees no hope and the commitment is scary?
He ran.. he said in an hour that he wasn't in love with me and he needed to be alone. We
Had a wonderful week and he said he was going to address his ex and fix this between us and he went to a counselor and they said remind the ex everyday that he didn't want her and he said he would but he didn't.. he just avoided her and said that he couldn't live without me.I realize it was my issue to not let her get to me but he never seem to want to draw a line with her and he said it was because he didn't want to hurt his kids.. she did enough hurting the for the both of them.
Imjust curious.. im in so much pain after 2 weeks without him, is he running from commitment or is he running because his ex finally after 3 years said she was sorry that week before . So lost and confused and because we fussed about her.. I know it was old but he was so connected to me. I can't seem to move forward and I wanted to know if you think its about her or just not wanting the commitment. The breakup that night wasn't planned because he had plans for us so, I know it wasn't that. Guess because we were fine the first part of the night and the night before he said he was hooked me and couldn't imagine being without me...
I thought after he said he would talk her and that issue would be gone but we never made it to that next day. I know I have to move forward but the way he just dropped us... I don't understand. Can
It be her or is it he is tried of the fussing and sees no hope and the commitment is scary?